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  • #11
    you hurt or you GET hurt?

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    • #12
      I'm surprised omniscient, you have been churning out A quality threads as of late, too bad I don't have popcorn with me otherwise I'd pop those bloody kernels and read this with a theatre like hypnosis. Very impressive as this is putting us on the road toward quality and quantity, not just simply quantity.

      As far as soul mates, or what I think should have been your topic "Love", its such a relative issue, and so subjective, varying from person to person, and that is what is unique about "love", is that it transcends all sorts of boundaries that we know, class, cultural, religious, racial, political, and if you notice all the above are based on collectiveness and man made, whereas "love" is an emotion which only the individual feels.

      There are many types of "love", love of family, love of friends, love of a hobby or art, love for a sport, etc., etc., but then there is that one specific type of love that simply defines you for it reflects you, and that is the love between two individuals bound together by whatever spark that their presence ignited and are willing to endure this or that blah blah. Of course it's so subjective that one can say that "love" is only the initial stage of that lubby dubby feeling one has about the other person, or one can say it's long lasting and lasts for who knows how long.

      Eventually it all fades, like everything else. I however don't believe in the concept of "soul mates". I used to, since it really is a transition or battle one has within between how one sees himself in the world, and how one sees the world. Either way, I think the "soul mate" label to me at least is non-existent. However I do believe there are certain individuals who form bonds with one another, and that comes from similarities not differences, on similar outlooks, basically simlar vibes and energies that connect. You can't "define" love, for it transcends the material world and hence one will never know whether one has "true love" or "soul mate" since those things cannot be quantified, but expressions of "love" are quantified in our everyday lives.

      It's a big complex thing, but basically, if you want to get into a "relationship" it is 4 syllables too long, and indicative of something chore-like. I use "relationship" to describe my dealings with fellow students or a boss, not someone I "love" but this is how our expressions of love are quantified. Eventually we quantify it in terms of a dozen red roses, a box of chocolates, a diamond ring. And of course, by implication, quantification of love leads to further degradation of love. 2 dozen roses means more love than one dozen. A diamond ring is a much more loving expression than roses or chocolates. And needless to say, the bigger the diamond the bigger the love. One can also quantify "love" in terms of penis size or tits or ass since quantification doesn't end in a material world.

      I guess what I am trying to say is during childhood when our mother watches us attentively, or shows care and thought, or holds our hand, simply smiles at us, our little eyes are filled with elation and we are sufficient for the moment. But as adults we learn to quantify these expressions of love. A dozen roses, a box of chocolates, or a diamond ring are all acceptable and valid. Yet an attentive look, a playful smile, or simply putting away the dishes without a second thought, are simply facts of life, not gestures of love. Exactly at what point did we lose our innocence? When did we start quantifying love? At what age did we lose sight of the value of the ordinary?

      In any event, personally, I wouldn't recommend marriages or long term committed relationships since you're only delaying the inevitable and asking for it, for sooner or later one of the two will quantify in a different way. I see every marriage around me and I simply can't see anything "lovely" about it, since both husband and wife are miserable from the expressions, tired of eating the same soup for 20 years. Just stick to more casual things such as casual dating, or friends with privelages, and if you do fall in "love", make sure you're the one that exits that relationship first before having the other person exit on you hehe.
      Achkerov kute.

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      • #13
        Originally posted by jahannem you hurt or you GET hurt?
        Yes I meant that I am getting hurt. "Hurt" in the intransitive sense.

        ....

        .....Denise

        ....God damn it....

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        • #14
          By any chance have you gotten Denise a box of chocolates?
          Achkerov kute.

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          • #15
            Unfortunately it is not that simple. For many reasons. A couple being she is 9 years older than I am and she no longer lives in this country.

            I did something better than chocolate though. I wrote a poem for her. Now, I know that sounds extremely corny but I assure you it is not. I do not do corny no matter what. Some of the best words I have ever written. I am going to try and get it published and I think I have a good chance. I do not think I will send it to her. And, again, that is for several reasons.

            I am probably just going to marinate in this feeling of loss for a few months....years....eh.

            !%#$&

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            • #16
              Wow a poem, and not a box of chocolates. Apparently you are the exception to the general rule of quantification.
              Achkerov kute.

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              • #17
                How so? I can not tell if you are being sarcastic.

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                • #18
                  I've always believed in that one person out there that is here especially for me and im here especially for him. But as time went by and i got my heart broken guy after guy after guy i stoped believing. i've cried lonely nights and i've wanted to just die everytime i wanted someone i couldnt have. I prayed and wished and dreamed about that day my soulmate will find me and take me away on a beautiful white horse. blah blah blah. Now, i think people just either get along or they dont, some seem to clik with their personalities and some dont some enjoy spending time with that person and some dont. i think its all about compromise if you learn to compromise it would be easier and as far as i go, thats my problem!!! i want a guy im attracted to someone i love to have sex with someone i like kissing someone who will sit by a firplace and read a book with me all night, someone that is as smart or even smarter than me (i love it when a man has intelect) someone who likes movies and not just the crapy movies im talking about the good ones, someone i want to take care of cook for and just be with and not have any reasons why or why not. and im not willing to compromise any of those, because i believe that type of man will never cheat one me he will never beat me nor control me and im so tired of that kind of relationship. I'm prepared to spend the rest of my life alone.

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                  • #19
                    Originally posted by Arvestaked How so? I can not tell if you are being sarcastic.
                    I was serious in a sarcastic way....


                    If that makes any sense.
                    Achkerov kute.

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                    • #20
                      Originally posted by SexyAries I've always believed in that one person out there that is here especially for me and im here especially for him. But as time went by and i got my heart broken guy after guy after guy i stoped believing. i've cried lonely nights and i've wanted to just die everytime i wanted someone i couldnt have. I prayed and wished and dreamed about that day my soulmate will find me and take me away on a beautiful white horse. blah blah blah. Now, i think people just either get along or they dont, some seem to clik with their personalities and some dont some enjoy spending time with that person and some dont. i think its all about compromise if you learn to compromise it would be easier and as far as i go, thats my problem!!! i want a guy im attracted to someone i love to have sex with someone i like kissing someone who will sit by a firplace and read a book with me all night, someone that is as smart or even smarter than me (i love it when a man has intelect) someone who likes movies and not just the crapy movies im talking about the good ones, someone i want to take care of cook for and just be with and not have any reasons why or why not. and im not willing to compromise any of those, because i believe that type of man will never cheat one me he will never beat me nor control me and im so tired of that kind of relationship. I'm prepared to spend the rest of my life alone.
                      Amen.

                      My problem is also refusing to compromise. If I see his flaws NOW, how the hell am I going to spend the rest of my life with him, right?

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