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Allo!? Some of us are not in relationships!!! Drop the sex thing! We can all xxxxxxxxxx without your advice. We are talking about real life stress here. Nune needs a way to relax, as we all do I believe. (not to be taken harshly)
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OK.....drugs then....
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Rock and roll?
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Winston, maybe you should post a picture so that we can see what a winoman-type lifestyle leads to.
Plenipotentiary meow!Comment
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That's not Rasputin.Originally posted by bell-the-catWinston, maybe you should post a picture so that we can see what a winoman-type lifestyle leads to.
That is Rasputin.Comment
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I did my senior year career development class thesis paper on the subject of 20-somethings and the emergence of what is being called the quarter-life crisis. When I was thinking of what to write about for my paper there was a time when all I could think of was 'It sucks.' Really, going through this stuff sucks, it sucks when you're the person going through it, it sucks being with someone who is going through it, it sucks, plain and simple. It's nice to know you're not the only one going through it.Originally posted by nunechkaSo i think i am definetly going through a quarter life crisis... ARGGGG!
i was reading up on it since i thought there might be some information i could use... and i found out that YES! in fact i am suffering from this... usually its from starting your career too soon and being in the middle of going up the company ladder, etc... and all of sudden you realize you are too young to be there because everyone else is 30 years older then you. so i started to panic... i dont know if its good or bad... i dont know when i'll get married or if i will have children... it seems as though i should've waited and had more fun before i ventured into this...
AND i totally envy those that have the ability to go on vacations, go to movies on the weekend, etc... beacuse i cant i have deadlines, bosses, executive lunches, a s s kissing, budgeting, planning, talking, presenting, analyzing, preparing, dressing up, dressing down, flying to another state "just to be nice", pushing people to finish their work so you can finish yours, being bossy (although i like that), being bosses around (HATE IT!), have back pain from sitting in front of the computer too long, etc... my head HURTS!
What do you think? do you think you are lucky that you have time to be young?
my biological age is 24 my mental age at work is 45 and my mental age with friends is 12... you see how it can f*ck with you...
This is a time when you start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you'll be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and people you have lost touch with might have been some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing things about themselves too, and they aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, they are just as confused as you are.
If you have one, you look at your job... and it may not even be close to what you thought you would be doing. Or, maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.
One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused no matter how many friends or loved ones you are surrounded by. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling to the past with dear life, but realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One-night-stands or random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself...and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone relates to this, other people feel what you're feeling right now. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. "Bend, but don't break..." That's the best lesson I learned when I was doing my research project and living it. It's a good lesson for life too. You'll live through it.
Before you start sounding any more like 24 going on 50 I suggest you take a break, a vacation. Take stock of the work situation and if it's not working for you, if you feel this stressed and frazzled then take it as a sign that you need to get out now and find something that, stressful as it might be at times, you love to do. Or else you'll be another burned out worker doing what they are doing because they have been doing it for so long they don't know anything else and can't leave their career because it is too late given that they now have new responsibilities like family, kids, and bills...
Last edited by ckBejug; 05-16-2005, 10:37 AM.The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. -- F. Scott FitzgeraldComment
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i definitely enjoy what i am doing at work... i consider myself lucky at times and at times i consider the institution as lucky for having me...
as usual i totally agree with armobarbi - i do need to relax... but it isnt as easy as it sounds... i am too busy to stop now... lol! but i will be starting up my usual pampering period as soon as i finish this class i am taking...
and bejuk you are right about the whole - how one feels in these situations- thing... it was really hard to admit to it, beacuse i thought I AM HAPPY! to be in my position... and i still am happy but now i know at least what is going on... and now that i know, i feel that it is best to use and manipulate my current position for the best (as loseyourname put it best - the earily retirement sounds good)...
and about the (one night stands, drinking and acting like an idiot, or even the constant same topic discussions) - you hit the nail on the head on this one... its weird but like i said on another post - wanting to get laid has gone to the back burner (its even turned off for now)... and drinking - well there is no time to drink and run around town... (i wish i could it sounds fun at any age)... and of course the strangeness of the same issues being discussed as if we didnt get enough of that last night made me think that my friends and i were nuts... but we are not - rather we are all going through something similar...
i am in the process of planning a get away from this place vacation and read as many books as i can vacation... again it easy to say - hey take a vacation or something - but it is not was when you have so much responsiblity you are carrying on your shoulders... and thats what scares me sometimes - i think "they trust me with this? HOLY SH!T, amazing..."
isnt it strange that we are going through this and yet people all over the world consider people like you [bejuk] and I as lucky people?Comment
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Basically since I find you boring, I did not read this.Originally posted by nunechkaAchkerov kute.Comment
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Originally posted by Anonymouse
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