Alright to be shy?

[violette829]

But I'm not the best ....pffff if I act what I am not, it'll feel really wierd and it would really make it too difficult for me to handle.

It's so stupid it doesn't fade away with time! I'll probably die alone like those Star Trek fans

For when medical treatment against shyness?

First of all, there is medical treatment for shyness, and I already discussed that you live in Belgium and are too young. Maybe when you move here, and in about 10 years, you can give me a call for the cure.

As far as not thinking you're the best, I believe you have some self esteem issues. Do you know that you're a very good looking guy? I saw your pic and your lips are really nice (because that's the only thing I paid attention to)...I think you're alittle hottie. Maybe when you begin to see this and understand it, you'll get over your shyness.

[MonkeyGirl]

Shy Power

If you're shy, this is a real gem.

I have completely changed my perspective on the shyness "problem". I no longer view it as a problem, but as an aspect of human diversity, like being left-handed (this may be bad examplesconsidering the grief that people with these "problems" have sometimes suffered), and making me change my approach.

Consider the opposite "problem". What about people who enter relationships, even marriages, in order not to be seen as being alone or friendless; young people who commit crimes in order to be "in" with their social groups; entertainers who feel that they have to constantly be "on", having to always be witty or entertaining; people who can't stand their "friends", only keeping them in order to maintain their social standing? Where is the "Overly Social Support Group"?

Of course shyness can indeed become a serious problem, in which case one should seek help. Otherwise ... give yourself a break!

Which is what I've decided to do. At 24, I feel that I'm getting too old for this crap. I've been through a lot in the past few years and I like to tell myself that I've gotten the shyness beaten out of me. Ageing has also put things into perspective: things that seemed terribly important a few years ago aren't such a big deal now. Hard to explain this, but knowing and being who I am is now a higher priority than trying to fit myself into a social role.

I also think that I appreciate that people are diverse. Whatever your situation, there are hundreds, millions of people just like you. The Internet is a wonderful tool for dipping into this great pool of diversity, as demonstrated partly by this message board.

You're more "normal" than you think, you're as normal as anyone else, given the great diversity of people. Extroversion is simply a predominant temperament, something that evolved over time, like being left-handed.

Shy Power!

[violette829]

[QUOTE=loseyourname]Neither is she. She still manages to convince herself.


/QUOTE]


Assuming that you're talking about me, I have one thing to say to you Mr. Voluminous: EAT MY SHORTS. Where did you even come from? (please don't answer that) I'm just trying to help the guy. JERK~

[violette829]

If you're shy, this is a real gem.

I have completely changed my perspective on the shyness "problem". I no longer view it as a problem, but as an aspect of human diversity, like being left-handed (this may be bad examplesconsidering the grief that people with these "problems" have sometimes suffered), and making me change my approach.

Consider the opposite "problem". What about people who enter relationships, even marriages, in order not to be seen as being alone or friendless; young people who commit crimes in order to be "in" with their social groups; entertainers who feel that they have to constantly be "on", having to always be witty or entertaining; people who can't stand their "friends", only keeping them in order to maintain their social standing? Where is the "Overly Social Support Group"?

Of course shyness can indeed become a serious problem, in which case one should seek help. Otherwise ... give yourself a break!

Which is what I've decided to do. At 24, I feel that I'm getting too old for this crap. I've been through a lot in the past few years and I like to tell myself that I've gotten the shyness beaten out of me. Ageing has also put things into perspective: things that seemed terribly important a few years ago aren't such a big deal now. Hard to explain this, but knowing and being who I am is now a higher priority than trying to fit myself into a social role.

I also think that I appreciate that people are diverse. Whatever your situation, there are hundreds, millions of people just like you. The Internet is a wonderful tool for dipping into this great pool of diversity, as demonstrated partly by this message board.

You're more "normal" than you think, you're as normal as anyone else, given the great diversity of people. Extroversion is simply a predominant temperament, something that evolved over time, like being left-handed.

Shy Power!

Being shy means that you're NOT CONFIDENT! When you speak of being alone and being comfortable, that's not shy..that's a secure person. Shyness is when you are afraid of people rejecting you because of who you are. You're just comparing 2 opposite things. It's wierd. Stop doing that please.

[!EEK]

First of all, there is medical treatment for shyness, and I already discussed that you live in Belgium and are too young. Maybe when you move here, and in about 10 years, you can give me a call for the cure.

As far as not thinking you're the best, I believe you have some self esteem issues. Do you know that you're a very good looking guy? I saw your pic and your lips are really nice (because that's the only thing I paid attention to)...I think you're alittle hottie. Maybe when you begin to see this and understand it, you'll get over your shyness.

I'm ready to try any medical/natural treatment right NOW

Anyway, I don't buy into "you are a hottie "stuff. If I'm one, why am I shy! I should be easy going then

[violette829]

oh oh!! Whats that!!

Paxil is an anti-depressent used on people like loser. It's supposed to give you a FALSE SENSE of reality. You know, kinda like your mom telling you that you're really cute, when you're ugly as hell.

[xBaron Dants]

You're more "normal" than you think, you're as normal as anyone else, given the great diversity of people. Extroversion is simply a predominant temperament, something that evolved over time, like being left-handed.

That last paragraph just made me think that he's less normal that I ever thought he was.

I mean, I just thought the guy was shy.. You're acting as if he's "special".

[Harut82]

Your only 17 its getts better as you get older. I was extremely shy at that age too but its slowly fading away.

[violette829]

I'm ready to try any medical/natural treatment right NOW

Anyway, I don't buy into "you are a hottie "stuff. If I'm one, why am I shy! I should be easy going then

Just cause you're hot, it doesn't mean that you're gonna be confident. Also, it's not the physical that counts. You need to hold your head up high when you walk and just realize what a great person you are.


I feel like Dr. Phil right now.

[violette829]

Your only 17 its getts better as you get older. I was extremely shy at that age too but its slowly fading away.

20 min. of going on and on about this guy's self-esteem and you give me him the best advice. Huh....nice.