Signals

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by spiral I actually have not been rejected. (mainly cause I rarely find people attractive + my attraction is not based solely on appearance)

As for rejecting... I used to think it was fun seeing people's faces after being REJECTED!

then not so long ago I was at a concert, and I 'rejected' some guy, in the RUDEST way possible.-though, in the nicest tone possible. and I felt LOUSY afterwards.- I think I over did the rudeness. but it just blurted out.

so after that, I just give em my number if they ask for it, and then I ignore their calls till they stop calling after a month or so.

works well actually. Unless you see these people on a regular basis.

Then you're screwed.

I had to walk to my classes from the back of the school (through the parking lots) all semester to avoid someone.

moral of the story-

rude rejection is not nice- use the it's not you it's me line.

But I hate pushy people-they ask for it.

y cant u just reject them in a nice way, tell em u have a bf or something.... lol

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by spiral I actually have not been rejected. (mainly cause I rarely find people attractive + my attraction is not based solely on appearance)

As for rejecting... I used to think it was fun seeing people's faces after being REJECTED!

then not so long ago I was at a concert, and I 'rejected' some guy, in the RUDEST way possible.-though, in the nicest tone possible. and I felt LOUSY afterwards.- I think I over did the rudeness. but it just blurted out.

so after that, I just give em my number if they ask for it, and then I ignore their calls till they stop calling after a month or so.

works well actually. Unless you see these people on a regular basis.

Then you're screwed.

I had to walk to my classes from the back of the school (through the parking lots) all semester to avoid someone.

moral of the story-

rude rejection is not nice- use the it's not you it's me line.

But I hate pushy people-they ask for it.

How old are you? I hope you are in highschool.

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by surferarmo How old are you? I hope you are in highschool.

hahahahahaha......good one.....I hope so too, lol.

[spiral]

ha!

I'm 19

did I not just explain that I don't do that anymore????
lol


ya' live and you learn.

rejecting in a rude manner is very disrespectful!

amot!

unless, like I said, when people are pushy-u try being nice..but nnoo.

oh and fstkh,- I know saying that would be easier-but sometimes u blirt out, 'no'..and then you're stuck.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by fstkhnan hahahahahaha......good one.....I hope so too, lol.

LOL. Seriously. I hope spiral is a little girl.

Anyone who enjoys seeing the look of defeat on a guy that worked up the balls to talk to them has serious control issues. They probably do it because seeing others fail makes them feel better about themselves. It is pretty immature. No one has ever done that to me, and I would be pissed if someone was ever so rude. I am not saying this as an insult, but as a serious critisism that you should analyze. That is the point of this, I dont think I would ask any girl in person what signals she was giving. lol.

But seriously, you should stop doing this unless the only to make yourself feel good is by hurting others. Tis the hallmark of a weak, hurt, and defeated person.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by spiral ha!

I'm 19

did I not just explain that I don't do that anymore????
lol


ya' live and you learn.

rejecting in a rude manner is very disrespectful!

amot!

unless, like I said, when people are pushy-u try being nice..but nnoo.

oh and fstkh,- I know saying that would be easier-but sometimes u blirt out, 'no'..and then you're stuck.

So you are 19 huh? Prime. Since you make yourself sound like a "10" what do you do to show the lucky one whome you are interested in.

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by surferarmo LOL. Seriously. I hope spiral is a little girl.

Anyone who enjoys seeing the look of defeat on a guy that worked up the balls to talk to them has serious control issues. They probably do it because seeing others fail makes them feel better about themselves. It is pretty immature. No one has ever done that to me, and I would be pissed if someone was ever so rude. I am not saying this as an insult, but as a serious critisism that you should analyze. That is the point of this, I dont think I would ask any girl in person what signals she was giving. lol.

But seriously, you should stop doing this unless the only to make yourself feel good is by hurting others. Tis the hallmark of a weak, hurt, and defeated person.

yeah i wouldnt hurt a guy like that......after all no matter how much ppl say guys have less feelings, I think guys have strong feelings but they just hide it a lot......which is harder !

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by fstkhnan yeah i wouldnt hurt a guy like that......after all no matter how much ppl say guys have less feelings, I think guys have strong feelings but they just hide it a lot......which is harder !

Seriously! I mean, I might be different than most guys. I really dont care whether the outcome be me getting action, or getting rejected. I dont think about it. But, there has been times when I have that second thought, and I felt really vulnerable. Most guys feel that way. Thats why, when your girls are at a party with all your friends and no guys come up to you and you ask eachother "Why do the guys just stare?" Because they are scared xxxxless.

I am the guy that eats all the food, drinks all the drink, then pulls one of your friends to the dance floor, then you wonder where we went for a few hours, then next week, she is introducing me to all of you.

[fstkhnan]

Originally posted by surferarmo Seriously! I mean, I might be different than most guys. I really dont care whether the outcome be me getting action, or getting rejected. I dont think about it. But, there has been times when I have that second thought, and I felt really vulnerable. Most guys feel that way. Thats why, when your girls are at a party with all your friends and no guys come up to you and you ask eachother "Why do the guys just stare?" Because they are scared xxxxless.

I am the guy that eats all the food, drinks all the drink, then pulls one of your friends to the dance floor, then you wonder where we went for a few hours, then next week, she is introducing me to all of you.

nice...i like u !thats my kind of guy !

[spiral]

Originally posted by surferarmo LOL. Seriously. I hope spiral is a little girl.

Anyone who enjoys seeing the look of defeat on a guy that worked up the balls to talk to them has serious control issues. They probably do it because seeing others fail makes them feel better about themselves. It is pretty immature. No one has ever done that to me, and I would be pissed if someone was ever so rude. I am not saying this as an insult, but as a serious critisism that you should analyze. That is the point of this, I dont think I would ask any girl in person what signals she was giving. lol.

But seriously, you should stop doing this unless the only to make yourself feel good is by hurting others. Tis the hallmark of a weak, hurt, and defeated person.

I think I mentioned in my initial post that I USED to do that.

as for being weak.

If this person whoever rejects you is infact the weak person, then you have no place to be pissed.

and if you are the "stronger" person, than the rejection won't put a damper on your ego.

As for "making myself feel good by hurting others"

you don't actaully sit there and plot "hurting" someone through rejection, or manner of rejection.

it's a form of response.
it's not 'pre-meditated' lol

now, if you, or everyone in that matter, could take their "bigger/ stronger" person mentality and apply to every other aspect, not only approaching and rejecting the opposite sex. It would in fact matter much more.

don't dwell on and merge a light-in jest-response, with social philosophy.