The Narcissist Thread

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by antihippy Can't you see that he feeds off of opposition? I think he wants you to disagree with him and challenge him. He isn't seeking validation; he's seeking discord.

I can see that perfectly fine, but thanks for pointing it out. Maybe I shouldn't have said validation, but a reaction. Although, after all, my reaction is validating his existance, so my stance still stands.

[antihippy]

Originally posted by sSsflamesSs I can see that perfectly fine, but thanks for pointing it out. Maybe I shouldn't have said validation, but a reaction. Although, after all, my reaction is validating his existance, so my stance still stands.

Yeah, I bet he's far more assured of his existence now that you've verified it for him. Perhaps the better question is why all of you are so hell-bent on showing that he isn't narcissistic. I kind of get the feeling he is just sitting back laughing at your reactions and isn't even all that serious. I mean, come on, he's preaching like he's the Billy Graham of narcissism. Why are you taking him so seriously?

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by antihippy Why are you taking him so seriously?

Dude (I hope you're a dude, but my appologies if you're a dudette and I was mistaken), who said anything about taking him seriously? Apparently, you haven't been here long enough, but do enjoy your stay.

[loseyourname]

Your stance still stands, flame girl? Very eloquently put. I can even hear your terribly sexy accent if I try hard enough.

You guys are both missing the point. The true narcissist operates independently of outside validation. Validation is certainly nice to have, but it's irrelevant to the true narcissist. The true narcissist spends most of his time alone, and indeed can often be less happy in social surroundings, though certainly no one will be happy by himself all the time. The true narcissist is fully self-assured, but will still welcome the assurance of others. In fact, the true narcissist should be quick to give assurance to others, but more than that, he should try to foster the same self-assuredness in them that he possesses himself. The true narcissist will be giving of his narcissism and will promote the qualities that make him a narcissist in those that he loves.

Now flames, I like you, a lot. It does not, however, make all that much of a difference to me whether or not you like me. I assumed you did, because you seem pleasant enough when with me or when talking to me, but perhaps I am wrong. This is beside the point, though. As long as you behave in a pleasant manner toward me, and I enjoy your company, then I will continue to like you, for the true narcissist will like anything that makes him feel good, regardless of why it does so.

[loseyourname]

The true narcissist will welcome the attempts of others to bring him down or to debunk his narcissism, for indeed this does provide validation in the form of attention. In fact, simply by being narcissistic, the true narcissist has made himself the center of attention, and all of the ugly persons (flames, you're not included here - you might look like a little girl, but you're still gorgeous) coming in to tear down his narcissism have only made themselves pawns in the narcissists arsenal, by which he may further boost his own narcissism.

[sSsflamesSs]

One thing's for sure though - you crack me up.

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by sSsflamesSs One thing's for sure though - you crack me up.

If I can bring a smile to your face, even if I must utterly degrade myself, I am happy.

[Anonymouse]

A good narcissist will feel pity that he can't marry himself.

[sSsflamesSs]

A good narcissist will attempt to make out with himself in the mirror, followed by an exclamation of, "but it's not the same!"

[Anonymouse]

A good narcissist will be angry when he goes to a funeral, that he isn't the corpse.