"Guy Friends"

[Anonymouse]

One thing that I will never understand is girls who have alot of, if not only, guy friends. They say "I don't like girls, I don't get along with them, they are cat like. I like guys better. Most of my friends are guys".

Today on my way home from school I was listening to Tom Leykis, and he had a topic going about girls who have guy friends. This one caller called in and said that the girl he was dating had too many guy friends. He would see them flirting, and long hugs, and such. Another caller said he had the same thing, and the girls always assure them that "hes just a friend", and caught her cheating. Tom's advice was to "dump that bytch", which I happen to agree with.

I am not insinuating that to have guy friends means you will cheat necessarily. Of course it depends on the girl. However, girls with guy friends, for the most part, are sexually promiscuous or liberal. Not all the time, but for the general part, that is the trend. They like the attention from the guys they get. And girls who think guys are just their friends do not know guys.

Men and women are different. As such the thing that binds them is attraction. Guys and girls cannot, ever, EVER be friends, without their being some ulterior motive. The girl might not know, and truly believe the guy is her friend, but the guy, being a guy, thinks differently. Men and women think differently, is my point. A girl may assure her boyfriend that "he's just a friend", but the boyfriend knows better, because he is a guy, and knows how men think. There are exceptions to the rule. Men and women can be friends, if there is absolutely no sexual attraction, or the guy is a clueless nerd, or gay. Otherwise, most guys will be friends with you until the point where they realize they cannot get some, or that you get a boyfriend. Then they will disappear and not be as close to you.

I am not talking about acquaintances, but friends. Friends who you spend alot of time with. You go out together, share things together, spend time together. And I am saying that guys and girls cannot be friends aside from those minor exceptions, and that no guy should ever date a girl who has nothing but guy friends, or a guy best friend, or any such thing. The same applies to the man of course. He should not have any friends that are girls that he spends time with, or shares anything with. That is the whole purpose of why you have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Otherwise, you shouldn't ever be in a relationship with a boyfriend, if you have all those guyfriends which you want to keep on your keychain.

[hyebruin]

wow! i am speechless! i guess ANYTHING can be twisted to look bad or sneaky or slu**y...how sad!

[Anonymouse]

wow! i am speechless! i guess ANYTHING can be twisted to look bad or sneaky or slu**y...how sad!

Well, Ms Bruin I knew the girls would obviously disagree. I don't care. You are entitled to your opinion. I didn't really twist anything. I just do not think that guys and girls can ever be friends while trying to maintain a relationship with someone else.

[Thai-Samurai]

He's right in a way.

[ArmoBarbi]

He's right in a way.

Which way is that?? jk

I cant believe Im saying this, but I think there is something to be considered here. As a girl who is not sexually active but enjoys attention from guys, I saw the flirting as innocent fun etc...

I was told by a guy "friend" once that this was not the case, and decided to bring it up to another guy. He confirmed without being told about the first guy. This got me thinking...

Why dont we believe what these men are saying? Just because we see it as something friendly and innocent it doesnt mean that the people on the other side do. Men and women ARE different. (especially in a society where they are brought up to be different)

I believe that there are always exceptions of course, but I have come to accept that most guys will not want to just be my "friend". Otherwise, guys would be friends with girls no matter how they looked etc, but this is not the case. Guys like to be friends with pretty and thin girls much more. Yes, there could be other explanations for this if we dig deeper blah blah, but I am convinced that the phenomenons are related.

[loseyourname]

Guys and girls cannot, ever, EVER be friends, without their being some ulterior motive. The girl might not know, and truly believe the guy is her friend, but the guy, being a guy, thinks differently. Men and women think differently, is my point. A girl may assure her boyfriend that "he's just a friend", but the boyfriend knows better, because he is a guy, and knows how men think. There are exceptions to the rule. Men and women can be friends, if there is absolutely no sexual attraction, or the guy is a clueless nerd, or gay.

Aint that the gospel truth. The only female friends I've had that I honestly had no sexual interest in were the ugly and fat ones. That's just the way it goes. Can't do anything about the hormonal urges. See a hot chick, want to f*ck. Nature at its finest.

[CatWoman]

Sexually promiscuous or liberal? Are you kidding me??!! I got plenty of guy friends, two very close ones… they’re just fun to be around, I enjoy hanging out with them , and I’m not promiscuous hahaha. With one, there is even some physical attraction there but I made it clear nothing is ever going to happen between us because of some reasons lol and he’s simply my friend now. He even tells me about the girls he meets etc. I always had guy friends. Maybe you can’t be friends with a girl without sleeping with her, it depends on the person, but trust me, there are guys out there who can. Oh and I got one gay friend, but that doesn't count lol! And of course I can never go clubbing without my guy friends, it’s just torture having all these drunk idiots hit on you left and right.
But one thing I can never do is stay friends with an ex. Very unhealthy relationship.
It’s great having guy friends, ladies give it a try!! Hahaha

[Anonymouse]

Aint that the gospel truth. The only female friends I've had that I honestly had no sexual interest in were the ugly and fat ones. That's just the way it goes. Can't do anything about the hormonal urges. See a hot chick, want to f*ck. Nature at its finest.

Precisely my point. Men and women think differently.

[hyebruin]

*quietly exits the pig gathering and takes armobarbi (not to be confused with armobarbiE) with her*

come on girl! let's get outta here it smellls like PIGS in here!

*comes back and takes catwoman with her too*

[Anonymouse]

Sexually promiscuous or liberal? Are you kidding me??!! I got plenty of guy friends, two very close ones… they’re just fun to be around, I enjoy hanging out with them , and I’m not promiscuous hahaha. With one, there is even some physical attraction there but I made it clear nothing is ever going to happen between us because of some reasons lol and he’s simply my friend now. He even tells me about the girls he meets etc. I always had guy friends. Maybe you can’t be friends with a girl without sleeping with her, it depends on the person, but trust me, there are guys out there who can. Oh and I got one gay friend, but that doesn't count lol! And of course I can never go clubbing without my guy friends, it’s just torture having all these drunk idiots hit on you left and right.
But one thing I can never do is stay friends with an ex. Very unhealthy relationship.
It’s great having guy friends, ladies give it a try!! Hahaha

I don't care what you do on your personal time when single. I never said you HAD to be promiscuous. Did you not read that I said there are exceptions to the rule (in fact, there are exceptions to every rule)? The reason these guys are your friends is because they are waiting for something, either sex, or a relationship, either emotional or physical. You don't like to believe that, no girl does. But once you get a boyfriend, watch how fast these guys disappear.

Now, if you had a boyfriend, that would the different story. If I were the guy you were dating, I'd tell ya either to get rid of those guy friends, or I'd get rid of you. End of story.