my bf is leaving me

[Anonymouse]

If she will HATE him, she will get over him and from what she told us, she really needs to forget him. If she concentrates on the bad qualities he has, she will not love him anymore.
Who said anything about her hating every man. If EVERY man she ever dates treats her like crap, she will learn how to deal with it from her previous relationships.

She's not asking for you position on this or if her acts were right or wrong. All she wanted was some advice.

And I gave her my advice, along with a piece of my mind.

[XxgoeyxX]

If she will HATE him, she will get over him and from what she told us, she really needs to forget him. If she concentrates on the bad qualities he has, she will not love him anymore.
Who said anything about her hating every man. If EVERY man she ever dates treats her like crap, she will learn how to deal with it from her previous relationships.

By the way Now I understand what you meant about hate. I know what you mean.


Oh and let me add in her mind she will feel hatred for other man.

All I meant by my last statement is that, if you say that to her...in her mind..she will start to feel this way. Even if you meant something else. Two people did this to her....that to much at 19. She will start feeling hatred for a lot of man and wont give them a chance. This happens to all of us when we have experiences like this.

What makes me so sad is that she is so young.

[Margi]

I would say that he is jelouse, thus prooving that he does have emotions for you. A "claim" if you will, that you are his. And the 99% comment of you two being together was low of him to say however there is a 1% which also prooves that he has some form of emotion to you. Explain the situation to him again, and completely share your emotions and what you are feeling with him. And then, give him time, dont talk to him for a brief period so he has the opportunity and the choice to have to decide on weither or not he will keep you in his life. One thing I learned in relationships is that you cant always get what you want, its sad but true. Just give it time..............if its meant to be then he will accept you.

Thank you so much. ur helpful

[Margi]

If she will HATE him, she will get over him and from what she told us, she really needs to forget him. If she concentrates on the bad qualities he has, she will not love him anymore.
Who said anything about her hating every man. If EVERY man she ever dates treats her like crap, she will learn how to deal with it from her previous relationships.

She's not asking for you position on this or if her acts were right or wrong. All she wanted was some advice.

I just want to thank you for all your advice.

[Margi]

Now, now, Goey, let's not make excuses for inept people that lack self respect and discipline. I am told I am 'mean' for saying this to people, but someone has to. It sounds like such a cliche topic that only cliche people would talk about. She deserves what she got, because she did this to herself, and nothing more. Maybe next time she can keep her legs closed more often. The precise problem is that social idiocy that we've come to accept as "falling in love". Every random act of confusion that comes from ones carnal impulses is dubbed as "falling in love".

I know i did the wrong thing, but all i asked was to give me some advice. I dont need your opinion and what you think about me.

[sad_eyes]

Agree. Wayyy to young. At 19 you should be thinking about school and your friends, having fun, going to the movies, eating ice cream and pizza and all that good stuff. Not some guy you think you are in love with, thats treating you like this.

What is your age, if you dont mind me asking?

Margi-no problem, glad I was of some help to you. Good luck

[Fadix2]

Everyone, i was only 16 when the whole thing happened with my ex. and i'm 19 now. he took me out yesterday, and he treated me like crap. He told me that the only people that will want to ever be in a relationship with me are gonna be either parskahays (Persian armenians ) or berutahays. I love him so much. i feel like i'm never gonna fall in love again. how shall i get over him. please someone tell me how i can get over him. he made it clear to me last night that he knows 99% that we're not gonna be together. and one more thing he gets so wierd when another guy looks at me. he feels like its my fault that they are looking at me. is he jealous or what? help me please someone what shall i do?

I do believe that 16 is a little young. But beside that, that guy doesn't worth all the trouble. He's jealous, he could not accept not being the firt. The prince comming to save the Virgin little girl.

Gevo, I knew you had a conservative mind... but I never expected you to go as far. Seems that education doesn't make one more intelligent.

[hyebruin]

let me take a wiiiild (not so wild) guess is this dude hayastantsi? i'm not saying all, but most of them are "this way" --even my hayastantsi girlfriends tell me this, it's a known fact that they're ultra "conservative" never mind they can go and screw anything and everything they please, but expect a "pure" girl...wtf! someone can be corrupt by their thoughts AND be a virgin at the same time!--if you want to date just an armenian, then i suggest you find a barsgahye simply because they are more laid back (though some residual primitive thinking still lingers among some of them )---if a guy is going to judge you like that and expect you to do certain things to 'deserve his love' then i say screw him (bad choice of words--hehe) and leave and be with someone who loves you for who you are and not for some 'kukla' he wants you to be!!!

[patlajan]

I know i did the wrong thing, but all i asked was to give me some advice. I dont need your opinion and what you think about me.

You didn't do anything wrong. Stop apologizing.

[hyebruin]

You didn't do anything wrong. Stop apologizing.

yes! i like your attitude! women need to be less apologetic! when was the last time i heard a man apologize? NEVER!!! --from what i observe a man doesn't apologize until he feels like a real a$$, and women apologize whenever they feel down! that doesn't help anyone, women AND men!