Parenting

[sleuth]

For both men and women, becoming parents is often something done more as a coming of age rite than a carefully thought out choic. Have u ever asked yourself “would I make a good parent? Do I actually like children? Am I comfortable around children?” and the most important question of all, “do I actually want children?”
We are not doing any favors to child by bringing him into world just so he can have a parent who doesn’t like kids.And i also happen to think that its very immature to have kid solely because u want one.We have to consider childs need before bringing to this word,to have a child because we want that ,totally selfish and immature.
And another thing that bothers me a lot its society's definition of family and fathers role. Men who adhere to traditional sex roles seem to be emotionally stunted.Ther are not supposed to feel or show off emotions.(take it as a men).
What child really wants from parents.?? and shell we consider their needs and expectetions before bringing them into this world.

[nunechka]

sleuth, that is awesome, good point and i agree with you completely... we should question before we take action...

[sleuth]

sleuth, that is awesome, good point and i agree with you completely... we should question before we take action...

yup,but whats the fathers role in family,since women have traditionally been the only parents to really raise their children, nurturing has usually been thought of as a feminine characteristic.

[Anonymouse]

After reading this thread, I want to become a father.

[sad_eyes]

I believe that a child should be brought into the world only when you feel you are capable of the responsiblity. Child making should be an act of love. If you are not ready to accpet the responsibilities then men, keep your d**k in your pants and ladies, keep your legs closed. As sick as it might sound it is the truth. Children are gifts.

[SagGal]

I don't think anyone is ever ready to be a parent.
AND
Both parents play an important role in their child's life, but a certain parent's role might not be what the child needs.

[sleuth]

After reading this thread, I want to become a father.

How can i help you???

[nunechka]

sleuth... there is great and boring reading on this subject in the area of Antropology... but i can attempt to tell you what the fathers role is...

in every culture it is different... for us Armos it is to be a good role model and show your strength and your wizdom... you think of your father as a man who is smart, capable, and a provider, so if oyu want to continue this then go for it... but if you feel that and sometimes men do feel that it is not fare that women get to have all the fame here, then you should try changing the baby's diper more often and staying up at night with the baby more often... and when the kid is ready to go to school, YOU take the kid to school and YOU take off time from work to watch over the kid when he/she is sick...

as far as teaching your kid what is right or wrong, well that isnt your job exactly, it is everyone in your family and you have to remember, that kid is born with a personality already, and they are forming their opinion on what they believe, so you can and should be their provider, their firend, and their guardian...

i guess the only madical thing i said there is that all this parenting role stuff is culturally defined for us already... but thats a damn good theory...

so i suggest reading about this in antropology books usually they are titled like "gender roles in modern society" or something like that...

good luck

[angelik22]

anthropology ? boreing? OMG u must be confused!!
its the most fascinating ever..well maybe depends on who ure aking the class with and where... i certainly loved anthro and everythign i learned in that class.

[nunechka]

angelik, i am certainly not confused... now your statement was a little confusing beacuse you seem to disagree with me at first by saying that i am confused, then you agree by saying that you loved anthro... i took an anthro class that was specifically on GENDER ROLES... and so it discussed the Margret Mead theory of cultures shaping the roles we take as women and men in thsi world...

and that is that