Is your intellectual thinking keeping you from being social?

[winoman]

Crimson Glow - I must say I'm not really sure of what your talking about - but it made me think that there are all kinds of people who could - from their perspectives - think and say that they were doing the mosty wonderful things that others were missing out on - like climbing Everest, scuba diving, going into space, saving lives, being a porn star - what have you - that perhaps give them perspectives and experiences that the vast majority of us will never have...so before you start thinking yourself so special....

[ArmoBarbi]

Something else I was just thinking about, which occurs to me when I'm amidst the brain-dead zombies, looking on. Sometimes....after the frustration and aggetation subsides....and I'm not angry and in the mood to kill.....I kind of think about humanity as a whole, and start feeling....sorry for them. I mean....this is it for them. They will go to their graves never experiencing any of what we've talked about. They'll spend their lives being completely unconscious beings, never having fully understood/comprehended/appreciated their own existence. I almost feel bad that this is all their lives will amount to. Yup......aaaaaaalmost......

Anybody else ever feel this?

I think this when I first realize it about the person, but if they cross the line... just frustration. I know what you mean though - sad indeed. I no longer feel guilty about being snobby to them.

[thedebutante]

Something else I was just thinking about, which occurs to me when I'm amidst the brain-dead zombies, looking on. Sometimes....after the frustration and aggetation subsides....and I'm not angry and in the mood to kill.....I kind of think about humanity as a whole, and start feeling....sorry for them. I mean....this is it for them. They will go to their graves never experiencing any of what we've talked about. They'll spend their lives being completely unconscious beings, never having fully understood/comprehended/appreciated their own existence. I almost feel bad that this is all their lives will amount to. Yup......aaaaaaalmost......

Anybody else ever feel this?

What I dont understand is how you feel qualified to judge in such a way. You horrible horrible person. (The hypocrisy in the previous two sentences was purposefully construed). But seriously, do yourself a favor and dont "almost" feel sorry for these people. They have a lot more going for them than you think.

[spiral]

Crimson, get over yourself.

Barbi, stop agreeing/relating with everyone.

[Anonymouse]

Mouse just so touching...your post #6 in this thread (really - nice to see some heartfelt comments rather then your usual)...but have you ever considered that you have made a catch-22 for yourself? I think that the reason that you feel that you won't meet any gals that can offer you anything intellectually is that you have put blinders on to the fact that there are such women out there (and there certainly are). But of course - you want a subservant woman now don't you? Well smart you may be - but you really must work on your self-confidence - so easily shaken and made fearful by the thought of a woman with intellect...

My experience has alwayas been that I've gotten something of value (emotionally, intellectually, and/or lesson wise...at the very least...) from every relationship I have ever been in. But I always went for the independent, more or less intellectual - certainly smart - (and most often older and more experienced) kind of woman. Its all in what one values I guess. And I've rarely ever been in a relationship that I didn't find intellectually stimulating - but I alwasy sought this out...

Being alone is fine - and I've often felt as you have expressed (somewhat an outsider - in all things....) - still do in many ways...(I call it a minority of one) - but to desire such at the expense of socializing is IMO a reaction that bespeaks low self esteem. You may think that you are superior - etc - but you seem afraid to test it. And again - while I'm not unfamiliar with the perspective - in my (longer then you've been on this earth) time I've really come to respect the fact that most everyone (well at a certain level) has something to offer - and a great many people just blow me away - I can bask in their awsomeness - I'm not threatened by it....

I'm glad you find my post touching perhaps even intimidating. The weakness of your post is that you think I want a "subservant" woman. You further assume that I have not given women a chance, whatever that means. What makes you think I haven't already met women or know one who matches my intellect? But as usual with all the posts that you make, it lacks substance and is not topical. It is your personal cry for help to the world. After all, are you not the man who "gets off" watching your wife with other men? There is no catch-22 aside from what your presumptions make it. I am confident in the solitude of my thoughts. I lay my secrets openly, you do not need to hide yours.

Your rant has less to do with the thread at hand, than it has with trying to smear me, because you have always felt intimidated and of a lesser man next to me. You cannot stand my bluntness and my confidence in the fact that I seek solitude from the herd, which you bask in because it is within that collective rabble where you find your sheepish wants reinforced, it is there where you find validation since you lack the inherent qualities of a standing stone.

The fact that you equate choosing not to associate with those who are ignorant, to low self-esteem, speaks volumes of where you come from. Usually such people are labelled as "stuck up". I "seem" afraid to test it? I disagree my plebian friend. I do not seem to be afraid, I simply do not choose to associate with those ignorant, because I want to remain misunderstood. Because you do not know me, and you are not me, you cannot ever understand that. Why is one stuck up for choosing not to relate to those who are below him, because in this world of inequality some are above others, contrary to your disney version of reality? It is precisely that confidence I have that I do not need to associate with those stupider than I. To equate that with low self esteem is exactly the twisted way you think, because you believe that if you don't associate with those stupider than yourself, you will not be validated, and essentially the meaninglessness of existence will form a mist on your mirrors. You choose women who are more intelligent, more dominant and older than you. Can there be lower self esteem than that?

The only thing I am threatened by is when ignorance forces itself to associate with me. Let my solitude reign in peace.

[Thai-Samurai]

I say; "power to the people." Now let's just riot and forget about everything for now.

[Anonymouse]

I say; "power to the people." Now let's just riot and forget about everything for now.

I say "phuck the people". How about that?

[thedebutante]

How about I hypnotize everyone into understanding each other perfectly?

[ArmoBarbi]

Crimson, get over yourself.

Barbi, stop agreeing/relating with everyone.

As you wish

[Thai-Samurai]

I say "phuck the people". How about that?

wow, you are different.