Signals

[loseyourname]

I have enough girls approach me that I really don't bother making an approach most of the time. I just show interest by listening to what they have to say, and genuinely listening, too. Same thing as the rest of you - hold eye contact, maybe a light touch here or there, plenty of warm smiles.

I'll tell you how I handle rejection as soon as I am rejected.

[SexyAries]

I am a hugeee flirt, Its soooo cheezy! But I never flirt with a guy I don't find attractive or that doesn't give me a sign. If a guy doesn't send me signals and I am really interested I might brush his sholder or glance at him a few times but nothing too extreme I don't want to totally give it away. I've never been rejected so I can't say how it feels, maybe because I've never aproached someone I doubt will like me, I don't take rejection well in other aspects of my life so I am pretty sure if I get rejected by a guy my confidence level will shrink down to the size of his penis.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by jahannam the few second eye contact works for me as well.
i just love it when it works.
hehe
I haven't really made any moves on guys I don't know though,
so ummm
I wouldn't know what feeling rejected is like.
except for that, the beat of the music. lol
okay this sounds cheesy, this has happened to me 3 times. basically, when you're at a place with loud music, and you're having fun with friends, taking a sip of your redbull vodka or whatever, and you're just feeling that music by sliiightly shaking your head (works best with house/trance music) and then you lock eyes with someone across the room, doing the SAME exact head movement. and then you smile and they smile back, hopefully lol, and then they do that head thing asking u WITHOUT saying a word if u wanna dance...
i'm sure you know what i'm talkin about.
I like NO TALK beginnings.
they're spontaneous and fun.
and once i'm on the dancefloor, if they ask what i'm doing later, I just walk away!

Very interesting. You wonder why guys arent that great with you in long term aspects. Its probably because you dont do anything with them...but bob your head.

But seriously though, I have a question. Do you ever approach a guy?

[surferarmo]

I honestly think most of you are lying. While I enjoyed your stories, everyone has been rejected. If you havent been rejected directly, for instance, someone saying "Im not interested." But I am sure that you have eyed someone or approached someone and they acted like they werent interested. If that has never happened, then you have probably never attempted anything real, shall we say. I could be wrong.

To say you have never been rejected or turned down, that every girl or every guy you have every gone to has embraced you with open arms, is a front.

CK, I saw some girl do that to a friend of mine, she was like "Im waiting for my boyfriend" and I KNEW she didnt have a boyfriend, because I have chilled with her. I was laughing soo hard.

And sexy, I love it when girls flirt a little. Some girls play too hard to get, or they hide their state so much, one time I met a girl who held off for too long (with physical stuff) and I broke up with her. It was annoying. Some girls think that holding off totally will make a guy crave you, all it does is make him angry. So dont hold off too long. (And I am not necessarily talking of sex or intercourse, although that can get annoying too)

Anyway, the one time I was directly rejected was when I was drunk, and I went to pick up on a sev chick. I dont think most sev girls like the surfer look. LOL. That was funny.

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by jahannam the few second eye contact works for me as well.
i just love it when it works.
hehe
I haven't really made any moves on guys I don't know though,
so ummm
I wouldn't know what feeling rejected is like.
except for that, the beat of the music. lol
okay this sounds cheesy, this has happened to me 3 times. basically, when you're at a place with loud music, and you're having fun with friends, taking a sip of your redbull vodka or whatever, and you're just feeling that music by sliiightly shaking your head (works best with house/trance music) and then you lock eyes with someone across the room, doing the SAME exact head movement. and then you smile and they smile back, hopefully lol, and then they do that head thing asking u WITHOUT saying a word if u wanna dance...
i'm sure you know what i'm talkin about.
I like NO TALK beginnings.
they're spontaneous and fun.
and once i'm on the dancefloor, if they ask what i'm doing later, I just walk away!

They wouldn't happen to be the panther in your avatar looking at you would they?

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by surferarmo I honestly think most of you are lying. While I enjoyed your stories, everyone has been rejected. If you havent been rejected directly, for instance, someone saying "Im not interested." But I am sure that you have eyed someone or approached someone and they acted like they werent interested. If that has never happened, then you have probably never attempted anything real, shall we say. I could be wrong.

To say you have never been rejected or turned down, that every girl or every guy you have every gone to has embraced you with open arms, is a front.

CK, I saw some girl do that to a friend of mine, she was like "Im waiting for my boyfriend" and I KNEW she didnt have a boyfriend, because I have chilled with her. I was laughing soo hard.

And sexy, I love it when girls flirt a little. Some girls play too hard to get, or they hide their state so much, one time I met a girl who held off for too long (with physical stuff) and I broke up with her. It was annoying. Some girls think that holding off totally will make a guy crave you, all it does is make him angry. So dont hold off too long. (And I am not necessarily talking of sex or intercourse, although that can get annoying too)

Anyway, the one time I was directly rejected was when I was drunk, and I went to pick up on a sev chick. I dont think most sev girls like the surfer look. LOL. That was funny.

Jesus you didn't have to type all that to establish that rejection is a natural part of life.

I've been rejected more times than I have been pulled over and had parking tickets.

It actually makes you feel like a loser, yet a relieved loser.

[fstkhnan]

I dont think there is something wrong with getting rejected....its so natural, I mean if u dont get rejected in life sometimes, u wont enjoy the taste of acceptance!I've been rejected, and some have gotten rejected by me!

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by fstkhnan I dont think there is something wrong with getting rejected....its so natural, I mean if u dont get rejected in life sometimes, u wont realize the taste of acceptance!I've been rejected, and some have gotten rejected by me!

REJECTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[surferarmo]

Well I dont get rejected often. Here is my trick.

[spiral]

Originally posted by surferarmo I honestly think most of you are lying. While I enjoyed your stories, everyone has been rejected. If you havent been rejected directly, for instance, someone saying "Im not interested." But I am sure that you have eyed someone or approached someone and they acted like they werent interested. If that has never happened, then you have probably never attempted anything real, shall we say. I could be wrong.

To say you have never been rejected or turned down, that every girl or every guy you have every gone to has embraced you with open arms, is a front.

CK, I saw some girl do that to a friend of mine, she was like "Im waiting for my boyfriend" and I KNEW she didnt have a boyfriend, because I have chilled with her. I was laughing soo hard.

And sexy, I love it when girls flirt a little. Some girls play too hard to get, or they hide their state so much, one time I met a girl who held off for too long (with physical stuff) and I broke up with her. It was annoying. Some girls think that holding off totally will make a guy crave you, all it does is make him angry. So dont hold off too long. (And I am not necessarily talking of sex or intercourse, although that can get annoying too)

Anyway, the one time I was directly rejected was when I was drunk, and I went to pick up on a sev chick. I dont think most sev girls like the surfer look. LOL. That was funny.

I actually have not been rejected. (mainly cause I rarely find people attractive + my attraction is not based solely on appearance)

As for rejecting... I used to think it was fun seeing people's faces after being REJECTED!

then not so long ago I was at a concert, and I 'rejected' some guy, in the RUDEST way possible.-though, in the nicest tone possible. and I felt LOUSY afterwards.- I think I over did the rudeness. but it just blurted out.

so after that, I just give em my number if they ask for it, and then I ignore their calls till they stop calling after a month or so.

works well actually. Unless you see these people on a regular basis.

Then you're screwed.

I had to walk to my classes from the back of the school (through the parking lots) all semester to avoid someone.

moral of the story-

rude rejection is not nice- use the it's not you it's me line.

But I hate pushy people-they ask for it.