Sexual territorialism? (?)

[loseyourname]

There is no such thing as ''Guamese''.

It is Guamamian.

You are free to thank me for the free lesson regarding the formation of basic linguistic units.

Yes, also known as words.

Barbi, I'm sure you don't want my advice, but if I was your boyfriend and I knew about this, I'd probably just leave. As far as the two of you agreeing on a little jealously being healthy for a relationship, all I can say is that two people can agree and both be wrong. A little jealousy is fine if you know how to deal with it and control it. It is obvious that you don't. You despair over it and create dilemmas with it. I'm not going to say that love is or should be simple. But it hardly needs to be made even more complicated than it already is. When you have a man that you look forward to being with, do just that: look forward. Quit obsessing over the past. If I were a psychiatrist, I'd say it's quite possible that you fear you won't be as good as his previous partners. Then I'd say that he obviously doesn't care given that he isn't even making any moves on you. If he's willing to wait for marriage with you, then sex can't be all that important to him. So quit worrying so much. You come off as neurotic; don't be Woody Allen.

[loseyourname]

Coffee and TV is one of my favorite music videos.

[TomServo]

Red Brigade, does every word in the English language come from Greek?

[Anonymouse]

Coffee and TV is one of my favorite music videos.

Do you know where that icon is from? It's from that old Nintendo game Duck Hunt.

[TomServo]

Do you know where that icon is from? It's from that old Nintendo game Duck Hunt.

OMFG. Flashback.. With the guns? Hahaha, that was great.

[ArmoBarbi]

Loser, its not that I dont want your advice, but some of that criticism can hardly be called constructive. My bf knows exactly how I feel about this, and feels very differently from you, fortunately. As for the advice: I see your point about sounding neurotic and complicating things, but you treat it as a conscious decision Ive made, when there is nothing but emotion at play here. (Ive explained this) The very reason I asked for advice is in the hopes of eliminating this issue, and it is an issue whether you validate it or not. I dont think its normal to not care when youre in love with a person. The thought makes me want to puke because its wrong, not because I have performance anxiety over something that wont happen for months anyway. I think the only reason most people now dont care is because they are hardly innocent themselves and are desensetized to pervertion, which is why I think having sex with a third party would fix this for me, but that is clearly not an option. I wish it were as easy as you telling me to stop feeling this way, its just not.

This may be a good thing to mention also... As I contemplated this, I realized that there is another component. For years I have been abstaining from sex while masturbating almost every day. I think about sex all the time, and it drives me crazy that I cant have it. I am just not a person who doesnt care about sex, as strange as that may sound coming from a virgin. Anyway, here is the thing... I guess I resent him in a way for having this pleasure while I have been depriving myself. I actually feel this way about Armenian guys having sex and wanting to marry virgins in general, but I really start feeling badly when it hits so close to home. My bf actually agrees with me, and it doesnt reflect badly upon his character as far as Im concerned. I realize that there is nothing he can do about his past now, and that reminding him every time he gets close wont make things better for either of us, so I am just hoping to somehow get over it without torturing him with the subject at this point. If I cant, and I will end up feeling this way on my wedding night, then so be it, but I think I should at least give it a try... so where does that leave me? That I dont know...

[Red Brigade]

By these standards, wouldn't an Armenian male 'screwing' an Armenian female be civil war? If they are citizens of different countries, would it still be?

No by these standards, what you say doesn't apply simply because these standards apply only when it is done to or by foreigners.

But i didn't said anywhere that screwing is Good and being screwed is Bad.

I merely said that i don't like the fact that foreigners are screwing armenian girls.In other words using armenian girls for their personal satisfaction.

If we use the previous logic which is:

1)When an armenian male is screwing an Otar then we are penetrating in the territories of other countries.

2)When an Armenian woman is getting screwed it is as if they are invading to Armenia.

3)Then screwing oneself should be a Civil War, thus Bad.

It is not a coincidence that i have underlined the word foreigners.
But apparently you didn't notice that.

Thus when screwing oneself (masturbration),it would be a civil war since an armenian is having a sexual intercourse with himself.

[loseyourname]

Thus when screwing oneself (masturbration),it would be a civil war since an armenian is having a sexual intercourse with himself.

You said that screwing a foreigner was like invading foreign territory. Wouldn't screwing a countrywoman be invading your own territory? If not, then screwing a foreigner is more akin to simply visiting another country, not invading it. Especially if you are invited in and not performing rape.

[ArmoBarbi]

Thus when screwing oneself (masturbration),it would be a civil war since an armenian is having a sexual intercourse with himself.

Red, dont forget or herself

[Red Brigade]

You said that screwing a foreigner was like invading foreign territory. Wouldn't screwing a countrywoman be invading your own territory? If not, then screwing a foreigner is more akin to simply visiting another country, not invading it. Especially if you are invited in and not performing rape.

No because this rule does not apply on your countrymen.It applies while you are having a sexual intercours only with a foreigner.


Perhaps reading my earlier post would be more helpful.