Growing apart from 'friends'

[Anonymouse]

What if one is not a dog person??

Get a log!


"What rolls down stairs alone or in pairs
Rolls over your neighbor's dog?
What's great for a snack and fits on your back?
It's Log, Log, Log!

It's Log, Log, it's big, it's heavy, it's wood.
It's Log, Log, it's better than bad, it's good!
Everyone wants a log! You're gonna love it, Log!
Come on and get your log! Everyone needs a Log!"

Okay, sorry to ruin such a wonderful thread with such wonderful and friendly decorum. I will move my antics to the ankap thread.

[Siggie]

isnt that song from Ren and Stimpy?

[Anonymouse]

isnt that song from Ren and Stimpy?

Yes, it is. Did you watch it too? In those years the only friends I had were Ren and Stimpy.

[ArmoBarbi]

Yes, it is. Did you watch it too? In those years the only friends I had were Ren and Stimpy.

That answers so many questions.

[jessoussi]

welllll............i don't think i've grown apart from anyone....it's just that we had our misconceptions, and they misunderstood me in certain situations where i had done nothing wrong......and......that's all......i'm close to all my frnds

[loseyourname]

I am beginning to feel that friendships are only solid while circumstances dictate their necessity and when circumstances change so does the solidity of friendships which become loosened and unraveled. It's kind of a sad thought, if you think about it.... so is this a common thing, or only me?

I've always thought this way. There is nothing unique about any one person that I call a "friend" at any given time. Anyone is replaceable. The only real advantage to having long-standing friends is that they know you well and you know them well. Growing up, however, people change a lot, so that it gets to the point where you are no longer the person they knew and vice versa. No big deal. There are 6 billion people in this world and one is as good as another.

[winoman]

I've always thought this way. There is nothing unique about any one person that I call a "friend" at any given time. Anyone is replaceable. The only real advantage to having long-standing friends is that they know you well and you know them well. Growing up, however, people change a lot, so that it gets to the point where you are no longer the person they knew and vice versa. No big deal. There are 6 billion people in this world and one is as good as another.

I completely disagree. People are unique and the bonds of friendship - particularly though specific (soemtimes trying or otherwsie stressful) circumstances creates close and powerful relationships. Even more casual friendships are not (always) just interchangable per se - as there are people of value and those who have special (shared...) interests that are not necissarily just out there in the world - and our lives our short (perhaps your point would be of value if our lives were long enough to have the time to meet all our possible firends or such...). And that you have such a callous attitude concerning the interchangability of people is very telling regarding yourself IMO. You strike me as extremely self-centered, shallow and not at all a very giving person - I find your low value of friends a real deficiency in your outlook - too bad (as it is you who is missing out IMO) - and as you otherwise seem to have alot going for you.

[Inna]

I have known two of my best friends since 2nd grade and we've been close friends since then. It was a really weird bond that connected the three of us, we still laugh at how we managed to become friends in the beginning when none of us spoke English. All three of us had just moved to the US and we met in our ESL classes. We went to the same elementary, middle and high school together so we always grew closer and never apart. Now that we all go to different colleges we are slowly growing apart, which kind of scares me so we always try to make every effort to get togther over breaks and catch up on things.

If all other friendships in my life fail, at least I have my sisters

[ArmoBarbi]

Yeah I have a friendship type relationship with my two girl cousins in the US. Although neither of them are someone I would naturally befriend.

[loseyourname]

I completely disagree. People are unique and the bonds of friendship - particularly though specific (soemtimes trying or otherwsie stressful) circumstances creates close and powerful relationships.

Name me any one person and I'll name you another that is essentially the same person. The only difference is shared experience and the personal affection that comes with it. I'm not that affectionate so, for me, none of that particularly matters.

And that you have such a callous attitude concerning the interchangability of people is very telling regarding yourself IMO. You strike me as extremely self-centered, shallow and not at all a very giving person

Make whatever conclusions you want; they make little difference to me. I don't value people very much. I value ideas and I value the work that I do, whatever it may be. These are more important to me than people. I don't think that makes me self-centered; it makes me impersonally centered. I don't see why giving should be limited to a small number of people that you call "friends" of why someone that doesn't have many can't be giving.

I find your low value of friends a real deficiency in your outlook - too bad (as it is you who is missing out IMO) - and as you otherwise seem to have alot going for you.

Everybody misses out on something. As you said, life is short. I choose to miss out on what I don't value much - longstanding, meaningful friendships. On the other hand, I experience a good deal of what I do value. Isn't that the way everyone lives their lives? Am I really such a bad person because what I value is different from what you value?