Would you marry a person who isn't Armenian?

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by loseyourname Yes, and somehow you don't seem to be listening when I say I have no problem with people marrying within their own culture and furthermore, I don't care who anyone other than the two people who I actually consider friends here marries.

You seem to think this practice is limited to Armenians. It's not. I can understand the inclination perfectly well, Mousy. I have no issue with people wanting to marry within their own culture. The people I take issue with are the ones who are militant and won't allow anything else. You are not one of those people, so I don't see why we should have any quarrel here. Once again, you are arguing about nothing.

Indeed. I have no problem with people exercising free will.

[sSsflamesSs]

*flies to the rescue*

*gets down on one knee*

Oh Master Emil, will you marry me?

Before you answer, are you Armenian?

If not, bye bye!





(lame, but it got the job done, right?)

[ckBejug]

Originally posted by Emil I love it, a thread with 158 replies, and it still hasn't gone off topic.

Pssst, Emilio! It just did with that there post of yours....... !!

[sSsflamesSs]

Originally posted by Emil I love it, a thread with 158 replies, and it still hasn't gone off topic.

Nice observation, Master.

We are moving up in this forum. Yay!

[Emil]

I love it, a thread with 158 replies, and it still hasn't gone off topic.

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by Anonymouse Some how, you know everything and your adamance that to you it doesn't matter, somehow means that we shouldn't care either.

I'm sorry you can't see this, but you won't understand it, precisely because you aren't Armenian. No one is demanding people marry with their own, it is only preferred and strived for. That you cannot stomach people wanting to marry within their culture is not anyones problem but your own.

Yes, and somehow you don't seem to be listening when I say I have no problem with people marrying within their own culture and furthermore, I don't care who anyone other than the two people who I actually consider friends here marries.

You seem to think this practice is limited to Armenians. It's not. I can understand the inclination perfectly well, Mousy. I have no issue with people wanting to marry within their own culture. The people I take issue with are the ones who are militant and won't allow anything else. You are not one of those people, so I don't see why we should have any quarrel here. Once again, you are arguing about nothing.

[Anonymouse]

Originally posted by loseyourname You're talking to a kid whose parents came from two different cultures. Not only was it not the least bit hard on my psychology, it wasn't all that hard on them either. The only difficulty they had was imposed by their own oppressive parents who attempted to force them to marry within their own race. I don't identify with any one culture. I identify with small parts of all cultures. This does not in any way decrease my sense of identity. If anything, it increases it, as my identity is almost entirely of my own choosing. I do not identify with one particular culture because it is that of my parents, or because I grew up with it, but rather I identify with that which best suits me as an individual.

I'd appreciate it if you'd quit posting as if you knew what you were posting about. You, and I mean all of you, speculate, whereas I have been through all of this.

Some how, you know everything and your adamance that to you it doesn't matter, somehow means that we shouldn't care either.

I'm sorry you can't see this, but you won't understand it, precisely because you aren't Armenian. No one is demanding people marry with their own, it is only preferred and strived for. That you cannot stomach people wanting to marry within their culture is not anyones problem but your own.

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by spiral Which two cultures?

My mom is mostly Irish and Czech, as whitebread as they come. She grew up middle class in Orange County and went to a private high school. My dad is mostly Native American and grew up poor in East LA. He was kicked out of more schools than most of us will ever see. My dad was already living on his own when he met my mother, so he didn't catch quite so much flack from his parents, but my mother was only 18 and still in high school. Her mother very nearly disowned and pulled all kinds of theatric stunts telling her to stay away from someone who was not also white and middle class. Their marriage is one of the most successful I have ever seen and it's probably the one thing I respect most about my parents. They ignored the expectations of their respective cultures and married the person they loved, which is what marriage should really be about.

[loseyourname]

Originally posted by chille I am sorry you feel annoyed by the posts simply because you disagree with what they are saying. But I think everyone is free to express what they think. I am not trying to talk about the things as if I know, I am just expression my opinion. I haven't been raised in a biracial family so I don't know what it feels like but I assume it is hard, though I am not saying it is hard for every single kid from a such family. I have a lot of friends who are very lost in terms of their own identity because their parents are from different cultures and backgrounds, so I am speaking from their experience

I'm not annoyed by people who disagree with me. But when you say that a child growing up with parents who have two distinct cultural backgrounds is going to develop psychological problems because of it as if you are some kind of authority on the subject, then I feel I need to interject. Children develop problems when they are expected to be a certain way and that is not the way they are. That includes being pidgeonholed by cultural expectations. It wasn't a problem for me because I'm so different from anyone in my family to begin with that I just mostly avoided them and they didn't seem to care. The only way I can see it being a problem is if each parents insists that the child identify with his/her culture over the other. I prefer to identify with myself.

[chille]

Originally posted by loseyourname You're talking to a kid whose parents came from two different cultures. Not only was it not the least bit hard on my psychology, it wasn't all that hard on them either. The only difficulty they had was imposed by their own oppressive parents who attempted to force them to marry within their own race. I don't identify with any one culture. I identify with small parts of all cultures. This does not in any way decrease my sense of identity. If anything, it increases it, as my identity is almost entirely of my own choosing. I do not identify with one particular culture because it is that of my parents, or because I grew up with it, but rather I identify with that which best suits me as an individual.

I'd appreciate it if you'd quit posting as if you knew what you were posting about. You, and I mean all of you, speculate, whereas I have been through all of this.

I am sorry you feel annoyed by the posts simply because you disagree with what they are saying. But I think everyone is free to express what they think. I am not trying to talk about the things as if I know, I am just expression my opinion. I haven't been raised in a biracial family so I don't know what it feels like but I assume it is hard, though I am not saying it is hard for every single kid from a such family. I have a lot of friends who are very lost in terms of their own identity because their parents are from different cultures and backgrounds, so I am speaking from their experience