Can guys and girls be friends?

[Emil]

She is not really just your friend if you're sexually, more-than-friends-ly attracted to her.

Then what is she oh wise one?

[ckBejug]

Then what is she oh wise one?

Someone you're attracted to and want to go out with. You are technically being her friend under false pretenses. You want her. End of story. The whole point of this thread is can you ne friends w/someone without wanting to be with them. Can guys and girls be friends minus the sexual attracion?Whereby you should answer NO, because I am quite attracted to my female friend and would like to go out with her. Oh not-so-wise one.

[Emil]

Someone you're attracted to and want to go out with. You are technically being her friend under false pretenses. You want her. End of story. The whole point of this thread is can you ne friends w/someone without wanting to be with them. Can guys and girls be friends minus the sexual attracion?Whereby you should answer NO, because I am quite attracted to my female friend and would like to go out with her. Oh not-so-wise one.

Thank you for educating us not-so-wise one's. Where would the world be without people like you?

[dusken]

In dire straits.

[gevo]

Have you guys ever heard of this?

The Ladder Theory

So, what do you think... Can guys and girls ever just be friends?

Yes they can be just friends.. but that doesnt mean on is not attracted to the other in a sexual way as well on a more deeper friendship level.. being attracted sexually is not bad.. its obvious if you are or are not. but if you were to lust and want sex from your friends.. well thats then changin gthe "friendship" status... so it depends on individual as i see it.. My best friends is a girl and i have not had sex with her, and i dont see a problem in saying that i love someone as a friend.. its very udnerstandable and possible.. i know.. cause im in it.. .. lol.. basically then.. yes. guys and girls can be just friends.. as much as some peopel cant see tht.. or cant be that way. others can.

[gevo]

In my class, there is a girl, the first day I saw her I knew we would become close. 10 months later we are very good friends, we act like an old married couple. People in class say "You two act like you've been dating for years." I haven't asked her out on a date type deal, yet. She's said before "We are just friends." But on the other hand, she's done/said stuff to make me think there could be more. So right now I'm not going after the romantic part, if we just stay friends then it's fine with me, if something else happens, then even better. I know I will always adore her and remain good friends after school ends this December.
So ya, I think guys and girls can be friends.

The difference between your case and what i beleive is more relevant to answer yes to the original question is.. that you "wouldnt" mind u say if something more happens, meaning apparantly you would not mind to go out with her and whatever else.. but the point is being friends.. and staying friends.. for example i could have my girlfriend.. and still be very close with my other female friends.. as much as people tell me its not possible.. they are wrong.. cause im doing it allready.. haha.. one of my best friends is of the opposite gender and we have been best friends for over 4 years.. havent touched her in any way other than friends.. and been out countless times.. so its very easily possible...

[ckBejug]

Thank you for educating us not-so-wise one's. Where would the world be without people like you?

a TERRIBLE place, of course!

[ckBejug]

Yes they can be just friends.. but that doesnt mean on is not attracted to the other in a sexual way as well on a more deeper friendship level.. being attracted sexually is not bad...

If you have a female friend you'd possibly be sexually attracted to, then you can bet your girlfriend will NOT like that at all. On the other hand, if you haven't had, and do not have, a girlfriend, then NO PROBLEM if you have a female friend you're attracted to.

[Sip]

The "ladder theory" is fundamentally flawed as it assumes (incorrectly) that you can't be friends with someone you want to have sex with.

[ckBejug]

The "ladder theory" is fundamentally flawed as it assumes (incorrectly) that you can't be friends with someone you want to have sex with.

Maybe I should make a correction in my initial post with the question. My question is can guys and girls be friends and NOT WANT ANYTHING FROM EACHOTHER SEXUALLY, and NOT BE ATTRACTED TO EACHOTHER SEXUALLY. I have guy friends I am sexually attracted to, in fact all through college I had plenty of these friends. There were no physical 'benefits' per se, other than someone to hang out with and flirt with, drink with, all good clean fun, whatever. My point is, looking beyond that kind of friendship to the point where you are, for example, in a relationship with a gf or a bf and you still have these friends of the opposite sex that at some point in your life you used to be attracted to but for whatever reason you're not anymore... Can you guys still be friends without it hurting your relationship or is there always going to be some kind of sexual attraction because of the whole opposite sex thing? Altready a few people have demonstrated how they have these GREAT female friends, that they wouildn't mind going out with. Well they prove that friendship w/out sexual attraction isn't possible....