Relationship "Problem"

[Emil]

That's a much better picture sad_eyes.

[HyeJinx1984]

Calm down, where's the love? Anon, if she wants to post a thread about her relationship, then she can.

Hyejinx, no need to suggest for Anon to commit suicide. If his posts bother you that much, put him on your ignore list. Then you can't see his posts anymore.

[HyeJinx1984]

For a minute there I was going crazy, thinking to myself "Wait, I didn't type that.... DID I??!?!" hehe, ah, I'm gonna go have a coke now...

[sad_eyes]

That's a much better picture sad_eyes.

thank you..................

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

Sad Eyes sorry to say tough luck. There is this thing too, maybe he loves u too but he doesnt want to marry a non-armenian. It really hard I know but search about it in him. If u mak sure he really loves u no matter what than stay, but if u see he has doubts than think very hardly what u should do.

[gevo]

I am in an relationship with an armenian guy who I love and want to marry. Although he does love me in return he cant marry me because of his traditions. Which I understand and respect, which is why I dont fight it. After knowing this, I tend to think of leaving him but the thing is I cant bring myself to leave him because...the thought of not being with him hurts me, very much. We have been together for about a year. And we have gone through alot together. Mainly due to the fact that we wanted to be together and others did not approve of it. His friends believe that we were meant to be together, and I believe it too. I am stuck in a situation and I dont know how to solve any of it. Were not going to be together forever, so................I dont know, what do you people think I should do?

Speaking from a very similar personal experiances (without the blunt word "love" in the terms of anything more than a friendship) i say that there is no definite answer to this. As an Armenian i have been asked why i wouldnt marry a girl whom i truly come to love and we work nicely, fit together etc.. and the only answers i have been able to mutter out have been rediculouse lame shots at an excuse to change the subject. I still have the same problem, i cannot find a well suited, thaught out logical answer to why i wouldnt marry a non-armenian.. but i wouldnt. (as much as i can control) I dont see that much of a problem about it, other than the fact of the "Armenian" heritage of that family being lost etc etc.. but still there are ways to control that, it is up to the parents to teach their kids what they want... and they can teach them the Armenian heritage, the culture the language.. etc.. SO.. again i have no definite answer.. its a tough situation.. lol.. and the more you try to deal with it it seems the more complicated it gets..

But, here is one part that doesnt make any sense to me. Why did the guy bring this on you>? as in why did he form such a relationship with you if he knew from the get-go that he will not marry you? Its horrible what he is doing.. but i beleive since he has given it the effort, he is more confsed thatn you are.. he may still very well want to marry you.. but he is afraid of everyone elses opinion.. which sadly does play a large role in his decision.. anywho.. hoep that helps some.

[Anonymouse]

Speaking from a very similar personal experiances (without the blunt word "love" in the terms of anything more than a friendship) i say that there is no definite answer to this. As an Armenian i have been asked why i wouldnt marry a girl whom i truly come to love and we work nicely, fit together etc.. and the only answers i have been able to mutter out have been rediculouse lame shots at an excuse to change the subject. I still have the same problem, i cannot find a well suited, thaught out logical answer to why i wouldnt marry a non-armenian.. but i wouldnt. (as much as i can control) I dont see that much of a problem about it, other than the fact of the "Armenian" heritage of that family being lost etc etc.. but still there are ways to control that, it is up to the parents to teach their kids what they want... and they can teach them the Armenian heritage, the culture the language.. etc.. SO.. again i have no definite answer.. its a tough situation.. lol.. and the more you try to deal with it it seems the more complicated it gets..

But, here is one part that doesnt make any sense to me. Why did the guy bring this on you>? as in why did he form such a relationship with you if he knew from the get-go that he will not marry you? Its horrible what he is doing.. but i beleive since he has given it the effort, he is more confsed thatn you are.. he may still very well want to marry you.. but he is afraid of everyone elses opinion.. which sadly does play a large role in his decision.. anywho.. hoep that helps some.

Precisely. Why bother someones feelings when you know from the start your own intentions? Sounds like a short sighted decision.

[ckBejug]

You've already shown an interest in the Armenian people, now try to immerse yourself, with his help, in the culture and traditions, even try to learn the language and I don't see why it should be such a problem for him to maryr you some day. Now if the cofusion/problem is he's confused if he wants to marry you regardless of the Armenian non-Armenian issue (after all, you are both rather young to be making such claims of wanting to be together for say the next 60-70 years!) then none of that is going to help. But if you do both indeed plan on being together indefinitely I don't see any problem if he marries a non-Armenian who seems quite intent on helping him preserve his Armenian-ness. After all, you don't live in some stuck in yesterday country where his parents really would disown him if he married you, do you?

[fIReBuRntInHeLL]

Are u christian? maybe that matters for the guy's family?

[Siggie]

Maybe when the times comes to make that decision he'll change his mind.