confused and hearth broken!

[Sip]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

I think he hates you because of your spelling. Actually, guys dig chicks that can spell.

[Crissy]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

^^ thanks mate, now I know where I went wrong hahaha lool bloody spelling.

Justme, it's time to move on. get a hobby

[karoaper]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

isn't hearth the thing with the flowers you hang on the door

[Crissy]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

I donno but i want one

[coffeecream]

thinking about cheating...

When we talk of cheating its always doing intimate stuffs with another person apart from the one we love.But what happens if a person thinks of cheating but ends up not even doing it? Is that also considered as cheating?Like in this case, read this story-Was it cheating?

I think that even the thought of it is wrong-if such a thought crossed the mind, there must be something lacking somewhere. Otherwise why would there be the temptation to cheat?

Hmm... food for thought...

[Lamb Boy]

Re: Being in love and cheating

I think that even the thought of it is wrong-if such a thought crossed the mind, there must be something lacking somewhere. Otherwise why would there be the temptation to cheat?

I personally don't see it as much of a temptation. Monogamy seems to go against the grain of our natural biological instincts which imo are to hybridize as much as possible and keep the genetics and the human race going.

To think that because you are with someone that you, or they, are not going to be attracted to other ppl is insane! Girls that have boyfriends still love to flirt and have other guys make them feel that they are beautiful by looking at a guy who might be casting eyes in their direction or offering compliments etc.. Guys naturally are attracted to, well to make a joke of it, anything that moves!! It doesn’t take much to get a man’s imagination going and at the speed we're all capable of thinking at the whole scenario can be grasped in mere seconds. Seems shallow but this is how we ended up where we are today. To go against this is to going against the blueprint so to speak.

Not to say that monogamy is incapable of working, but don't fool yourself into believing that the thought of being with someone else is a form of cheating within itself. That's ... that's CRAZY TALK!! How much $$ is spent on sexual vices worldwide every year? I wonder why ...



Listening choice for thread ... "I Only Have Eyes For You": The Flamingos, classic song where they used a REAL echo chamber that you can hear on the ShooWopDoWop parts ... awesome song.

[garrgarr]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

i believe the best way to look at this is like this:

he's definitely NOT testing you, but if the love between you two is very strong, then you should both be able to trust each other with everything and just understand that u both will make mistakes. imagine u were married, and he made a mistake that disappointed u this much (not a mistake like marrying another girl while married to you.. something else).. and say u 2 got into an arguement. that does not mean that its over, with time u both will learn about each other inside and out and will come to understand that there is no one better to be with than you with him, and him with you. if u keep things strong and straight forward, that is always the best sign in a relationship. i believe if you do work things out before your marriage, you are making a big step into the next stage of life: marriage. you are showing him that when things go wrong during marriage life, that there should be hope that u two will work things out. im sure he knows how wrong it was not 2 tell u, but at least he had the heart to tell you now than later on... he could be credited for that, but not until he sees how much he has hurt u. he should make extra effort to work things out with you too, and go out of his way to prove to you that he still loves u, wants to be with you, and wants you to be able to have complete trust in him for all time.

i hope im not blabbering on, but i think its a good thing to have problems in a relationship, that way u both can see what level u guys are on and can fix things right away, with your eyes closed.. don't think that marriage life will be all dandy and happiness, but you two will find difficult times too.. and thats when you both have to be there and support each other no matter what... "for better of for worse.. til death do us part". they dont say that for no reason

my final advice is: never go to bed knowing you are upset at each other (either before or after marriage). if you have to, stay up all night and talk about it. its better than sleeping with your backs against each other.



much luck to you hokis and i hope u feel better. its tough, but hang in there, be strong and keep your head up!


ps. im only 17, but im pretty sure what i said makes sense according to how i have seen my parents live through things together, 21 years and still going baby!!

[karoaper]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

I donno but i want one

me too, but not a broken one

[angelg87]

Re: confused and hearth broken!

i think in the back of your mind u always knew there was something. or maybe u wanted some secret to come out as a way to back out. i dont kno, im not u. but if hes treated u right from day one and they're divorced anyway than this whole thing shouldnt even matter right? i mean yea he kept it from you...that sucks but has he changed as a person...do u love him any less for not telling u he was divorced....maybe he saw it as a bad luck thing to tell you. Like i said i dont kno ur situation but any decision u make i want to wish you good luck and i hope it works out