Alright to be shy?

[spiral]

I wonder if a lot of guys "practice" like that.
I mean that's A LOT of work. it's almost fake.
I don't want guys trying HARD to get my attention.

I agree.

Also, mouse all that preparing sounds like my earlier mentioned "Apprehension". It sounds a bit like wacko-apprehension, but nonetheless.

And I agree on the eye-contact,and straight back. Practice that !eek, it intimidates, and gives you presence.

[!EEK]

I agree.

Also, mouse all that preparing sounds like my earlier mentioned "Apprehension". It sounds a bit like wacko-apprehension, but nonetheless.

And I agree on the eye-contact,and straight back. Practice that !eek, it intimidates, and gives you presence.

What I really need for practice is an inflatable doll Well going to bed, have school tomorrow...

[spiral]

I think you need a psychologist. really.

It seems like you have some sort of social anxiety disorder.



There's Zoloft.

Have you seen the little jelly blobs that are sad, and don't speak to eachother, and then they take zoloft, and become so social with the other blobs? (commercial)

[loseyourname]

And I agree on the eye-contact,and straight back. Practice that !eek, it intimidates, and gives you presence.

That kind of depends. If the dude is 5'6" with a 14 year-old face, nothing he does is going to intimidate anyone. Especially if he has a goofy voice. You've gotta go with what you've got. If you're naturally intimidating, go with it. If not, don't fake it.

[!EEK]

That kind of depends. If the dude is 5'6" with a 14 year-old face, nothing he does is going to intimidate anyone. Especially if he has a goofy voice. You've gotta go with what you've got. If you're naturally intimidating, go with it. If not, don't fake it.

huh....in my profile do I look intimidating??

[Anonymouse]

Thank you mouse! I really would have expected your comments to be the most unuseful when I first saw you posted something.

So in resumé its:

-overconfident
-funny
-don't show to much attention towards women

Not overconfident. That's a weakness. Just confidence.

Funny, and cokky at the same time.

Show attention, but not overly so. Dont be generic. Be confident. And have eye contact. Posture straight. Be relaxed. Be friendly. Once you get passed her defenses, its smooth sailing from there.

[Anonymouse]

Heyhey...veeryone has a different approach.. ..can't take it no more.

I would be more tempted to listen to women's counsel but mouse's stuff seems very believable..

Like I said eek, do not listen to the women in here. They do not know what they speak of. Just trust me on this, will ya? This isn't trying too hard if you think about it. This is the least a guy can do. Trying too hard is the path of destruction, what doesnt work. Thats the problem. Thinking too much. Over analyzing too much. Fearing rejection too much.

[thedebutante]

Not overconfident. That's a weakness. Just confidence.

Funny, and cokky at the same time.

Show attention, but not overly so. Dont be generic. Be confident. And have eye contact. Posture straight. Be relaxed. Be friendly. Once you get passed her defenses, its smooth sailing from there.

Smooth sailing eh? Good to know.

[Anonymouse]

I agree.

Also, mouse all that preparing sounds like my earlier mentioned "Apprehension". It sounds a bit like wacko-apprehension, but nonetheless.

And I agree on the eye-contact,and straight back. Practice that !eek, it intimidates, and gives you presence.

The key is for guys to get over that apprehension. Men are hardwired with that self conscious attitude of fear of getting rejected or what the other side thinks. Because men approach women, it is women that have the last word and might reject, therefore men have developed this mental projection of fear. It is hardwired into the male psyche, and it can be overcome. Like Zen Buddhists who do exercises to confront certain fears, this is the same. The practice, which you women think is "too much", is simply what a guy should do to permanantly get over that pansy attitude of fear and shyness, and not care of reaction. It takes practice to fully get women eating out of the palm of your hand. Any guy can do this. Looks and money don't matter in order to strike attraction with women eek. The key is to be yourself, be unique, and confident. That is all. So keep sayin hi to random chicks and follow up on that. Remember, you WILL get rejected alot and expect it, but thats a small price to pay, for, say, three years from now you mastered all there is in the art of persuasion and charm.

[loseyourname]

huh....in my profile do I look intimidating??

Nope, but you do look a lot like Ryan Phillipe. You've probably never heard of him, but I do recall that he was quite popular with the ladies for a while. You should take heart. It's too bad you aren't gay; I can only imagine how much ass you would get.