Interracial Relationships.

[pie569]

Staying Armenian

I just think that, we all should date whoever we want to whether we date ebony, oriental or armenian. It is sooo depressing that we all stay Armenian.
yes, our Folks get mad, but they must learn that this is America and times are different now. I do think that if I find an Armenian girl, that would be great and to marry and all, but why can't we just date whoever comes along? Suppose a nice Ebony girl wants to marry you what the devil you gonna tell them? No babe but my dad will get pissed off at me cuz he does not like ebony people, or no babe, i am forced to marry Armenian. SIGH........

[HyeJinx1984]

You know what I can't stand (cause we're on the subject and all)? People who insist on typing Armenian words with English characters when chatting online.

[HyeJinx1984]

It is sooo depressing that we all stay Armenian.

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wow...

[dstyle]

It is sooo depressing that we all stay Armenian.

Ya, I agree wow.

[SagGal]

yes, our Folks get mad, but they must learn that this is America and times are different now. I do think that if I find an Armenian girl, that would be great and to marry and all, but why can't we just date whoever comes along? Suppose a nice Ebony girl wants to marry you what the devil you gonna tell them? No babe but my dad will get pissed off at me cuz he does not like ebony people, or no babe, i am forced to marry Armenian. SIGH........

I understand what you're saying, but for me, and the way my parents taught me ever since we came to the States, is that just because we live in America doesn't mean we are going to be raised the American way or w/e. America is outside the home, Armenia is inside the home. This is how my parents always put it.
The excuse shouldn't be, "No babe but my dad will get pissed off at me cuz he does not like ebony people," because it shouldn't be about not liking a race. What excuse do you have to not like a race? *sough*racism*cough* It's mostly about a lot of interracial relationships having a very hard time in the marriage. Different traditions, foods, etc. do not seem like a concern to the couple in the beginning because they agree to compromise. Later, these things begin to be a problem. A problem like, your other half not liking your nationality's foods or dances. Arguments begin and well, there you have it. However, if both of the people in the relationship are so Americanized then it wouldn't make a difference to them because they will live the American way. I know that a lot of interracial relationships begin beautifully but when the couple ties the knot, most of the time it fails.

[winoman]

SagGirl - you make it sound so negative...when in fact it can be alearning experience - an adventure in discovery - broaden your horizons etc...one never knows if they don't try. Not saying you must - but there are positive aspects as well.

And well - you do live in America baby....its certainly possible to carry on your traditions at home - and even to live in an insular manner - as if you were back in Yerevan or what have you still - and I've seen some who do just that...but bottom line - you live herein the States - that is reality now...and - again - you just might be missing out a bit...and talk of problems (as you have done with interacial (?) relationships...well think of the battles you will be having with your kids...who will know nothing else but living in the States...will you send them only to Armenian school, insist that they only have Armenains friends..etc etc...and when will you cut the apron? And how prepared for their world will they be with such an upbringing....

U.S. & America ain't all bad either....

[pie569]

hmmm

well in today's society it is difficult to have a relationship, let alone get married. so we being armenian and all does have it's good points . we tend to stay together better than any other nationality. thou some of us are adapting to the marry and devorce routine now.

all i am saying is it is not easy anymore even for armenians. i for one don't even have a girl friend and i am 35! i guess i better start going to armenian affairs.

because in accuallity armenian relationships last better than other nationalities. and it is a fact.

[Crimson Glow]

SagGal, your theory of most interracial marriages failing, weather true or not, is irrelevant. You're forgetting that most marriages fail, period. Regardless of race, regardless of religion, regardless of income level, regardless of weather the wife has a job or not. People are in a rush to get married due to pressure and not wanting to be alone, and thus, end up with some shmuck they have no feelings for deep down inside, but have convinced themselves otherwise.

By the way, wouldn't he/she find out that the significant other doesn't care for his/her culture (food, dances, customs, etc) before they get married? How would they have a pre-marriage relationship without the subject coming up (and fights breaking out if they're going to happen) frequently?

because in accuallity armenian relationships last better than other nationalities. and it is a fact.

Did it ever occur to you that the reason for this is because it's an unspoken rule that Armenian women are to shut the f*ck up and put up with the abuse of the husband (be it emotional, physical, or otherwise)? Armenian women stick it out with their men no matter what they do to them. If she knows he's cheating on her, if he insults and belittles her constantly, if he knocks her teeth out, it doesn't matter. They stick it out for...."the sake of the children". Nice load of crap. If you want to continue suffering the consequences of your issues, that's your problem. But don't make your kids endure the repercussions of your decision, and then to top it off, say you're keeping this going for them. By the way, ladies, are you going to keep that Armenian custom going, too, or are you going to pick and choose which part of the Armenian culture you're going to practice/"keep alive"?

[HyeJinx1984]

Did it ever occur to you that the reason for this is because it's an unspoken rule that Armenian women are to shut the f*ck up and put up with the abuse of the husband (be it emotional, physical, or otherwise)? Armenian women stick it out with their men no matter what they do to them. If she knows he's cheating on her, if he insults and belittles her constantly, if he knocks her teeth out, it doesn't matter. They stick it out for...."the sake of the children". Nice load of crap. If you want to continue suffering the consequences of your issues, that's your problem. But don't make your kids endure the repercussions of your decision, and then to top it off, say you're keeping this going for them. By the way, ladies, are you going to keep that Armenian custom going, too, or are you going to pick and choose which part of the Armenian culture you're going to practice/"keep alive"?

*left eye twiches as he stares in shock*

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wow...

[SagGal]

Winoman:
Yes, a learning experience, but why test it with marriage? We don't like and accept everything we learn.

Now you're talking about my future kids, so you are putting this on me. All I did was say what I see, but OK. If they will be raised in U.S. they will see both sides, but when it comes to something as important as marriage, has to be Armenian. It's not like I'm saying that knowing about other traditions is bad. Me wanting my future kids to be married to Armenians does not mean I will insist on them only being friends with Armenians. That's ridicuous. Heeeellooooo. I am not a racist and I do not surround myself with only Armenians. Heck, I went to the most diverse high school in my city and most of my friends are American.

Who said U.S. and America were bad?

Crimson:
Agreeing with you on your first paragraph, but that's just about people rushing to get married and not taking it seriously.

The second part = Well, DUH! Of course in the beginning of the relationship the couple (interracial couple of course) know all about each other's traditions and agree to take part in both of their traditions, religions, etc. but it is most likely that later on, someone from the relationship will not accept their partner's tradition anymore. Very similar to you saying, "...women stick it out with their men no matter what they do to them." And that doesn't only go toward Armenians. When they reach that part they cannot just back away from it because they are MARRIED to the person. That is where the divorce comes in and well, the rest is clear. Not a successful marriage.