Dear Gegev and Yedtarts, both of you seem to really be rather offended by my bisexuality. Hopefully I can answer any questions or just let you vent on the topic. It's easier to keep the whole discussion here because a) it's directed at me anyway, and b) i don't want to fill my other thread going over a different topic.
I'll start with Yedtarts' latest comment to me:
To answer your first question, yes, my boyfriend is completely aware of my bisexuality. He knows of past girlfriends and we also "check out" females together. We'll swap images, rate them, etc.
If i may, i'd find it easier to paraphrase your other comments for clarity on my part. if i misunderstood, please let me know.
1. "Bisexuals are spoiled, confused, and brainwashed people" because Hollywood and the rest of the media made it "cool, different, and unique" (traits youth aspire towards) to be bisexual. They are also rude because they shove it in our faces and expect to be praised about it as if they received a medal of honor."
Firstly, scientifically and philosophically there is a debate as to how bisexuals come to be. Some people, like yourself, believe it's because of the media. I'd agree to an extent. Many bisexuals that I have come across were straight, then just say they're bisexual because it's a latest fad. I, myself, get insulted and angry at those fakes. However, I am of the belief that many of us are simply that way. I couldn't control it. I wasn't brainwashed. My evidence? I was not raised with much TV or radio. I was mostly raised in a strictly Roman Catholic fashion. Further, my earliest female crush was when i was very young (3rd grade). I was completely confused until I hit high school. I am not a fan of the media and avoid it. I don't think it's "cool" to be bisexual. I'm accepting of it and mentor other students struggling with that and the "hate crimes" they receive. I will not go into just how many physical fights, arguments, sneers, harrassment that I have received by simply being bisexual. I will simply say i've had more than most straight people experience in their lifetime, and I have yet to be 21 years old.
Secondly, I did not wear my bisexuality as a badge. Though you saw me mention it in the Armenian identity/women thread, that is not how it was first 'revealed'. It was under Motivational Posters. I posted one that was obviously sexual regarding females but funny because it tried to project that cupcakes were the real point of the poster. Gegev, in a very round about way, essentially asked what my sexuality is. That was when i said: it is none of your business but since you dont know me and i'm nice anyway, i'm bisexual.
I am one of the bisexuals that joined "GALAS" : Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. I am also a bisexual that doesn't believe i should have to hide my sexuality. We get bombarded with "straight" orientation ALL THE TIME for DECADES. It's not a new concept. It's expected of people to be that way. When they discover someone that's not, they usually rely on hate and force to try to change that person. I warn you, it doesn't work. Why should I live in fear all the time? No, I am who I am. I love myself. I have a supportive network (boyfriend, GALAS, friends...). Also, no one's advocating straight people turn gay. That'd be simply ludicrous. All I ask is to be accepted for who I am, regardless of if you approve or disapprove it. Discrimination hurts, regardless of if you're the minority Armenian, or if you're bisexual. It's even worse if you're both (i would know, GALAS as told me many things.)
2. Why is it ok to be "cool and bisexual," but not to like 2 females at one time?
"Cool and bisexual" comes from Hollywood trying to promote tolerance, not it's the latest fad. That's young people taking it too far doing that. Your other half is rather divided. Some people promote "Free love" where that is completely okay. In America, it is also okay. In free love, it is even okay to have relationships with both women. For the rest of us that is not okay. Just because someone is bisexual, doesn't mean they're having two relationships: one with a boy and one with a girl. I have one boyfriend. I am also attracted to other females. He has me as his one girlfriend. He is also attracted to other females.
Here in America, it is common practice to "date around." In other words, date various people without intention to marry just yet. This practice teaches someone what they want or don't want in a relationship. If someone "matches" with them, or not. Cheating is still frowned upon.
I'll start with Yedtarts' latest comment to me:
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To answer your first question, yes, my boyfriend is completely aware of my bisexuality. He knows of past girlfriends and we also "check out" females together. We'll swap images, rate them, etc.
If i may, i'd find it easier to paraphrase your other comments for clarity on my part. if i misunderstood, please let me know.
1. "Bisexuals are spoiled, confused, and brainwashed people" because Hollywood and the rest of the media made it "cool, different, and unique" (traits youth aspire towards) to be bisexual. They are also rude because they shove it in our faces and expect to be praised about it as if they received a medal of honor."
Firstly, scientifically and philosophically there is a debate as to how bisexuals come to be. Some people, like yourself, believe it's because of the media. I'd agree to an extent. Many bisexuals that I have come across were straight, then just say they're bisexual because it's a latest fad. I, myself, get insulted and angry at those fakes. However, I am of the belief that many of us are simply that way. I couldn't control it. I wasn't brainwashed. My evidence? I was not raised with much TV or radio. I was mostly raised in a strictly Roman Catholic fashion. Further, my earliest female crush was when i was very young (3rd grade). I was completely confused until I hit high school. I am not a fan of the media and avoid it. I don't think it's "cool" to be bisexual. I'm accepting of it and mentor other students struggling with that and the "hate crimes" they receive. I will not go into just how many physical fights, arguments, sneers, harrassment that I have received by simply being bisexual. I will simply say i've had more than most straight people experience in their lifetime, and I have yet to be 21 years old.
Secondly, I did not wear my bisexuality as a badge. Though you saw me mention it in the Armenian identity/women thread, that is not how it was first 'revealed'. It was under Motivational Posters. I posted one that was obviously sexual regarding females but funny because it tried to project that cupcakes were the real point of the poster. Gegev, in a very round about way, essentially asked what my sexuality is. That was when i said: it is none of your business but since you dont know me and i'm nice anyway, i'm bisexual.
I am one of the bisexuals that joined "GALAS" : Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. I am also a bisexual that doesn't believe i should have to hide my sexuality. We get bombarded with "straight" orientation ALL THE TIME for DECADES. It's not a new concept. It's expected of people to be that way. When they discover someone that's not, they usually rely on hate and force to try to change that person. I warn you, it doesn't work. Why should I live in fear all the time? No, I am who I am. I love myself. I have a supportive network (boyfriend, GALAS, friends...). Also, no one's advocating straight people turn gay. That'd be simply ludicrous. All I ask is to be accepted for who I am, regardless of if you approve or disapprove it. Discrimination hurts, regardless of if you're the minority Armenian, or if you're bisexual. It's even worse if you're both (i would know, GALAS as told me many things.)
2. Why is it ok to be "cool and bisexual," but not to like 2 females at one time?
"Cool and bisexual" comes from Hollywood trying to promote tolerance, not it's the latest fad. That's young people taking it too far doing that. Your other half is rather divided. Some people promote "Free love" where that is completely okay. In America, it is also okay. In free love, it is even okay to have relationships with both women. For the rest of us that is not okay. Just because someone is bisexual, doesn't mean they're having two relationships: one with a boy and one with a girl. I have one boyfriend. I am also attracted to other females. He has me as his one girlfriend. He is also attracted to other females.
Here in America, it is common practice to "date around." In other words, date various people without intention to marry just yet. This practice teaches someone what they want or don't want in a relationship. If someone "matches" with them, or not. Cheating is still frowned upon.
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