Are You Currently In A Relationship?

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Cute.

... if you say so, tis.

One-way, this would be much more fun if you didn't see ME (rather than an idea) as a joke.

Though, you're right, how should I expect different?

I love the 'hidden joke' but be part of...

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

I have a new dilemma.

You know that girl I'm "talking" to? Well, I'm gonna be honest. Lately, I haven't been giving her too much attention. Usually, when a girl I'm talking to or interested in signs on, I'll IM them and ask them what's up. Or, I'll call them throughout the day, or text them. Well, I haven't been doing that to her much, but you can't really blame me. In a way, she seems like she's holding back, but then again, she has a lot of problems going on right now. I can't say I'm too interested in her either. As far as looks go, she's okay. And I'm being honest! I usually never judge by looks. I'm not a shallow guy, or anything. But I'm being honest. Her looks are okay. But her personality is kind of weird.

First of all, she's an atheist. Second, she does a lot of "suicidal things". She's slit her wrists a couple times in the past, and about a week ago, she tried cutting her arm or something. That I don't like. And there's not much I can do to change it, because that's just one of the things she won't understand. When I try to help, she thinks I'm lecturing it. But whatever, I'm not trying to change her.

Now, there's this other girl. We met online last year, around September. I thought she was great, we had A LOT in common, so we started talking. In January, we made plans to meet up on a Friday night. After I got out of class, I called her to see where she was. She didn't pick up. After calling three more times, someone picked up. I said her name, and asked where she was, and a girl replied back with, "Who is this?" I told her who I was, and she said the girl was busy, and she'd call me back. I know what that means. She basically stood me up. We didn't talk for about two whole months. She never IMed me or called me saying what happened. Recently, my close girl friend asked her to hang out after not seeing her for years. She stood her up to. She never picked up her phone that night.

Now, I don't know what this girls problem is, and I haven't even asked her. After those two months, she IMed me by accident, and we started to talk. She said she really missed me, and I missed her too, damn, we had a lot in common. And me being stupid, I kept talking to her, never bringing that night up. Well, now she wants to meet again. This Friday. But I'm not gonna even bother calling her on Friday, because I know what she'll do. But I really like her, and would wanna meet her, because I think we'd really click.

So what should I do. Ask this girl why she did that, and see what's up? Or what? I really don't wanna ask her, it's a little embarrasing. She might have a really good excuse, which I'm hoping before, because I don't wanna admit she stood me up. But, ugh.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

MY policy is honesty. First date, weird date, whatever. I don't know what the 'rules' would tell you. However, MY advice (for whatever that is worth) is to say what you think/feel. But know that MY advice hasn't worked out for me, so far. Plus, my advice is as a novice.... STILL, regardless of 'rules' or etc. I WILL BE ME, I dunno exactly who's wack, rt now. :P

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Still confused.

I was hoping for one of your page-long responses to help me. All good though. I'll see what I'll do. 'Preciate it.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Still confused.

I was hoping for one of your page-long responses to help me. All good though. I'll see what I'll do. 'Preciate it.

Lay down on the sofa....

Did this start when you were a child? In the birth canal? (Do you have valid credit card?) Good, so tell me when you started to have these polar ideas
about things in your life....

Depends how you look at that. No offense, for sure, either way.



Really, there is truth in my joking with you, though.

Now, about the girl you speak about...

First of all, she's an atheist.

And in what ways is this important or relevant to you...

Second, she does a lot of "suicidal things".

If you really have reason to slightly believe that she might kill herself,. HELP HER NOW! My guess is that people who send that message are NOT kidding.

... give her names and numbers of people who can help, if you cannot.

If you don't know numbers for help, ask and find.

My sense is that you sense that she is not in any immediate danger... (or you would not still be here, unless you are a psycho... in which case, let me find some names and numbers FOR YOU!)

IF, after you said that, you are worried about her safety, if you are not here unless you believe she is very much ok, right now.

So, TELL ME...

[One-Way]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Hah.

Reminds me of my friends kick back. I went up to all my friends who were on the couch, and I acted like a psychiatrist.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

Hah.

Reminds me of my friends kick back. I went up to all my friends who were on the couch, and I acted like a psychiatrist.

What would you say to someone in your situation?

[Sip]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

First of all, she's an atheist. Second, she does a lot of "suicidal things". She's slit her wrists a couple times in the past, and about a week ago, she tried cutting her arm or something. That I don't like.

Nice to see you draw the line SOMEWHERE.

[Anahita]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?



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When I was in high school, I had a boyfriend who was a little like that gum. On one level, (especially as a teenager) I somewhat liked this ‘ego-filling’ arrangement. But, I broke up with him during my freshman year of college because it wasn’t what I really wanted.

He never challenged me if I was wrong or if he didn’t agree with me. (Everything I thought should have been carved in stone, in his mind.) We almost always did what I wanted to do (not for my lack of trying to get him to suggest something HE actually wanted to do.)

I want a guy with enough testicular fortitude to tell me when I’m wrong, etc.

[TJ]

Re: Are You Currently In A Relationship?

I have a new dilemma.

You know that girl I'm "talking" to? Well, I'm gonna be honest. Lately, I haven't been giving her too much attention. Usually, when a girl I'm talking to or interested in signs on, I'll IM them and ask them what's up. Or, I'll call them throughout the day, or text them. Well, I haven't been doing that to her much, but you can't really blame me. In a way, she seems like she's holding back, but then again, she has a lot of problems going on right now. I can't say I'm too interested in her either. As far as looks go, she's okay. And I'm being honest! I usually never judge by looks. I'm not a shallow guy, or anything. But I'm being honest. Her looks are okay. But her personality is kind of weird.

First of all, she's an atheist. Second, she does a lot of "suicidal things". She's slit her wrists a couple times in the past, and about a week ago, she tried cutting her arm or something. That I don't like. And there's not much I can do to change it, because that's just one of the things she won't understand. When I try to help, she thinks I'm lecturing it. But whatever, I'm not trying to change her.

Now, there's this other girl. We met online last year, around September. I thought she was great, we had A LOT in common, so we started talking. In January, we made plans to meet up on a Friday night. After I got out of class, I called her to see where she was. She didn't pick up. After calling three more times, someone picked up. I said her name, and asked where she was, and a girl replied back with, "Who is this?" I told her who I was, and she said the girl was busy, and she'd call me back. I know what that means. She basically stood me up. We didn't talk for about two whole months. She never IMed me or called me saying what happened. Recently, my close girl friend asked her to hang out after not seeing her for years. She stood her up to. She never picked up her phone that night.

Now, I don't know what this girls problem is, and I haven't even asked her. After those two months, she IMed me by accident, and we started to talk. She said she really missed me, and I missed her too, damn, we had a lot in common. And me being stupid, I kept talking to her, never bringing that night up. Well, now she wants to meet again. This Friday. But I'm not gonna even bother calling her on Friday, because I know what she'll do. But I really like her, and would wanna meet her, because I think we'd really click.

So what should I do. Ask this girl why she did that, and see what's up? Or what? I really don't wanna ask her, it's a little embarrasing. She might have a really good excuse, which I'm hoping before, because I don't wanna admit she stood me up. But, ugh.

Atheist doesnt really matter, but that girl sounds f'ed up, stay away unless you want more problems bro. The second you get too close and she gets too comfy, your are royally f'ed, if this girl gets attached to you there is no way you can shake her off without f'ing her up even worse, and god forbid she actually commits suicide. People that cut their wrists and all that other garbage turn me off immensely, i cant even explain it, i wouldnt even think twice about this girl, either shes totally screwed in the head or shes really really desperate for attention, either way...

as for the second girl, i dont know about you, but id never go back to this girl or even talk to her without an apology, ask her directly wtf was up with last time and if she makes up some bull excuse or tries to say she forgot or whatnot, tell her straight that you dont have the time for her games and if she really is interested in spending time and getting to know you she should learn to remember people,.... yada yada, i dont know where im going, but id slap the b1tch up if she even tried to insult me like that again. you get my point. your not gonna get anywhere by pretending you werent insulted or wronged when you actually have been.