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  • #51
    Re: does age matter?

    Originally posted by Lucin View Post
    You can't totally ignore the age factor.Age does not matter now when you are still young and fresh, but what about, let’s say, in twenty years time, when the man looks younger than the woman, how will you (men) handle it then?
    Make sure she gets plenty of vitamins and exercise.

    But in all seriousness, you describe the physical appearance of age on a person as a linear formula. I've seen women in their twenties looking like they are middle aged (stereotypic look that is), and vice versa (this also goes for men too). In all reality, the 4-5 years when the couple is old, is nothing -- I think it would probably be a bigger deal for when the couple is younger if its a big deal that is.

    Anoush:

    Yeah I pretty much agree with all that. It sounds like you've had some personal observation.

    Generalizing of only the age factor
    Oh don't be silly, it wouldn't be the age factor alone -- it would be in combination with the weight factor.

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    • #52
      Re: does age matter?

      Originally posted by skhara View Post
      Anoush

      Oh don't be silly, it wouldn't be the age factor alone -- it would be in combination with the weight factor.
      Yeah right?

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      • #53
        Re: does age matter?

        Originally posted by skhara View Post
        Make sure she gets plenty of vitamins and exercise.
        Really? But I thought you would dump her.

        You guys have made life so 'stressful' for women; to look always pretty, fresh and always in a good shape is like a daily grind and quite tiring, plus that steals a lot of time and money from us.
        No but seriously, it just makes us feel better too.


        But in all seriousness, you describe the physical appearance of age on a person as a linear formula. I've seen women in their twenties looking like they are middle aged (stereotypic look that is), and vice versa (this also goes for men too). In all reality, the 4-5 years when the couple is old, is nothing -- I think it would probably be a bigger deal for when the couple is younger if its a big deal that is.
        I hear you skhara, I have seen too, women in their twenties who look much older but aren't they in minority??? But I think one of the reasons that some women look much older than their real age could probably be related to the harshness and non-delicacy of their facial and physical features.

        Anyways, I still believe that a huge irrational age difference between the couple is not right for some obvious reasons. After all, there needs to be a balance of giving and receiving and a balance of energy between the couple. A good harmony in social, emotional and sexual development levels count as well, in my opinion.
        Last edited by Lucin; 07-17-2007, 03:00 AM.

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        • #54
          Re: does age matter?

          Originally posted by Lucin View Post

          Anyways, I still believe that a huge irrational age difference between the couple is not right for some obvious reasons. After all, there needs to be a balance of giving and receiving and a balance of energy between the couple. A good harmony in social, emotional and sexual development levels count as well, in my opinion.
          "A good harmony in social, emotional and sexual development levels count as well," This is true when the irrational age difference between the couple exists. That is in general and normally; but there are also exceptions, and they do happen every now and then. Not in all cases; but depending on the nature of the individual some older folks who marry younger folks feel that they could and should pamper the younger lover/spouse and they act with them ever so gingerly and sweetly. Making the younger one feel like a million dollars. Now the younger one may have gotten an older spouse or lover instead; but he/she is now being treated and taken care of wonderfully. That is a different sort of compensation that is to be considered beneficial to the psyche and the overall well being of the younger individual. If the younger one feels that that's what they want and seek for in life.

          I have known and observed numerous well suited agewise couples who fought and have abused each other fiercely and all that fighting would eventually make one or both of them sick and would obviously shorten their life. What good is that? Personally I'd much rather be with someone who would look up to me now and then, favour me and talk and treat me with kindness and dignity even if he was much older than me or not so handsome. What counts in life are the good and sane and happy moments you could have together.

          Lucin, take this advice if you may from a married woman, me. Go and seek someone who will treat you nice, kindly and will look up to you most of the time. And don't worry about his age nor his looks that much. The only thing that counts in life is your harmonious union with each other and of course, love. I am not talking about only the love of passion that you'll have in the beginning of your union; but the real love that will follow years from now when you find out that how much you like each other and each other's company because you communicate well with each other and because you respect each other's wishes and you are KIND to each other. That's what's important in life my dear cyber new friend, that's the only thing that counts!!!

          All the luck in the world to you!!!!

          Anoush

          P.S. Lucin, after I wrote this post I went later and observed that it was initially Stefy who started the thread and she is the one who asked the question. But nevertheless if you are still single then my answer will be beneficial to everyone, I hope.
          Last edited by Anoush; 07-17-2007, 09:05 AM.

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          • #55
            Re: does age matter?

            Originally posted by Anoush View Post
            Unfortunately with Armenians though, forget it. All the Armenian guys want is a way younger girls. They would be in their forties and they sometimes want 14, 18, 22 years younger girls... not an older girl/woman.

            Some women they age gracefully. Having good skin and a pretty face, sometimes they look 10-15 years younger. So in my opinion it should work.
            I don't know why (some or most of older) men - Armenian or not - "want younger girls," but, regardless, do you think that - relatively to most, not all, older women - younger women have only "good skin and pretty face" to offer i.e. do you think that it's only physical???





            Originally posted by Anoush View Post
            "A good harmony in social, emotional and sexual development levels count as well," This is true when the irrational age difference between the couple exists. That is in general and normally; but there are also exceptions, and they do happen every now and then. Not in all cases; but depending on the nature of the individual some older folks who marry younger folks feel that they could and should pamper the younger lover/spouse and they act with them ever so gingerly and sweetly. Making the younger one feel like a million dollars. Now the younger one may have gotten an older spouse or lover instead; but he/she is now being treated and taken care of wonderfully. That is a different sort of compensation that is to be considered beneficial to the psyche and the overall well being of the younger individual. If the younger one feels that that's what they want and seek for in life.
            I agree! However, can it be that some men simply (learn to) appreciate better women but do not necessarily "feel that they could and should pamper the younger lover/spouse?" At least some of them?





            Originally posted by Anoush View Post
            I have known and observed numerous well suited agewise couples who fought and have abused each other fiercely and all that fighting would eventually make one or both of them sick and would obviously shorten their life. What good is that? Personally I'd much rather be with someone who would look up to me now and then, favour me and talk and treat me with kindness and dignity even if he was much older than me or not so handsome. What counts in life are the good and sane and happy moments you could have together.

            Lucin, take this advice if you may from a married woman, me. Go and seek someone who will treat you nice, kindly and will look up to you most of the time. And don't worry about his age nor his looks that much. The only thing that counts in life is your harmonious union with each other and of course, love. I am not talking about only the love of passion that you'll have in the beginning of your union; but the real love that will follow years from now when you find out that how much you like each other and each other's company because you communicate well with each other and because you respect each other's wishes and you are KIND to each other. That's what's important in life my dear cyber new friend, that's the only thing that counts!!!
            Yes, I agree.
            What if I find someone else when looking for you? My soul shivers as the idea invades my mind.

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            • #56
              Re: does age matter?

              Originally posted by Siamanto View Post
              I don't know why (some or most of older) men - Armenian or not - "want younger girls,"...
              Squeeze a saggy wrinckled 40+ boob and then squeeze a ripe firm 20 something boob ... I think the experiment will clearly illusrate the "why".
              this post = teh win.

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              • #57
                Re: does age matter?

                Originally posted by Siamanto View Post
                I don't know why (some or most of older) men - Armenian or not - "want younger girls," but, regardless, do you think that - relatively to most, not all, older women - younger women have only "good skin and pretty face" to offer i.e. do you think that it's only physical???
                No of course not. Siamanto, I appreciate your valid comment that the rest of the package is reletavily more important and vital than the outside package. But you know if you'll excuse me saying this Armenian saying; "Deskn el arje hazar nerpov". "The looks are but worth a thousand from what it is within". When as human beings we try to find or seek a mate we mostly tend to search for good looks first then what the person is like. We fall for looks; but then it is up to us to dump them if they don't fit the rest of the package. In short, if they are not wothwile to keep. I guess that's why it's important to overlook so much the looks of the person and try to see the real person hidden under the good or the not so good outlook.

                I admit it's hard sometimes to do; but for the sake of one's sanity it is imperative to find out the whole package before getting into a relationship.
                Last edited by Anoush; 07-17-2007, 06:27 PM.

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                • #58
                  Re: does age matter?

                  Originally posted by Sip View Post
                  Squeeze a saggy wrinckled 40+ boob and then squeeze a ripe firm 20 something boob ... I think the experiment will clearly illusrate the "why".
                  You are wrong. Most 40+ women do not have saggy and wrinckled breasts. And how do you figure that your 20 year old will always stay with you? First of all she will usually be much more immature for an older guy, she will want to live her life; because she didn't live her life yet, when the older guy will want to rest and slow down more. Normally she will not be as good a mother than an older 30+ year old woman; because older women are more appreciative and eager to become mothers and look after their babies better, and finally she may astray easier to a younger, fresher guy if they pursue her one day or she may want to look around herself.

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                  • #59
                    Re: does age matter?

                    Anoush, I really agree with your reply to Siamanto. As far as your reply to me, I will take your word for it because to be honest, I have never squeezed a 40+ boob (and hopefully I won't for a long long time to come)

                    Also, hopefully I will never want to rest and slow down but yah, even that I'm sure will change ... FYI, I'm about to hit 31 so I am definitely in danger of going into the "slow down" mode. God I hope not.
                    this post = teh win.

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                    • #60
                      Re: does age matter?

                      All one has to do is exercise, eat well and feel as peaceful as one can have. Then you can live longer and productive life.

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