Are You Currently In A Relationship?

[Sip]

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About a year. It's alright ... no real complaints. It works great because I'm often up till weeeee hours of the morning working but she has to sleep at 11pm since she gets up at 6 to go to work. I'll be hitting 30 this summer and I'd say for me, this kind of life style seems about right for this age.

I would definitely recommend against getting into anything serious till way into the 20's. At the very least, I think one needs to move out of the house, spend a few years at college, then start to work (not necessary all in that order either ... actually I think it's a huge plus to stay at home while giong to college for the most part) ... establish him or herself as a person ... get to do all the cool things a single person can do ... and then try the relationship thing. I see a lot of young kids jump into relationships very early on and they are not really ready for it.

Some of them (especially Armenians) do it to be able to move out of their parents house. That is probably the worst reason to get into a relationship with someone else.

But to answer your question of "how is it" ... it's got it's pluses and minuses just like any other choice you make. You give up some things while you gain other things.

[One-Way]

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You're right about the last part of your post.

Everything has an upside and downside. Relationship's take work, but you get something great out of it.

I came to a conclusion yesterday, which I might have came across earlier if I had given it some more thought. I realized "talking to someone" or being with someone is good for you. Everytime I'm talking to a girl, getting to know them, to possibly date - I feel really great. 'Cause I know someone is thinking about me, and waiting for me to get home to talk to me. You know? And yes, there's a reason why I made this thread, but I still wanted to know how many of us were in a relationship.

[TomServo]

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One-Way entertains his girlfriend by talking about why girls are dumbasses.

[One-Way]

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Hah, it's true. Then she gets mad, says something stupid, and my point is proven.

Then I make a thread about her.

[Sip]

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The thing about girls and relationships is that if you've never been in a serious one (relationship ), then you think you are missing out and it's sometimes all you think about. I think it's a big part of the western culture and people often seem to put faaaaaaaaaaar too much emphasis on the whole relationship deal.

But I totally hear ya about just talking to others! If you don't talk to people, you'll eventually end up a depressed mess ... no matter how much you like yourself or enjoy spending time with yourself.

About the opposite sex ... yah there's always a nice feeling when you feel you can attract some attention so that has other bonuses in addition to basic socializing. So yah ... by all means ... talk ... chat ... be social ... flirt ... ask someone out that you may like ... etc. It's all part of human nature and the more relaxed and casual you are about the whole thing, the more you will enjoy it and the more success you will have in attracting the kinds of attention you want.

[One-Way]

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Yeah. I've never been in a serious relationship, but I do think the idea of it is exaggerated. Although, I would like to find a nice girl now, and have a girlfriend. Even though I'll be dealing with stress most of the time, knowing how girls are, I rather have someone then not. It's just tough finding a girl, and I'm not even talking about "the right girl" - I'm just talking about an ordinary girl. I've gotten to picky with females. Once one comes along, I just stray away. Can't explain it. Those who've been screwed over before know what I'm talking about.

[ddd]

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[One-Way]

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Hahahahaha.

[thedebutante]

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i'm 'talkin' to someone

[Anahita]

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I don’t think I agree as a generality that people should avoid relationships until their late 20’s (per Sip). What do people define or understand as a ‘serious’ relationship? Serious is opposed to what?

If someone hadn’t been in a serious relationship until they were established in their goals, knew her/himself, and so on, they might miss out on someone or something really special in a relationship. Then, without the benefits of having had serious relationship(s) (a serious boyfriend/girlfriend), how would they know the ‘right’ person when they saw them? They wouldn’t. They might not see what they have under their nose or alternatively might settle for something more ephemeral (like based on only physical attraction, which fades).

If a person, who hadn’t had a relationship until late 20’s, did start feeling ready to have a serious boyfriend/girlfriend, they would have also missed out on lots of learning about themselves (and themselves in a partnership) and about knowing who/what they are really trying to find.

The learning that comes from relationships includes starting to understand ‘the opposite sex,’ knowing how to be sensitive to the perspective and feelings of the person who is your bf/gf, and a million other things that go along with a ‘serious’ relationship. Serious relationships are honest relationships, but don’t need to lead to something as Serious (with cap S) as marriage. I do cherish the idea of serious relationships in a world where TV, Western culture, and peer pressure for kids seems to glamorize ‘cheap’ relationships. I’m not advocating anything about sex (which is great, when someone is ready AND in a relationship/) But, I am advocating ‘serious’ relationships. I think an emphasis on relationship is a good thing.

That's my 9 cents.