The 5 secrets to a Successful Relationship

[patlajan]

Ever concidered you're full of crap?

[Anonymouse]

Face it bastards, I make some good damn threads!

[Anonymouse]

Ever concidered you're full of crap?

Awww the Hamburgler is getting pissed. Woe is me.

[sSsflamesSs]

Here's an example. I have a career in mind for the near future, that's going to take a buttload of time, work, and dedication. That being said, I also plan to get married some day and have kids. Now who do you think is going to take care of the housework and kids, the husband??? I think not.

EXACTLY. These are all things that YOU want and we have to put up with. And do you think the freakin housework makes your partner's life more fun or enjoyable? NO. Constantly using "the kids" or any other nonsense you wanna invent so you can do anything but what your boyfriend/husband needs. We constantly put up and do things that you want us to, but when its time for you to do something it's "immature"or "stupid." Well that is sooooo convinient, that way you're always the hero and not the selfish person you really are.

Oh stop it with the bullxxxx. You're making the guy look like the victim. If you don't like it, why get involved in it in the first place? Last time I checked, most people don't get married with a gun to their head. You're just validating what I implied, that guys don't like responsibility.

If I'm being too quick to judge, please do tell. What is it that YOU guys want, huh?

[surferarmo]

well i feel as tho im a natural born pessimist...wait no actually id say the glass is neither ½ empty or full cuz I drank what was in it …so i don’t really know what that makes me. :idea: As for when it comes to relationships I believe if it was meant to be it would somehow work out at the end

I will agree with patlajan on this one, in more agreeable terms of course. The meant to be stuff is something people use to evade responsibility. I am full aware that I do not have control of everything. The fact is, that when people say that, they just think they dont have to put in any effort. "Its meant to be" goes along with fate. Fate is something I believe in, BUT, you must understand that fate works through us and our decisions and interactions.

For instance, if someone bumps into you and yell at them and because of that, they get you new shoes. Lets take the same situation: you bump into them, but you say "its ok" and you both walk away. This is my idea, and most guys idea of fate. Fate is not the outcome. You were not meant to get shoes, you were not meant to not get shoes. Fate PUT you in the position, it put you in the situation, and gave you oportunity. I made a decision, whether to live in SC or LA this summer, I chose LA. As a result, I got a good job, I met a cool chick. Now, fate might have introduced us, but I believe, we make of it what we put in it. Fate gets us to where we need to be, the rest is up to us.

Wow surfer, that's pretty good. I'm referring to your explanation.

An honor I assure you. I am going to open up that bottle of champaign and take a bubble bath with mr. bubbles. :P

[surferarmo]

Here's an example. I have a career in mind for the near future, that's going to take a buttload of time, work, and dedication. That being said, I also plan to get married some day and have kids. Now who do you think is going to take care of the housework and kids, the husband??? I think not.

EXACTLY. These are all things that YOU want and we have to put up with. And do you think the freakin housework makes your partner's life more fun or enjoyable? NO. Constantly using "the kids" or any other nonsense you wanna invent so you can do anything but what your boyfriend/husband needs. We constantly put up and do things that you want us to, but when its time for you to do something it's "immature"or "stupid." Well that is sooooo convinient, that way you're always the hero and not the selfish person you really are.

Oh stop it with the bullxxxx. You're making the guy look like the victim. If you don't like it, why get involved in it in the first place? Last time I checked, most people don't get married with a gun to their head. You're just validating what I implied, that guys don't like responsibility.

If I'm being too quick to judge, please do tell. What is it that YOU guys want, huh?

Some of what he is saying is true. Girls complaing that house work is hard, and soo stressful. It is, believe me I know what my mother went through raising four kids and having a college degree. But look at what my father goes through. My dad, goes to work 9 to 5, then comes home, does paper work, pays bills, helps his kids with their homework, and helps my mom with house work and dishes.

So he does BOTH, and so does my mom. This is why I disagree with the feminist movement. It made a "girls are better than boys" fight. I believe that both responsibilities are great in scope, not one is better than the other. The father makes the money, the mother allocates it. My mom raised us, my dad drove to work. Both are very important. What good is making money, if the kids go and shoot up a school? And, what are you going to do without food on the table?

[sSsflamesSs]

Anonymouse, you mischievous little mook you, hehehe.

I have considered it, but, who knows?

[sSsflamesSs]

Here's an example. I have a career in mind for the near future, that's going to take a buttload of time, work, and dedication. That being said, I also plan to get married some day and have kids. Now who do you think is going to take care of the housework and kids, the husband??? I think not.

EXACTLY. These are all things that YOU want and we have to put up with. And do you think the freakin housework makes your partner's life more fun or enjoyable? NO. Constantly using "the kids" or any other nonsense you wanna invent so you can do anything but what your boyfriend/husband needs. We constantly put up and do things that you want us to, but when its time for you to do something it's "immature"or "stupid." Well that is sooooo convinient, that way you're always the hero and not the selfish person you really are.

Oh stop it with the bullxxxx. You're making the guy look like the victim. If you don't like it, why get involved in it in the first place? Last time I checked, most people don't get married with a gun to their head. You're just validating what I implied, that guys don't like responsibility.

If I'm being too quick to judge, please do tell. What is it that YOU guys want, huh?

Some of what he is saying is true. Girls complaing that house work is hard, and soo stressful. It is, believe me I know what my mother went through raising four kids and having a college degree. But look at what my father goes through. My dad, goes to work 9 to 5, then comes home, does paper work, pays bills, helps his kids with their homework, and helps my mom with house work and dishes.

So he does BOTH, and so does my mom. This is why I disagree with the feminist movement. It made a "girls are better than boys" fight. I believe that both responsibilities are great in scope, not one is better than the other. The father makes the money, the mother allocates it. My mom raised us, my dad drove to work. Both are very important. What good is making money, if the kids go and shoot up a school? And, what are you going to do without food on the table?

Surfer, you are living in the world of yesterday, when the father was the breadwinner, and the mother was the sweet housewife. Face it, the proportion of girls and guys in most colleges is 1:1 nowadays. So don't tell me that, oh, the father still does more. You're lucky in that you have a good father who doesn't oppose sharing the responsiblities equally with your mother. And c'mon, doing the paperwork and bills is not that hard. Believe me, I know, I do that part in my household. My point is, in this day and age, there are families where the mother earns more than the father, as will be the likely case in my family if everything goes according to plan *fingers crossed*. Hope you understand what I'm saying.

[sSsflamesSs]

Face it bastards, I make some good damn threads!

Are you giddy with delight?

[jahannam]

Here's an example. I have a career in mind for the near future, that's going to take a buttload of time, work, and dedication. That being said, I also plan to get married some day and have kids. Now who do you think is going to take care of the housework and kids, the husband??? I think not.

EXACTLY. These are all things that YOU want and we have to put up with. And do you think the freakin housework makes your partner's life more fun or enjoyable?

HUH? the "freakin" housework? lol
well guess what... NO ONE likes housework, but someone's got to do it...
wouldn't it make you satisfied (therefore enjoyable and fun) if you came home and your homemade food was waiting for you and your laundry was done and your partner DIDN'T ask you for pocket money???
all the things that WE want?
so I take that as .. you don't want a successful career in the future, you don't want a family and kids, and you don't want somewhere to live cuz there's gonna be housework lol
there's so many Aboosh martig in this world 8)