Are You Currently In A Relationship?

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

What do you mean by 'talking to someone?' I suppose that also depends on what you are talking about.

What I'm doing with this girl is considered "talking" to her.

[transian]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Only Vodka.

Drinking vodka and talking can sometimes lead to other things.

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

That's the point.

[transian]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

That's the point.

lmao

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

That's the point.

So you've got...
One that you are 'talking to'
One that you are kissing
One that you take out on a date with your friend along
and ? that you give vodka...

Are these all different women?

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

So you've got...
One that you are 'talking to'
One that you are kissing
One that you take out on a date with your friend along
and ? that you give vodka...

Are these all different women?

No.

The girl that I went out on a date with is the one I'm talking to.

The girl I kissed, I haven't seen her since that night.

And I didn't give anybody Vodka.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Well, that's good. Because vodka might make your situation confusing.

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Well, I was drunk.

And I actually gave the girl I kissed half a shot of tequilla. And she claimed she was "drunk". She took advantage of me, you know? If I was to do that, I'd never hear the end of it.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

One-way, I’d say you should listen to what your heart is telling you about all of this (given that you posted about, dreamt about, and whatever else about, ‘this girl’ you must know you feel something about that situation with her… ?
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On another note, I am interested what ‘scares off’ men (or women) about dating. I was recently reading online something called the ‘rules of dating.’ (Like I said, I’ve always just ‘been me’ and didn’t pay attention in 101. Who knew I knew so little compared to the experts.) But sheesh, if I followed all these ‘rules’ and ‘dos and don’ts’ I read about, I would be bored out of my mind on a date (and likely bore my date, as well.) Do you know what I’m talking about? Once, I went on a date and told my friends (a couple) that I went on this date and 'he said he’d call' me, but hadn’t. My friend said, “Well, has it been three days yet? He doesn’t want to seem too eager.” What? Now there is a time rule too? He did call me, exactly three days after the date! I actually find this sort of thing, ‘rules of dating’ quite annoying. Am I the only one? How much of this sort of thing is true?

I read that if women seem to be commitment-oriented, men get spooked. What % of men get scared? I wonder how many women feel that way, as well (%?). I tend to be pretty open and relaxed about those kind of things (but I also don’t know how that’s interpreted). I don’t think TOO much about all that kind of thing. I want people to be who and how they are, not follow some prescription for dates.

For example: Once, I was on a lunch date and my date said, “My parents are really going to like you.” I thought that might have been a little awkward and presumptuous, but that didn’t scare me off. According to these ‘rules,’ I should have jumped up and ran away.

Another time, I was invited to go to Chicago to a private lake so that we could go out ‘in his dad’s boat out for lunch.’ I offered to bring a picnic lunch and did. The first odd part was that when I arrived, he greeted me outside. We went to the house. He opened the door and introduced me to his mom and dad (waiting to meet me, behind the door.) Now, in general, I don’t mind at all meeting someone’s parents. But, come on (!), even a LITTLE ‘heads up’ notice on the ‘meet my folks within first 2 minutes of our first date’ from the guy would have been nice. I enjoyed the conversation with his dad (about his volunteer work in habitat restoration), more than the date with the guy. So, meeting his folks wasn't bad (still, my date REALLY should have mentioned this 'meeting the parents' plan to me.)

Oh, and ‘the boat’ was a rowboat with a portable electric motor that stopped working. We had to jump out of the boat and pull it into shore (because he didn’t bring oars.) I tend to like adventures and stuff, but had known that about what was ‘the boat,’ I would have brought different food and wouldn’t have worn my favorite sarong (good thing I had bike shorts under it)! Anyway, though I find this stuff comical, I don’t get 'scared off' by these sorts of things as much as it sounds like other people do… If I really liked the guy, none of that matters to me.

Am I an outlier to the mean?

[Sip]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Let me guess ... the "private lake" was Lake Michigan?