Announcement

Collapse

Forum Rules (Everyone Must Read!!!)

1] What you CAN NOT post.

You agree, through your use of this service, that you will not use this forum to post any material which is:
- abusive
- vulgar
- hateful
- harassing
- personal attacks
- obscene

You also may not:
- post images that are too large (max is 500*500px)
- post any copyrighted material unless the copyright is owned by you or cited properly.
- post in UPPER CASE, which is considered yelling
- post messages which insult the Armenians, Armenian culture, traditions, etc
- post racist or other intentionally insensitive material that insults or attacks another culture (including Turks)

The Ankap thread is excluded from the strict rules because that place is more relaxed and you can vent and engage in light insults and humor. Notice it's not a blank ticket, but just a place to vent. If you go into the Ankap thread, you enter at your own risk of being clowned on.
What you PROBABLY SHOULD NOT post...
Do not post information that you will regret putting out in public. This site comes up on Google, is cached, and all of that, so be aware of that as you post. Do not ask the staff to go through and delete things that you regret making available on the web for all to see because we will not do it. Think before you post!


2] Use descriptive subject lines & research your post. This means use the SEARCH.

This reduces the chances of double-posting and it also makes it easier for people to see what they do/don't want to read. Using the search function will identify existing threads on the topic so we do not have multiple threads on the same topic.

3] Keep the focus.

Each forum has a focus on a certain topic. Questions outside the scope of a certain forum will either be moved to the appropriate forum, closed, or simply be deleted. Please post your topic in the most appropriate forum. Users that keep doing this will be warned, then banned.

4] Behave as you would in a public location.

This forum is no different than a public place. Behave yourself and act like a decent human being (i.e. be respectful). If you're unable to do so, you're not welcome here and will be made to leave.

5] Respect the authority of moderators/admins.

Public discussions of moderator/admin actions are not allowed on the forum. It is also prohibited to protest moderator actions in titles, avatars, and signatures. If you don't like something that a moderator did, PM or email the moderator and try your best to resolve the problem or difference in private.

6] Promotion of sites or products is not permitted.

Advertisements are not allowed in this venue. No blatant advertising or solicitations of or for business is prohibited.
This includes, but not limited to, personal resumes and links to products or
services with which the poster is affiliated, whether or not a fee is charged
for the product or service. Spamming, in which a user posts the same message repeatedly, is also prohibited.

7] We retain the right to remove any posts and/or Members for any reason, without prior notice.


- PLEASE READ -

Members are welcome to read posts and though we encourage your active participation in the forum, it is not required. If you do participate by posting, however, we expect that on the whole you contribute something to the forum. This means that the bulk of your posts should not be in "fun" threads (e.g. Ankap, Keep & Kill, This or That, etc.). Further, while occasionally it is appropriate to simply voice your agreement or approval, not all of your posts should be of this variety: "LOL Member213!" "I agree."
If it is evident that a member is simply posting for the sake of posting, they will be removed.


8] These Rules & Guidelines may be amended at any time. (last update September 17, 2009)

If you believe an individual is repeatedly breaking the rules, please report to admin/moderator.
See more
See less

Parenting

Collapse
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • #11
    sorry didnt mean to come off like that- i wasnt trying to be a smartass- i just wanted to say that i could never find anthro boreing- cause from what i got from, ur post was that u said it was boreing to read abotu it- sorry if i misunderstood you- no bad intentions- i was jsut being me- was a little joke kind of way that i said it- and i dont blame you -u dont know me too well to be able to tell whts said jokingly and what snot- btw nice 2 meet you, welcoem to the forum- and nice posts so far

    Comment


    • #12
      ohh, sorry hun...

      i did take it the wrong way... because i didnt think it was boring, but to most people it is...

      nice to meet you too...

      Comment


      • #13
        Originally posted by nunechka
        sleuth... there is great and boring reading on this subject in the area of Antropology... but i can attempt to tell you what the fathers role is...

        in every culture it is different... for us Armos it is to be a good role model and show your strength and your wizdom... you think of your father as a man who is smart, capable, and a provider, so if oyu want to continue this then go for it... but if you feel that and sometimes men do feel that it is not fare that women get to have all the fame here, then you should try changing the baby's diper more often and staying up at night with the baby more often... and when the kid is ready to go to school, YOU take the kid to school and YOU take off time from work to watch over the kid when he/she is sick...

        as far as teaching your kid what is right or wrong, well that isnt your job exactly, it is everyone in your family and you have to remember, that kid is born with a personality already, and they are forming their opinion on what they believe, so you can and should be their provider, their firend, and their guardian...

        i guess the only madical thing i said there is that all this parenting role stuff is culturally defined for us already... but thats a damn good theory...

        so i suggest reading about this in antropology books usually they are titled like "gender roles in modern society" or something like that...


        good luck
        Its all good forum cheer leader

        Anthropology is not boring but i really don't need to read it. I am perfectly aware of what the fathers’ role is (i have row model, archetype of parent- father).
        Father as a man who is smart, capable and a provider is all good!!! My concern is emotional aspect of fatherhood. I would love to read what guys think about fatherhood, but they are passive which makes me think they don't have clearer idea what it is to be a father.
        I'm a monstrous mass of vile, foul & corrupted matter.

        Comment


        • #14
          sleuth, my man, i am not a cheer leader... not even the type...

          if i was i would have an avatar that resembled that...

          Comment


          • #15
            Originally posted by nunechka
            sleuth, my man, i am not a cheer leader... not even the type...

            if i was i would have an avatar that resembled that...

            nunechka ,i didnt mean anything bad

            I prefer to be your girl ,btw
            I'm a monstrous mass of vile, foul & corrupted matter.

            Comment


            • #16
              Originally posted by sleuth
              For both men and women, becoming parents is often something done more as a coming of age rite than a carefully thought out choic. Have u ever asked yourself “would I make a good parent? Do I actually like children? Am I comfortable around children?” and the most important question of all, “do I actually want children?”
              We are not doing any favors to child by bringing him into world just so he can have a parent who doesn’t like kids.And i also happen to think that its very immature to have kid solely because u want one.We have to consider childs need before bringing to this word,to have a child because we want that ,totally selfish and immature.
              And another thing that bothers me a lot its society's definition of family and fathers role. Men who adhere to traditional sex roles seem to be emotionally stunted.Ther are not supposed to feel or show off emotions.(take it as a men).
              What child really wants from parents.?? and shell we consider their needs and expectetions before bringing them into this world.
              I agree with the brunt of your post, however, the part where you seek to marginalize "traditional sex roles" and suggested that somehow those of that persuasion are "stunted", I do not agree with. Showing off emotions has nothing to do with traditional sex roles. I would not want to have a father who was androgynous, or a masculine mother. No sireee. Nor would I put my kids through such a hell.
              Achkerov kute.

              Comment


              • #17
                Originally posted by Anonymouse
                I agree with the brunt of your post, however, the part where you seek to marginalize "traditional sex roles" and suggested that somehow those of that persuasion are "stunted", I do not agree with. Showing off emotions has nothing to do with traditional sex roles. I would not want to have a father who was androgynous, or a masculine mother. No sireee. Nor would I put my kids through such a hell.
                So you think father who is there not only as a provider but as an emotional supporter is androgynous, and mother who works extra hard side by side with her husband is a masculine mother.Is that what u are saying???
                Last edited by sleuth; 09-01-2004, 10:23 AM.
                I'm a monstrous mass of vile, foul & corrupted matter.

                Comment


                • #18
                  anony you are pretty funny...

                  my mother and father work side by side... my dad cooks sometimes along side my mother and washes dishes too... but he doesnt do as much as my mom... which makes me think, hey my mom works 8 to 10 hrs a day and so does my dad, but my mom comes home cooks (most of the time), cleans, take my little brother to school drops him off at basketball, does all the errands washes the close, etc... i think sometimes my mom is pretty tough... she is really "dematskun" more then my dad... because my dad comes home from work and rests...

                  dont get me wrong my dad does things like fix the toilet when it goes bad, the lights the heater, the A/C the doors, the walls, he has FIXED UP all the houses we have lived in...

                  he has an impress library and level and spectrum of education, wizdom, and intelligence, but i think my mom is really TOUGH, she can compete with the library, wizdom and intelligence... but they are different in their every day activities...

                  Comment


                  • #19
                    Well I am a father (and an Anthropologist BTW...at least by education/interest) and I certainly do as much for/with my kids as my wife dows - we share pretty equally. And for instance - I am the cook in the house. I pretty much do all of the cooking, most all of the groceryt shopping and even much of the shopping for the kid's clothes and such (hey I'm the Armenians half - thus the better shopper!). And we share most child raising duties (baths, making them lunches, homework, taking them to stuff...) as well as household stuff (and decisonmaking and the like) - etc etc...and itys entirely OK. And no - I don't think anyone would consider me effeminate in any way or lacking as a husband/father etc - (unless perhaps beating your wife is considered by some as a "traditional" father's role...)...

                    Yeah nice post Sleuth - good questions to ponder...

                    Comment


                    • #20
                      Originally posted by sleuth
                      So you think father who is there not only as a provider but as an emotional supporter is androgynous, and mother who works extra hard side by side with her husband is a masculine mother.Is that what u are saying???

                      You missed my point. But that's okay.
                      Achkerov kute.

                      Comment

                      Working...
                      X