Can guys and girls be friends?

[HyeJinx1984]

Indeed it is... I'm way too hot... I'm burnin up! ...........Wait... sh*t, the kitchen's on fire again! *runs out*

[angelik22]

hurry hurry get a pan and some water

[HyeJinx1984]

*gets a pan full of water and splashes it all over the kitchen, looking quite sexy and heroic while he does so. Putting the fire out he strikes a sexy pose and drinks a coke* Aahhh...

[angelik22]

now dont take that shirt off now...

**with utmost sarcasm

[gevo]

Maybe I should make a correction in my initial post with the question. My question is can guys and girls be friends and NOT WANT ANYTHING FROM EACHOTHER SEXUALLY, and NOT BE ATTRACTED TO EACHOTHER SEXUALLY.....

OK.. this is verrry think ice we are walking on.. lol.. and im getting tangled up in all the possibilities.. ay ay ay.. .. but.. i am sure one can be a friend with another and think he/she is sexually attractive as well as other ways.. thats beyond this point.. and have a girl/boyfriend AND only be friends with the other person whom they beleive is sexually attractd.. That though is to defer from.. BEING sexually attracted to another guy/girl.. instead of thinking they are sexually attractive.. whoaw... that was tough to say in words.. haha..

Me having a girlfriend, and being able to admit/say/comment that such and such girl is pretty.. that does not in anyway say that i do not think MY girlfriend is attractive, pretty.. etc.. soo CK to answer your question i think yes it is possible to keep/excel in your relationship to your significant other and be able to say "that girl is pretty/attractive etc//", buuut i do see that if i were to say "she is sexually attractive" to my girlfriend.. that might be more of an issue.. HAHA.. ayyy back to square one eh?...

OH and btw: just to cleat things up..i didnt say that i would not mind being more than friends with my female friends.. other than my girlfriend.. cause if that were the case.. things woulda happened loooooong ago.. lol.. now.. i have to go to work!!! SONOxxxUN!!

[anileve]

My definition of a romantic love is friendship with sex. The only thing that makes a relationship different is the carnal desire or lack of it.

I have always wondered about this and I dare not ask my guy friends for obvious reasons. Would men refuse a sexual offer from an attractive, close platonic friend? I cannot be just friends with someone who I find sexually attractive, it always leads to different path, thus I would never ever have a fling with anyone of my friends. Although, some of my male friends are my ex boyfriends, but once again I don’t feel even slightly attracted to them anymore. Men, on the other hand for some reason can be great friends with a woman and if she is attractive and decides to break the rules they will gladly welcome the opportunity without being afraid that it might ruin things in the future.

Also I don’t know about others, I would be interested to know however, I am very cold physically towards my friends. There might be a quick slight kiss on the cheek, a super fast hug with a minimal body contact. I feel very uncomfortable with a physical closeness with my guyfriends. I can chill at their place with my feet up or just laying out on a couch but far away from them. Once I felt really close to one of my guyfriends in a sisterly way, I would often put my head on his shoulder or lean on him, until one day as I made a sudden and clumsy move and brushed against an “obstacle”. That totally freaked me out and from then on I always keep my distance. I am very affectionate with men whom I date, however with my friends regardless of their gender any display of physical affection surprises them, because I am considered to be an iceberg.

[winoman]

I've probably experienced all of the above (categories/situations etc of male-female friendship) at one time or another. That being said I still have female friends from way way back - who are still good friends where there is absolutely no sexual element - well OK - let me qualify - some I have no attraction/interest (and/or vice versa...and it always does take two to tango - as it were...) - and with others I do (or sometimes its at one time did...)...but IMO it (maintaining a non-sexually orientated friendship) is both still possible - and has in fact worked out great being friends with these gals - attraction or not...and (even with such) it does not necessarily lead to a "relationship" in a sexual sense (again 2 to tango...and circumstance - of course - if one or the other has been involved...etc). I've also (in the past) had daliances with friends - that were just for fun - and while they always did seem to change the relationship somewhat (as any intense shared experience does and should do - particulalry a loving one...) - in most cases fundementally we retained our freindhsip just as before....so yeah - it is certainly possible.

[winoman]

I have always wondered about this and I dare not ask my guy friends for obvious reasons. Would men refuse a sexual offer from an attractive, close platonic friend? I cannot be just friends with someone who I find sexually attractive, it always leads to different path, thus I would never ever have a fling with anyone of my friends. Although, some of my male friends are my ex boyfriends, but once again I don’t feel even slightly attracted to them anymore. Men, on the other hand for some reason can be great friends with a woman and if she is attractive and decides to break the rules they will gladly welcome the opportunity without being afraid that it might ruin things in the future.

I have one very long time (female) friend - who was just gorgeous (and still is!) - that I often flirt with. At one time I was very interested (and she knew it...and an interesting aside - I had a girlfriend who was also very attracted to her and who encouraged me to make something work out for the 3 of us ...never did though..I actually presented/offered...but...she wasn't interested...ah well..would have been great fun...)...so nothing ever happened between us...she was never attracted to me (that way) - seemngly (and I never really pushed it - beyond flirts and suggestions etc) and she ussually was in other relationships anyway - etc...but we always had fun together (and still do)...and are still very good friends...

I also have been able to maintain good (platonic) relations with some of my ex's - 2 are still good friends....sometimes there is still a bit of flirting and even touching/kisses etc and affection and such - and attraction on this level - but never more...I would be lying if I said I still didn't have (perhaps) interest in more...but its not serious as my situation is not condusive to it and the interest certainly isn't great enough to risk anything...etc

[anileve]

I have one very long time (female) friend - who was just gorgeous (and still is!) - that I often flirt with. At one time I was very interested (and she knew it...and an interesting aside - I had a girlfriend who was also very attracted to her and who encouraged me to make something work out for the 3 of us ...never did though..I actually presented/offered...but...she wasn't interested...ah well..would have been great fun...)

I also have been able to maintain good (platonic) relations with some of my ex's - 2 are still good friends....sometimes there is still a bit of flirting and even touching/kisses etc and affection and such - and attraction on this level - but never more...I would be lying if I said I still didn't have (perhaps) interest in more...

Too racy for me. You are exactly one of those guys I stay far from. You are....how should I say this....too extravagant for my little mind. DAAANGER!

[winoman]

Too racy for me. You are exactly one of those guys I stay far from. You are....how should I say this....too extravagant for my little mind. DAAANGER!

shame...

...and just because I may lust for you (hypothetically of course) - doesn't mean we couldn't still be (platonic) friends...