Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

[yerazhishda]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

Just do it, all good Armenians have casual sex.

[UrMistake]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

why u are virgin u are 20,not to juge but here in greece most of the girls lost there virginity at 17-19,sex u know is not a bad thing,i dont know that guy so i will not push u to having sex with him,also he lives far away,not good thing,maybe if u meet him quit time then decide.
its not shame also introduce him to ur frineds or parents,in greece its ok u dont need to have long time relashionship to do that.

[Sip]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

I personally don't think the sex part is a big deal ... however, it seems this guy has some plans (meet, sex, marriage?) which just sounds like a recipe for disaster. You can't put these things on a time-table and you certainly shouldn't pressure yourself or anyone else to 'speed' anything up.

The problem is not the meeting or the sex or even the marriage proposal .. the problem is it just takes some time to figure out whether you like him and he likes you and whether you will get along or not.

I mean just ask yourself this ... are you even comfortable TALKING to this guy on the phone? If that seems uncomfortable right now, a long meeting is just a bad idea ... a short meeting for coffee or lunch/dinner/movie wouldn't be a problem but it may not be practical if you live far away.

[PlaydohBrains]

Re: Should I let him know that I don't intend on having sex so early?

Hi all!

This is my first post on this forum and it's nice to meet you!
I would like to hear men's opinion on this question however women are also welcome to answer
I was contacted by this Armenian guy via email (through on line dating) I'm also Armenian. We have exchanged a few emails. A few days ago I was online so we chatted about general staff. Yesterday we had quite a long chat. He started to ask some personal/intimate questions (Not in a bad way) I answered and questioned him back. I guess he didn't feel comfortable to answer and said he will tell me later when we meet. I apologized and said that I studied biology and can speak about many things very openly so he has to be careful! (meaning that he has to be careful about his questions as I might question him back even more in detail) Of course I was joking

Anyway, all of a sudden he asked
You don't like if a man comes very fast, do you? (premature ejaculation) i didn't expect him to ask such question so early and gave a general answer saying that it is a known fact that women don't like it however many man experience this problem. He followed with a question if I would be angry with him if it happens the first time. Again I gave a general answer saying that No, I wouldn't and it is likely to happen first time as man can be nervous or anxious and there is nothing to be angry about that. I guess he appreciated my answer, thanked me and said that I'm very sweet.

The point is that though I'm in my mid 20s I have never had sex before because I didn't meet someone that I had feelings and felt that he was the right person for me.

So, my question is did I make a mistake by not letting him know that I didn't have sex before?
We chatted about other things and I don't think sex is the only thing he had in his mind. He asked if he could visit me? I said he could.
Then he mentioned that he wants to come next weekend for 2 days as he wants to spend more time with me. We said good bye on this and decided to arrange the time next time we chat.
So, another concern I have is that I don't know him very well and I am not sure if I will feel comfortable to spend 2 full days with him. Of course I can tell him that but he is coming from another country (we are in Europe)...

and the most important question

Do you think he is expecting to have sex? (I just have a gut feeling that he is expecting but I might be getting wrong) I don't intend on having sex with him so early even If I like him a lot. Later on if I had fillings and would feel he is the right man for me than it would be fine for me. Of course I know how to behave me and keep under control but I want everything between us to be clear. So, if he is coming, having in his mind to have sex then I would like to let him know that no sex can be involved during our first meeting. Do you think I have to tell him next time we chat or I would sound paranoid ?

Thanks in advance!

If he isn't the right person and you don't feel he is, why are you having second thoughts and asking this on a forum? Your gut is telling you the right thing to do and that is to let this guy know that you don't want to have sex and for him to move on and stop having any hopes.

Good luck.

[MrHyeSev]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

Such wisdom.

I know thanks Anonymouse.

[midsummer]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

Just keep you posted. We didn't get to meet. I asked him not to come. So, that's the end of story :-)

why u are virgin u are 20,not to juge but here in greece most of the girls lost there virginity at 17-19.

I don't think there is a certain age when one has to loose his/her virginity. It's a personal choice. You have to do it when you are ready or want to do it.

[Sip]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

Awesome ... another potentially great romance broken. Our job here is done!!!!!!!!

[UrMistake]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

u afraid of sex?or this thing with parents will have to meet him first and stuff like that?
maybe u meet alot xxxxxxxs americans.did u fell in love?
u must had some serious relashionship.

[midsummer]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

awesome ... Another potentially great romance broken. Our job here is done!!!!!!!!

That was funny!

[MrHyeSev]

Re: Should I let him know that I'm not intend on having sex so early?

So now you'll never know if he was Mr. Right heh.