Should Armenian women stay Pure for marriage?

[One-Way]

Re: Should Armenian women stay Pure for marriage?

If a girl has had sex with a boyfriend, after being together for a certain amount of time, that's fine. It was her decision, she lost her virginity to someone she cared for.

If a girl is technically a virgin, but has been with a lot of guys, that's disgusting. A lot of girls around here, girls from school, are virgins, but have a new guy every week. In my book, she's still a slut.

It shouldn't be about being a virgin. Pure should all have to do what you've done. If you've been with a person who you loved, and did some stuff, that's fine. But if you switch off people, left and right, that's not pure. Even though you still might a virgin, that's no excuse. You're dirty.

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thanks...anonymouse is backo...

but you know, to tie this into this thread even more, i like the ideas you raise about judging someone. what do you guys think about judging girls who have had sex? many armenian guys automatically label a nonvirgin girl a xxxx, when in reality this girl is far from being one. let's start with this thought. which is better, a girl who is not a virgin but has only had sex with her boyfriend or a girl who is technically a virgin but has hooked up with too many guys to count? obviously the second could hide her past (esp if the hooking up is done in college somewhere far from home or if it's done with non-armos so that word does not spread). anyway, the armo guy who marries this girl would say he's marrying a virgin. However, the second girl, let's say she breaks up with this boyfriend, would be called a nonvirgin xxxx 'cause the guy she marries will know that she's not a virgin. anyway, what do you all you think?

Having sex with a long-time boyfriend who you appearently love/care for = perfectly acceptable. I know cases like that and its no big deal.

[thedebutante]

Re: Should Armenian women stay Pure for marriage?

Having sex with a long-time boyfriend who you appearently love/care for = perfectly acceptable. I know cases like that and its no big deal.

so you wouldnt mind marrying a girl in such a case (after she breaks up with her bf that is)?

[ace]

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so you wouldnt mind marrying a girl in such a case (after she breaks up with her bf that is)?

If she had fallen in love previously and felt like they were SUPPOSE to get married eventually...and she gave it up? According to what I believe, yes I would.

But realistically, I wouldn't be able to trust her to know if that really is the case...and if it is, has she done it again? Has she been around the block a few times? Do I really want somebody I cant honestly trust to mother my kids? Do I really want her raising my daughter like she was raised? Is this the girl I'm willing to invest trust into and spend the rest of my life with? Is this the girl I want to bring home to my family? Things like that would run in my head constantly. The very big possibility of her LIEING to me is still there, and according to you guys about how they lie about their virginity and do celebacy and all that xxxx...is leading me to kind of be more defensive on that issue.

But my uncle told me a story about how her first girlfriend (the one he thought he was gonna marry) felt like she was ready to have sex, but they werent quite married yet nor engaged, and he knew their could very well possibly be a chance that they break up, so he refused to have sex with her. He didn't consider her a hoe or anything, he just didn't want to take advantage of her current emotional state (which often times leads us to irrational decisions) - and he knew at heart this was a "good" girl (well, by our standards anyway) - and he didn't want to ruin that.

So, realistically, no (though depending on the situation yes), idealistically, yes I would marry her.

[LadySilver]

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Whatta you think on this issue?

Well personally I don't agree with you completely.

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Well personally I don't agree with you completely.

Which parts dont you agree with?

I'd like to see the opionin of Armenian women who don't believe in this tradition. I haven't heard too many of those.* (Not directed at you, just in general)

[LadySilver]

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Which parts dont you agree with?

I'd like to see the opionin of Armenian women who don't believe in this tradition. I haven't heard too many of those.* (Not directed at you, just in general)

I just don't believe that virginity should be a major factor on how men value and view women.

[ace]

Re: Should Armenian women stay Pure for marriage?

I just don't believe that virginity should be a major factor on how men value and view women.

Do you think virginity/sex tells alot about a womans character?

[LadySilver]

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Do you think virginity/sex tells alot about a womans character?

I think that it factors in but shouldn't be the "main point"

[ace]

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I think that it factors in but shouldn't be the "main point"

Deffinitly shouldn't. What do you think being a promiscious girl implies about her character?