Soul Mates?

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by Anonymouse Is this your way of telling us you're a chronic masturbator?

Yes, and I get off on your posts.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by sSsflamesSs Amen.

My problem is also refusing to compromise. If I see his flaws NOW, how the hell am I going to spend the rest of my life with him, right?

Comprimise is essential.

See the problem is that everyone thinks they are "quality" or perfect. Everyone thinks that their partner should be working hard for them. However, when both people do this, they both give off the impression they are not interested in eachother. Then both parties put up defenses, and appear distant. All it needs is one person to start this "i will not comprimise" game. I suggest you just have fun, and look at things one step at a time. Dont try to look so far in the future because those goals look so distant and impossiblel. Just relax, chill out, have fun.

I figure this: If I was a girl, I would date guys all the time! Free meals at good restaurants!!!

[surferarmo]

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I suggest you use this for your anal practices Anon.

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by surferarmo Yes, and I get off on your posts.

Your attempts at sarcasm really get off this user.

[SexyAries]

You are extremely right Flames.

[surferarmo]

Originally posted by Anonymouse Your attempts at sarcasm really get off this user.

As long as I get a response from you, I know I hit some note worth acknowledgment.

Why do I bother you so much? Did I take away your forum glory?

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by Anonymouse So you date in terms of future prospects? You wouldn't date for the here and now. Instead the one you date you have future plans in mind eh? Is that how I am to interpret it?

To me, dating is not a game, for when one party views it as a game, then the other party (assuming that s/he doesn't hold this view) suffers heartache. Call me selfish, but I don't want to be the other party. Why waste his and my time if nothing good will come of it? When I like someone, someone that I click with on every level, it is very difficult for me to forget about that person and not care. If I continue dating that person for the "here and now", even though he has no future plans, then I'm simply asking for repeated emotional trauma. Makes sense?

For me, casual dating (meaning continued dating despite the fact that you both see that there's no future together) is pointless.

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by surferarmo Comprimise is essential.

See the problem is that everyone thinks they are "quality" or perfect. Everyone thinks that their partner should be working hard for them. However, when both people do this, they both give off the impression they are not interested in eachother. Then both parties put up defenses, and appear distant. All it needs is one person to start this "i will not comprimise" game. I suggest you just have fun, and look at things one step at a time. Dont try to look so far in the future because those goals look so distant and impossiblel. Just relax, chill out, have fun.

I figure this: If I was a girl, I would date guys all the time! Free meals at good restaurants!!!

Maybe I should have been more specific. I refuse to compromise those characteristics that I feel are essential for happiness and harmony between two people (for me...everyone has different things that make them happy). There are certain things that I cannot live with, no matter how hard I try. On the other hand, there are certain things that I'd rather not have, but could be more tolerant of, so OF COURSE compromise is crucial. I don't expect to find the "perfect" guy, because frankly, he doesn't exist. I never implied that I think I'm perfect...in fact, I'm far from it, as is everyone else. As I said in another thread, perfection is a form of imperfection in its own way.

I figure this: surfer, do you have a subconscious desire to be a girl?

[Anonymouse]

I figure this: surfer, do you have a subconscious desire to be a girl? [/B]

I think you hit the name on the head.

[ckBejug]

Originally posted by sSsflamesSs To me, dating is not a game, for when one party views it as a game, then the other party (assuming that s/he doesn't hold this view) suffers heartache. Call me selfish, but I don't want to be the other party. Why waste his and my time if nothing good will come of it? When I like someone, someone that I click with on every level, it is very difficult for me to forget about that person and not care. If I continue dating that person for the "here and now", even though he has no future plans, then I'm simply asking for repeated emotional trauma. Makes sense?

For me, casual dating (meaning continued dating despite the fact that you both see that there's no future together) is pointless.

I agree 10 billion times with exactly what you said in the first paragraph flames.

However, I have seen people casually date several people at the same time and they're all good with it, no problem. I couldn't see myself doing something like that (I prefer to just be friends with guys I like being around/ spending time with who I know are not looking for any kind of a relationship, same as myself) because I think it's just weird to try to get on that other level with two or three different guy at the same time. Plus I don't know that I would be able to keep them straight after a while... Wait! Which one were you? Yeah...

As for soul mates... I don't know anymore. I used to think it was true... but not so much anymore. There are guys out there that I find interesting/ fun to be around/ great to talk to and not conversationally challenged/ attractive/ dateable/ etc... So I guess if there was only one guy for me I wouldn't be attracted to these guys, but I am.... Make sense? I thought, as did a lot of peopl who knew me, that i had found that perfect other half for me, but obviously I was wrong. So maybe when people say there isn;t just one person for you out there, they are speaking volumes of truth. Although that's a sad thought to have after you're with someone because then what if you meet one of the other people out there who is good for you? Drama rama.