Cheating at a young age

[thedebutante]

I can't imagine ever being dumb enough to tell my boyfriend to go have his fun since he is young and should be able to do as he pleases. If it was a situation in which a guy was coming clean after four indescretions (without my having told him to run off and have sex with other girls) I think it would be difficult to trust the guy, not that he means it when he says he loves me, but that he is being truthful when he says he respects me. What he did was terribly disrespectful and I honestly don't think any self-respecting girl should take back a guy like that. Things would never be the same again, in moments of argument or disagreement when such things would add fuel to the already growing fire you KNOW it's going to come up again even if you've promised yourself and each other that it won't. It just seems like a headache on top of all the heartache to take such a person back. On top of which, if he was truly trying to be honest with her, if he was a good person beneath it all, he should have told her what he did before he slept with her. Not just to protect her health in the off chance that something might have gone wrong without his knowing it and she has every right to know, but also because she might have made a very different decision as to whether or not to go ahead and sleep with him had she known of his prior cheating... I really don't understand the cowardice of men who cheat and hide and lie about something that always always comes out in the end.

Very well said.

If he has already started to look elsewhere, then their relationship lacked something from the beginning. Trying to convince himself and the girl that now he finally and truly loves her will not patch things up.

[hyebruin]

hi I hate you all

we love you too hugs and almond hershey kisssesssss may you break into a crimson pruritic rash with lots of bubbly vesicles

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

The 50/50 part is the truth. Both are responsible for their actions. The guy can say no to. He doesnt need to stick his "thingy" either he wants to.

[sleuth]

Maybe women have to learn how to love themselves,then discover the Art of loving someone.All this banal _drama love situations oucome of lack of self_respect and self_love.



How can someone tell her/his loved one go have *fun*.I just don't get this.Am i too conservative ???

[Anonymouse]

I'm sorry to say this, but this is a load of crap. If we go by your thinking, then it's entirely the GUY'S fault for sticking his tool in her. He is the "last" one to have a say in it.

Cut the crap, please. It's a two-way street. 50/50

I guess we disagree kind sister. No hard feelings.

[hyebruin]

Maybe women have to learn how to love themselves,then discover the Art of loving someone.All this banal _drama love situations oucome of lack of self_respect and self_love.



How can someone tell her/his loved one go have *fun*.I just don't get this.Am i too conservative ???

it's not only women, some guys are just as pathetic! willing to take back the person they had feelings for (who wronged them); as far as i am concerned once someone crosses and deceives me, they're as good as dead to me! no more miss nice and compassionate bruin; they can go to hell, it will not sadden me

[sleuth]

Guys are players. .don't expect too much from them ,and u won't get disappointed.

In some point i do agree with Crimson... last word is after us.

[sad_eyes]

one question-would you take you back?