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  • #51
    Originally posted by Crimson Glow I have found that the vast majority of girls (at least the ones I've had experience with) are like this. For some reason, they think a couple of..."dates" if you wanna' call them that.... is equivalent to marriage. Neither of us have even had a chance to assess each other, and already she's talking about her heart being broken if I leave, and blah blah blah. WTF? Why do people have such a dependency on being in love? And more importantly, how the hell are you going to legitimately find...."the one"... if you go into every possible relationship with a clouded mind, ready to manifest your desires of a "significant other" in the first person you see? The need to not be alone is a bad, bad thing.

    A vast majority of girls (and to tell you the truth, guys too) are silly, and clingy, and dumb. No offense to anyone of course. I'm a girl too, heck, even a silly girl sometimes, and to be quite honest I've been the dumb girl, but not to someone I've known a week, a month, even a few months, or for a few dates, etc. To someone I was with for more than a year. Not that that is a valid excuse to be dumb. Why do girls assume that just because they went out with a guy a few times he needs to go ahead and remove his balls and give them to her in a purse and just be her puppy now? They just get all pissy and pouty because the guy might possibly be dating someone else too (*shocking*). I hate people who assume there is more going on than there really is. They're just dating and assume that the guy can't (in fact, shouldn't) think, live, breathe without them. Unless I sit down and actually have that lets get serious conversation with a guy, there is no way I'm going to assume he has to, or even expect him to, date only me. What? Why?

    People just need to breathe and relax a little. Stop being so dependent on others I think. It's like oooh ooh I got one, quick before he gets away! They might be taking the fish in the sea analogy too seriously maybe? That makes me soooo mad. It makes all girls look bad that a select few are like this. And guys do it too (don't think guys are the excpetion!). At least the one's I've known have done this whole being pouty thing that gets SO annoying! It seems some people are so ready to jump the gun and have someone, anyone, that they are willing to kill it from the start by moving too fast, getting to clingy and wanting too much. Why can't people just relax and have some fun. Whyyyyyyyyyyyy I ask you?



    Ok, I'm done.
    The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. -- F. Scott Fitzgerald

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    • #52
      Originally posted by Crimson Glow I have found that the vast majority of girls (at least the ones I've had experience with) are like this. For some reason, they think a couple of..."dates" if you wanna' call them that.... is equivalent to marriage. Neither of us have even had a chance to assess each other, and already she's talking about her heart being broken if I leave, and blah blah blah. WTF? Why do people have such a dependency on being in love? And more importantly, how the hell are you going to legitimately find...."the one"... if you go into every possible relationship with a clouded mind, ready to manifest your desires of a "significant other" in the first person you see? The need to not be alone is a bad, bad thing.
      Who are you going out with? I've never had this problem. If any girl shows any kind of tendency like this, I just stay away. It's simple enough.

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      • #53
        LOL! *snaps his fingers in a Z formation* "Calm down, guuurl!" I agree, guys shouldn't be let of scotch free, but I look at what they do differently. They seem more like power hungry, control freaks. And not in the way females are. I'm talking more of an aggressive (and unfortunately, sometimes violent) way.

        The need to constantly be with someone really does need to come to an end. This is the reason so many marriages fail. I wrote a long post about this on a TOOL fan website, as I thought one of their songs was related to tolerating an abusive relationship. Came to mind when I was reading through the "successful marriage" thread. Thank goodness for copy/paste! For those of you bored enough to read it...



        This piece to me is the theme song for the motto that the vast majority of physical relationships are based on: An abusive relationship is better than no relationship, a syndrome that has plagued mankind since the beginning of time. A person finds a couple things in common with another person, and BAM, suddenly this is grounds for a relationship and even marriage. How many times have they had some uneducated, sexist white trash on some talk show screaming at his woman, “She knows where her place is! She knows I’m the king and she ain’t nothing but a stupid xxxxx”? And yet, when these people are asked why they put up with it, why any sane person would tolerate this, the rebuttal is always, “because I love him!” The need to be with someone and to have another assign us a role in life over rides all sensibility, no matter how unhealthy this person is for you. The subconscious knows it’s wrong, but those doubts are suppressed, sunken deep into the shadows of this masquerade. Yeah..."because I love him"....

        LOVE WHAT? WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? You FEAR him! Worse yet, you FEAR being WITHOUT him! That has nothing to do with love! “There’s no love in fear!” There is a gap before you, a gap between having your own life/freedom and the black hole this person has sucked you down into. These are the moments when those doubts surface, emerging from the murky abyss of our sea of repressed thoughts. “I saw the gap again today, but you were begging me to stay.” Notice she encounters this thought in the opening line, and again at the end. The bridge in the middle part, “I am somewhere I don’t want to be”. Listen to the music at this point. It is an eerie yet calm moment, almost as if the person is lost in the memories and is reflecting on what the relationship has become. That’s the beauty of Tool’s music. Maynard writes the lyrics to match the mood the melody is presenting. Another example, you can feel the tension build up before the “chorus” if you want to call it that of “You still love me…but you puxxxx on me”.

        All though this usually doesn’t happen, in this case “(I) managed to push myself away, and you as well my dear”. She over comes the “I’m scared of dieing alone” disease. In some cases, it’s fearing that person may even kill YOU if you try to leave. The roles are set, everyone has their part, and if you try to destroy that order/cycle by leaving, I may be forced to eliminate you! It’s a dependency issue, a sign of insecurity again leading back to the human fear of “not knowing who we are or where we are headed in this ocean of chaos.” And so, we have a tendency of clinging on to things we know are not good for us but provide us with comfort at the moment, the eternal need for a security blanket. It’s time humanity got past this!!! GET OVER IT! Suffocate the dependency. IT WILL END NO OTHER WAY!

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        • #54
          Originally posted by Crimson Glow LOL! *snaps his fingers in a Z formation* "Calm down, guuurl!" I agree, guys shouldn't be let of scotch free, but I look at what they do differently. They seem more like power hungry, control freaks. And not in the way females are. I'm talking more of an aggressive (and unfortunately, sometimes violent) way.

          The need to constantly be with someone really does need to come to an end. This is the reason so many marriages fail. I wrote a long post about this on a TOOL fan website, as I thought one of their songs was related to tolerating an abusive relationship. Came to mind when I was reading through the "successful marriage" thread. Thank goodness for copy/paste! For those of you bored enough to read it...



          This piece to me is the theme song for the motto that the vast majority of physical relationships are based on: An abusive relationship is better than no relationship, a syndrome that has plagued mankind since the beginning of time. A person finds a couple things in common with another person, and BAM, suddenly this is grounds for a relationship and even marriage. How many times have they had some uneducated, sexist white trash on some talk show screaming at his woman, “She knows where her place is! She knows I’m the king and she ain’t nothing but a stupid xxxxx”? And yet, when these people are asked why they put up with it, why any sane person would tolerate this, the rebuttal is always, “because I love him!” The need to be with someone and to have another assign us a role in life over rides all sensibility, no matter how unhealthy this person is for you. The subconscious knows it’s wrong, but those doubts are suppressed, sunken deep into the shadows of this masquerade. Yeah..."because I love him"....

          LOVE WHAT? WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? You FEAR him! Worse yet, you FEAR being WITHOUT him! That has nothing to do with love! “There’s no love in fear!” There is a gap before you, a gap between having your own life/freedom and the black hole this person has sucked you down into. These are the moments when those doubts surface, emerging from the murky abyss of our sea of repressed thoughts. “I saw the gap again today, but you were begging me to stay.” Notice she encounters this thought in the opening line, and again at the end. The bridge in the middle part, “I am somewhere I don’t want to be”. Listen to the music at this point. It is an eerie yet calm moment, almost as if the person is lost in the memories and is reflecting on what the relationship has become. That’s the beauty of Tool’s music. Maynard writes the lyrics to match the mood the melody is presenting. Another example, you can feel the tension build up before the “chorus” if you want to call it that of “You still love me…but you puxxxx on me”.

          All though this usually doesn’t happen, in this case “(I) managed to push myself away, and you as well my dear”. She over comes the “I’m scared of dieing alone” disease. In some cases, it’s fearing that person may even kill YOU if you try to leave. The roles are set, everyone has their part, and if you try to destroy that order/cycle by leaving, I may be forced to eliminate you! It’s a dependency issue, a sign of insecurity again leading back to the human fear of “not knowing who we are or where we are headed in this ocean of chaos.” And so, we have a tendency of clinging on to things we know are not good for us but provide us with comfort at the moment, the eternal need for a security blanket. It’s time humanity got past this!!! GET OVER IT! Suffocate the dependency. IT WILL END NO OTHER WAY!
          hear hear (look who's telling ME to chill and calm down! hehe)
          The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. -- F. Scott Fitzgerald

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          • #55
            Yeah, but it's different for me. *Turns and looks at the camara in a dramatic fashion* I'm just trying to live up to my SN, DAMN IT!

            Dun dun duuuuuuuuuuun
            Last edited by Crimson Glow; 03-15-2004, 09:06 PM.

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            • #56
              Originally posted by Crimson Glow Yeah, but it's different for me. *Turns and looks at the camara in a dramatic fashion* I'm just trying to live up to my SN, DAMN IT!

              Dun dun duuuuuuuuuuun
              All right, you were bordering on cool before. Now you're just gay.

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              • #57
                Originally posted by loseyourname All right, you were bordering on cool before. Now you're just gay.
                All right, you were bordering on cool before. Now you're just gay.
                Achkerov kute.

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                • #58
                  Dear Pasamonster

                  It's me again... It so happens that I don't like having a physical relationship whatsoever I mean not b4 marriage. I'm just attached to the idea of innocence plus I don't wanna get the fun out of it. My current issue is that my bf wants that kind of a thing, he says we won't do the real thing just touching and stuff. But I don't want to, I have my own principles which forbid such an act. If i didn't like him I would've quitted long ago, but I love him....I keep telling him no but he keeps on insisting, even after i told him there is no chance whatsoever. He really does love me, shouldn't that make him respect my decision or that doesn't apply on sex?


                  Confused,
                  Jenny
                  "An angel runs
                  Thru the sudden light
                  Thru the room
                  A ghost preceeds us
                  A shadow follows us
                  And each time we stop
                  We fall"

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                  • #59
                    Originally posted by Jenny Dear Pasamonster

                    It's me again... It so happens that I don't like having a physical relationship whatsoever I mean not b4 marriage. I'm just attached to the idea of innocence plus I don't wanna get the fun out of it. My current issue is that my bf wants that kind of a thing, he says we won't do the real thing just touching and stuff. But I don't want to, I have my own principles which forbid such an act. If i didn't like him I would've quitted long ago, but I love him....I keep telling him no but he keeps on insisting, even after i told him there is no chance whatsoever. He really does love me, shouldn't that make him respect my decision or that doesn't apply on sex?


                    Confused,
                    Jenny

                    Jenny,

                    You would make a perfect canidate for the Dr. Phil show. Call them up.

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                    • #60
                      Jenny, trust me, he's going to stop "loving" you after you refuse to give him some nookie.

                      And how the hell did you fall in love in such a short period of time? Weren't you the one complaining in here before about not wanting to be single only like a month or so ago?

                      Hahahahah

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