Soul Mates?

[omniscient]

So many of us look for love, wanting our absolute soulmate.

Some go from relationship to relationship searching endlessly.
But how do we really know who our soul mate is?, how long do we need to know this person before it hits us in the face and you think "this is it, this is my true love"? Does this person have everything in common or just several things, and why is this person so hard to find for so many?

Is it physical appearance that attracts us to this person, their morals, their whole outlook on everything in life or is it a combination of everything?

I have my own views on this which I will reveal later, but i want you guys to give your opinions on this subject.

[violette829]

Soulmates is just a term used to describe a couple who are basically on the same level. If i met someone who wants almost the same things i want in life, who I have things in common with, and who is willing to share his life with me, then yea I would tell myself that this is my soulmate. I think people who are friends first become soulmates because when u build a bond with someone, it's hard not to fall for eachother (opposite sex). I have a lot of male friends, and with one of them, i actually tried the whole dating thing, but it didn't work because we were so different. I don't even consider us as friends anymore. But, that doesn't mean that I can't find someone else who will share my outlook on life. Physical attraction is a must. I have noticed, and not to be mean, but I have chosen a reallllly good looking group of friends. I think we tend to want to be around people who are pleasing to our eye. Anywho, back to the whole soulmate thing...I don't think that there is only 1 person out there for everyone...it's more of finding the 1 who fits u best. Dating is the only way one can do that. U have to test the waters first, or else u'll just end up getting a cramp in ur leg and drowning.......nice analogy? probably not, but hey, i said what i said and that's all i'm gonna say...............


This post looks like a bunch of jibber jabber.....

[jahannam]

Re: Soul Mates?

Originally posted by omniscient
But how do we really know who our soul mate is?, how long do we need to know this person before it hits us in the face and you think "this is it, this is my true love"? Does this person have everything in common or just several things, and why is this person so hard to find for so many?

If we had answers to those questions, love wouldn't have the value it has.
It wouldn't be hard to attain.
you see,
when you fall in love with someone, you just know.
If you're questioning whether or not it's love, then it's not.

and for those of you who are actually "looking" for love, don't.
people don't FIND love. Love comes to them whenever it's the right time. Just ask anyone who's in love. They'll most likely tell you "looking for a serious relationship" was the last thing on their minds when they met.
of course, exceptions are always there!

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

Well its very hard to find your "soulmate" but what if you are the soulmate for someone else, and ur not sure if he is yours?
now thats the Question which bugs me these last week

[Arvestaked]

Originally posted by fIReBuRntInHeLL Well its very hard to find your "soulmate" but what if you are the soulmate for someone else, and ur not sure if he is yours?

Until about a month and a half ago, I could not imagine someone keeping me happy for the rest of my life; someone who would mean so much that I would not care to sexually wander. Then I met her. And she could not care any less.

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

Its not that I dont care, but Im not sure if he is the one for me!

[jahannam]

then she's not your soulmate.
then your soulmate is someone with HER kinda qualities, with one difference.
who feels the same way!

[fstkhnan]

I think the more you look for love, your chances in finding one decrease, cuz at one point you're going to give up....that's why the best "love stories" in books and movies always happen in coincidences!!! Of course those are just written stories, but they're also, related to the real world!

[fstkhnan]

also, the physical appearance, is only our first impression about someone, but an important one too....cuz it's the first!

[Arvestaked]

Originally posted by jahannam then she's not your soulmate.
then your soulmate is someone with HER kinda qualities, with one difference.
who feels the same way!

You can look at it that way. But I hurt because I want her to be.