Younger Guys, Older Girls

[loseyourname]

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I'm lonely NOW...

Oh well, I got Halo 2, World of Warcraft and Vampire Bloodlines to keep me busy, who needs a girlfriend? Now, how young was that?

Jesus man, you have friends, don't you? Besides, if you're meeting six girls in one night, why the hell are you so lonely? Do you really need to be cuddling up to the same woman every night?

You know, I'm not saying you do, but if you do come across this way in person, then of course no woman will want to go out with you. Any person looking for a significant other to cure their loneliness is bad news. Furthermore, there's a good chance you'll end up latching on to the one girl who does go out with you, find out you have nothing in common and wonder where all that "chemistry" went.

There's one thing I want to bring up that no one else has. I'm not impressed by you meeting so many women, but how is it that you've met so many that you "click" with instantly? There's no way any one person has that much chemistry with nearly every woman he talks to for an extended period of time. I could be wrong, but I get the impression that you want chemistry so bad that you're imagining it where it in fact isn't. If these women really are telling you that you'd make a great boyfriend, they're either full of sh*t or bad news themselves, because there's no way for them to know that after a couple of hours.

By the way, I've never had any issue finding older women to go out with, but I've stopped doing it anyway because, in my experience, they were all nutcases. It just seems like when most women approach their 30's still single, something snaps in them. It isn't worth it. Maybe a 19 or 20 year-old is a little less mature, but they're also a good deal less jaded and wordly, and god I can't stand jaded women.

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Something snaps in them?....

[loseyourname]

Something snaps in them?....

Granted, this is only my experience and not necessarily representative of the entire female population, but they've all been in such a rush to settle down with someone that they lose the casual approach of the younger dater. They try to push relationships before they are ready to be pushed and oftentimes suffer from the Mikey syndrome of looking desperately for someone to give their heart to, usually prematurely and without any real warrant.

[HyeJinx1984]

Jesus man, you have friends, don't you? Besides, if you're meeting six girls in one night, why the hell are you so lonely? Do you really need to be cuddling up to the same woman every night?

You know, I'm not saying you do, but if you do come across this way in person, then of course no woman will want to go out with you. Any person looking for a significant other to cure their loneliness is bad news. Furthermore, there's a good chance you'll end up latching on to the one girl who does go out with you, find out you have nothing in common and wonder where all that "chemistry" went.

There's one thing I want to bring up that no one else has. I'm not impressed by you meeting so many women, but how is it that you've met so many that you "click" with instantly? There's no way any one person has that much chemistry with nearly every woman he talks to for an extended period of time. I could be wrong, but I get the impression that you want chemistry so bad that you're imagining it where it in fact isn't. If these women really are telling you that you'd make a great boyfriend, they're either full of sh*t or bad news themselves, because there's no way for them to know that after a couple of hours.

By the way, I've never had any issue finding older women to go out with, but I've stopped doing it anyway because, in my experience, they were all nutcases. It just seems like when most women approach their 30's still single, something snaps in them. It isn't worth it. Maybe a 19 or 20 year-old is a little less mature, but they're also a good deal less jaded and wordly, and god I can't stand jaded women.

Lisi, kotak chootes ha!

Anyway... first of all, again, I'm not a whiney person!!!! Except right there I was... but I'm really not. second of all, I'm actually very picky and discerning when it comes to women, but lately I've been running into a lot that I seem to jive with... except for, of course, the principal problem that is the basis of this whole god forsaken thread. thirdly, me love apple pie long time. fourthly, kotak chootes ha!

[Mags]

Ok...enough with the e-spankings...

Here's my 2 cents:

Coming from an ahem "older" woman, you should heed my advice very closely. Girls that are older than you usually have their lives already planned out....i.e, good job, finished school, has a good set of close friends, and knows what kind of guy she wants to marry. (Whereas, most younger guys are still in school, maybe eventually have a good career/job, and don't necessarily have a stable life because they're too busy trying to get laid.... )Now all of a sudden, there's a younger guy courting her....to either A.) Get in her pants, or B.) Get in her pants...What's the moral of the story? Older women will not take younger guys seriously, because they aren't in the same place in their lives as her...it's that simple. And honestly, anyone that gets rejected 6 TIMES in 2 WEEKS should know better than to try AGAIN in the future...stuck to girls your own age

[HyeJinx1984]

Good advice Mags, but why is it that no one seems to get the simple fact that i'm not going after them, they're coming up to me. I don't even notice these girls at first, THEY come to me and start talking and flirting with me. I'm not out there hunting for older girls. You guys keep telling me "don't go for older girls" I AGREE!! The problem is older girls come after me before knowing my age, get my hopes up, then crush them because of THEIR stupid assumption.

[Mags]

Well physical attraction can be tricky initally...Some people look older than they really are...I'm not saying they weren't attracted to your looks, or even to your personality...it's apparent these girls thought you were good looking if they approached you but it's a whole different ball game when you're considering the future...

I wouldn't want someone who isn't at the same level as I am in their lives...that's really what it comes down too..and if these "older" women still keep coming after you, maybe you should tell them how old you are from the beginning and ask if that bothers them...just be upfront with them and you might actually not get hurt in the process

[Thai-Samurai]

where do you hang out at when those girls walk up to you?

[HyeJinx1984]

where do you hang out at when those girls walk up to you?

Church (Ironic no?), Clubs, House Parties, etc..

[Anonymouse]

The wisdom that is in this thread is classic and older ( even though its younger ) than even the wisdom found in the classic, Ivanhoe.