What do you guys think? Armenian w/ non-Armenian?

[tunot]

Re: Dating non-armenians

There have been a few recent threads on this topic. Feel free to search.

[Federation]

Re: Dating non-armenians

There have been a few recent threads on this topic. Feel free to search.

if you were going to suggest other threads on this topic then there was no point for you in getting yourself involved in this one.

Interesting how things turn out when you've got nothing left to say.

[Sip]

Re: Dating non-armenians

Odyssey167, hope you learned something useful from this thread. There is really no logic behind those who are on a mission to preserve their "identity". Especially when they don't really have one. Worst of all, they'll make your life hell with their own misery. I'll say go ahead and define yourself who you are and don't pay any attention to the babbling and the put downs of the likes of "Federation". However, your parents are your parents so I think you should talk to them and try to make them understand what your wishes are and what will make you happy in the end. I suspect in the end, they might put your hapiness somewhat ahead of their own wishes though that doesn't always happen that way.

[Federation]

Re: Dating non-armenians

with well over 1750 posts, SIP, I'll leave you, your monitor, and right hand alone..

[Sip]

Re: Dating non-armenians

FYI, I can do it just as well with either hand. The word for that, in case you are interested, is ambidextrous.

[Federation]

Re: Dating non-armenians

FYI, I can do it just as well with both hands. The word for that, in case you are interested, is ambidextrous.

lol, i'd bet you get a lot of practice sitting behind that monitor all day.

[Sip]

Re: Dating non-armenians

Are you even trying to be on topic?

[Federation]

Re: Dating non-armenians

Are you even trying to be on topic? Yah ok fine I xxxxxxxxxx all day with both hands. Great insult. Yay.

I'd like to get back on topic, but it doesn't seem like you've got anything to say.

What I said wasn't intended to be an insult.

[Crissy]

Re: Dating non-armenians

This issue was probably raised in every armenian family, and from what I see, almost all armenians against it. I'm dating a non-armenian girl with whom i'm in a serious relationship, and I've had quite hostile episodes with my parents regarding this. They are so paranoid, close-minded, and disrespectful. They treat me like i'm some kind of a lunatic for choosing to be with a non-armenian, and have no regards for my feelings. It's as if they love me only if i think and act the way they do (as their so-called "traditional" armenian), otherwise they have no respect for my own thoughts. I'm not doing something unreasonable by dating a non-armenian, I see nothing wrong in that. I feel as if i'm just somekind of a tool of theirs used for the breeding of more armenian children. What indignity...

I don't know how to deal with them anymore, it's been alittle better lately, but there is still the tension. Will they ever get over it and accept her? Or will they remain as stubborn as they were? I know I'm not going to yield to them because they are wrong, and I won't be living a life where I am constantly dictated by rules that state how to be a "proper armenian." I think i have priority over my own rights and individuality.

Unfortunately Armenian parents (some) believe you will only be happy with an Armenian. I don't blame them for the way they think, that's what they know and they are trying to "mer azge metsatsnel" as they say. Have you guys ever heard a wedding speach when they congratulate the happy couple? "urax linek mer hay azge bazmatsnek" something like that.

Anyways, My brother went through the same thing you are going through. He was dating this Italian girl for about 8 years, all of the 8 years both my parents refused to accept her. My brother ended up moving out, got engaged to her (my parents never attended to engagement) but when he moved out, he got to get to know her without having my parents in his face constantly. finally my mum accepted her (still not my dad) and that freaked my brother out. He thought he loved her, but really, he was rebelling againts what my parents were saying. When my mum began to accept her into the family, my brother had to face reality, as we were all planning wedding etc. They ended up breaking up a fewm onths after that.

What I am trying to say is, no one can tell you who to go out with, as I said in another thread, it's up to the individual and what feel right for you. But please be sure if you really love this girl before you drag it any further, try not to do wrong by her and by your parents. Get some space with her alone and see if this is what you really want, and if it is, then you have to speak to your parents and make them understand. They will come around eventually (as have many of my friends parents who have married otars).

Good luck

[odyssey167]

Re: Dating non-armenians

Thanks Crissy and Sip You two seem to be the only ones helping. I'll do the best I can to preserve the relationship.

I see nothing wrong with what i'm doing, and I don't think there is a necessity for my parents to be so shocked when their son is truly happy. If they care so much about the loss of the armenian identity, then they are in love with "armenianness," and not their son, and I won't have that.

Oh, and Federation, please calm down, I didn't mean to offend you so much, but please try to respect my situation and not be so harsh and critical. I disagree with the insults that you inflicted, and judgements that you passed upon me, but I won't try to refute you since i think that trying to make you understand my point of view is a lost cause.