Engaged and now stuck

[hyebruin]

women! why can't they let a guy go on a trip without fliping out; if he's gonna cheat on her he'll do it on his lunchbreak or on his way home.... i don't care how cute or hot or how good of a kissssser the guy is, if i have to do every last freakin thing with him, that will just irritate me...couples need to share yes! but it's also good to have fun with your own friends and do stuff that is about you not the "two of you, joined at the hip"..with the ball and chain to follow...no wonder there are so many commitment phobe guys, it's because of annoying girls like her... now i feel better having put in my cent + cent

[omniscient]

Ok I talked to her about it today and here is her 2 main points, now I don't know if she really doesn't want us to go or she means it but....

1. She says she wants to experience Europe with him and if we go then he is going to experience it without her and she is going to feel alone.

2. She says that they need to save up money for when they are married and it's not smart to take a trip like Europe this summer.

Tell me what you guys think.

[CatWoman]

I don't know what to do? Who is right and who is wrong? What can we do about this or say to explain to her that things like this shouldn't be a big deal.

Your friend's fiance is acting like a ummm what's the word for it.... WOMAN! LOL
Okay Vegas, maybe (I still wouldn't like it but whatever) ... but Europe??!!! And they just got engaged? Riiiiight...
What kind of a girl in her right mind would be okay with her fiance going to Europe with his buddy?
And not because he might cheat on her, that's not an issue, if he were to cheat on her he could do it anywhere... but I guess when you get engaged, or married, the first couple of years are supposed to be sweet and spent together... not taking trips left and right with your boys!
And that comming from me is funny, cause I'm really not the type that wants the guy to stop living, lol... but when you get engaged, you make a commitment and not that this breaks the commitment, but it's still wrong! Specially if the girl herself isn't okay with it.



I know exactly how you feel though, my best and I mean BEST friend is getting married in 5 months as well! Sometimes I think I'm losing her, hehe
Oh well, but I'm the maid of honor!

[spiral]

So the Vegas problem is taken care of and you're on to Europe now?

[CatWoman]

So the Vegas problem is taken care of and you're on to Europe now?

lol...
It's in his first post, at first I was like maaaaaaybe she is over reacting with this Vegas thing
then I got to the part where he said we also want to go to Europe next summer...
lol, that's when my mouse went on reply

[omniscient]

lol...
It's in his first post, at first I was like maaaaaaybe she is over reacting with this Vegas thing
then I got to the part where he said we also want to go to Europe next summer...
lol, that's when my mouse went on reply

She doesn't know about Europe yet .

[omniscient]

So the Vegas problem is taken care of and you're on to Europe now?

She is ok with the Vegas problem now but I still want to be able to go to Europe with my best friend before he gets married, this sucks. When they get married they will be able to travel the world together.

[ckBejug]

She is ok with the Vegas problem now but I still want to be able to go to Europe with my best friend before he gets married, this sucks. When they get married they will be able to travel the world together.

It's simple really, you have to find, make friends with, become affectionate, and fall in love with a girl so she can come along to Europe and all four of you can go together.

[Siggie]

I really don't understand the big deal about Europe Arin. You can have fun with a couple and not feel like a third wheel. My bf and his friend went places all the time. He never said he didn't want to come. If you're such good friends with her you should all be able to have a good time together. It's not like you're not going to have anything to talk about with her. That's like the best situation you could hope for, to have your friend be with a friend.
If you're really that uncomfortable with going with the two of them, then take a friend with you, doesn't even have to be a girl. Just someone you can share a room with or hang out with if they want to be alone.
She obviously wants to travel as well and I would feel terribley left out too, if my fiance went without me when I too wanted to go.
As far as the money thing... Tell her to go for a smaller wedding.

[Anonymouse]

It's hard to believe that such a trivial issue about relationships has gotten 4 pages, and important issues like "White Noise" have barely a page.