Are You Currently In A Relationship?

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Let me guess ... the "private lake" was Lake Michigan?

More of a pond, but ...LOL

[One-Way]

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I don't do the "wait three days to call her" thing. A lot of people I know say, "You shoudn't seem to eager, or act like you're too interested. Play it cool."

Man, how about I just be myself. I'm not trying to put up a front.

[Sip]

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I really don't understand the 3-day thing at all. If you are not interested in a person, why would you call them at all? And if you are interestd in dating a person, shouldn't you be very interested? What does it mean to be "too interested" or "too eager"?

I mean just think about it ... is anyone really going to say "oh no this person likes me too much and so I won't go out with him or her"?

But as far as demanding commitment or what not, yah I can see how any sort of demand can scare off people. At the same time, I can say that when I am dating someone, I am not looking for a future pet or a "gum stuck to the bottom of my shoe" type of person. I think an individual with her own interests, goals, aspirations, wishes, and desires is faaaaaaaaaaar more interesting than a commitment machine or someone that is going to go waaay out of her way to please me (like a pet).

[One-Way]

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Three days says he's interested, but is not dying over you. That makes the guy look cool. Supposedly.

[Anahita]

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I really don't understand the 3-day thing at all. If you are not interested in a person, why would you call them at all? And if you are interestd in dating a person, shouldn't you be very interested? What does it mean to be "too interested" or "too eager"?

I mean just think about it ... is anyone really going to say "oh no this person
likes me too much and so I won't go out with him or her"?

Precisely. I agree (and that's why I think some 'rule' like that just makes dating into a confusing game. Games should be fun/funny/enjoyable, not stressful! A dating 'game' should be something like mutual flirting.)

But as far as demanding commitment or what not, yah I can see how any sort of demand can scare off people. At the same time, I can say that when I am dating someone, I am not looking for a future pet or a "gum stuck to the bottom of my shoe" type of person. I think an individual with her own interests, goals, aspirations, wishes, and desires is faaaaaaaaaaar more interesting than a commitment machine or someone that is going to go waaay out of her way to please me (like a pet).

Well I wouldn't like a demand, ever. I'm not sure what you interpret as a demand, though. Also, I sure wouldn't want to be the, or have the, gum stuck on a shoe. I also wouldn't want to be, or have, a 'pet,' either. But, it is nice if you really enjoyed each other's company to not be running off to the next date right away (because, who knows, maybe in time you wouldn't even want to.) That's how I think, anyway.

Three days says he's interested, but is not dying over you. That makes the guy look cool. Supposedly.

If *I* had a first date, the first 24 hours mean lots to me. Someone who genuinely liked spending time with me would let me know. If a guy says, "I will call you tomorrow." But waits 3 days, I take that as something like a broken promise. If someone doesn't promise to call at all, but does contact me right away... different story.

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

All I gave you, was broken promises.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

All I gave you, was broken promises.

So, long story stort. I forgive you.

[One-Way]

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Hahahahaha.

:kiss:

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

MUWAAA... One-way. You don't have to feel guilty about my friendly internet 'kiss'

I really don't understand the 3-day thing at all. If you are not interested in a person, why would you call them at all? And if you are interestd in dating a person, shouldn't you be very interested? What does it mean to be "too interested" or "too eager"?

I mean just think about it ... is anyone really going to say "oh no this person
likes me too much and so I won't go out with him or her"?

Precisely. I agree (and that's why I think some 'rule' like that just makes dating into a confusing game. Games should be fun/funny/enjoyable, not stressful! A dating 'game' should be something like mutual flirting.)

But as far as demanding commitment or what not, yah I can see how any sort of demand can scare off people. At the same time, I can say that when I am dating someone, I am not looking for a future pet or a "gum stuck to the bottom of my shoe" type of person. I think an individual with her own interests, goals, aspirations, wishes, and desires is faaaaaaaaaaar more interesting than a commitment machine or someone that is going to go waaay out of her way to please me (like a pet).

Well I would like to think that I do not 'demand.' I guess that's another of the 'multiple meaning words." I would like someone to define, 'demand.' For me, **I neither want to boss or want a boss."** I want to find a mutually happy arrangement (of course, everybody argues, but that's what I want for in a 'relationship.')

I mean, both the man and woman view (first they'd have to notice that) each other as equally important and unique and amazing human beings.

I'm not sure what men in general interpret as a 'demand,' though. Is a hint of commitment a demand? What if a woman thinks I'm not looking anymore unless this guy doesn't turn out to be what I think, but never really says that. Is that a demand? ("TEST" as you call it, text later...) Also, I sure wouldn't want to be the, or have the, gum stuck on a shoe. I also wouldn't want to be, or have, a 'pet,' either. But, it is nice if you really enjoyed each other's company to not be running off to the next date right away (because, who knows, maybe in time you wouldn't even want to.) I don't like when someone goes way out of their way to please me...LIKE WITH ALL I believe in... I want someone to want to do what they do. I wouldn't want someone to do something simply because 'I say so." No, no. I might be persuasive, but if someone doesn't feel whatever themselves, then whatever action they take is just to appease (could be dishonest a little, too.) That's how I think, anyway.

Three days says he's interested, but is not dying over you. That makes the guy look cool. Supposedly.

With first date (for me), the first 24 hours mean lots. Someone who genuinely liked spending time with me would let me know.

If a guy SAYS, "I will call you tomorrow." HE SHOULD CALL IF HE SAYS HE WILL, otherwise huge minus 'points,' as Crissy puts it. If he waits 3 days (that's weird), but if he waits that yet said he'd call me 'tomorrow', I take that as something like a broken promise--and I see him as not worthy of my trust. If someone doesn't promise to call at all, but does contact me right away... different story. LONG LESSON SHORT: DO NOT promise to call unless you are 100% certain that you will (minus any REAL emergency, after which you would call to explain why you didn't keep your promise. OTHERWISE, just don't promise to call. DUH. )

[One-Way]

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MUWAAA... One-way. You don't have to feel guilty about my friendly internet 'kiss'

Who says it was friendly?