Alright to be shy?

[!EEK]

Thanks monkey girl but I'm shy AND left handed YOu mad me one more thing to worry about...

Anyway, I'm pissed off. In my class I'm always reminded I'm the shyest. When the teacher erases the board and I did not finish writing, I don't say a xxxx and look on the mate behind to copy on his notes. Well now she always asks me when I look confused "Vartan you finished?" .

[violette829]

Thanks monkey girl but I'm shy AND left handed YOu mad me one more thing to worry about...

Anyway, I'm pissed off. In my class I'm always reminded I'm the shyest. When the teacher erases the board and I did not finish writing, I don't say a xxxx and look on the mate behind to copy on his notes. Well now she always asks me when I look confused "Vartan you finished?" .

God, if you were my classmate, I'd whip you! Why don't you speak up? Were you abused as a child? LOL I'm sorry that's the first thing that popped into my head.

[!EEK]

20 min. of going on and on about this guy's self-esteem and you give me him the best advice. Huh....nice.

Well his advice really helped me.... I really can't do anything like change personnality, etc... so I figure i'll just have to whait and hope to have the same chance as Harut

[!EEK]

God, if you were my classmate, I'd whip you! Why don't you speak up? Were you abused as a child? LOL I'm sorry that's the first thing that popped into my head.

No, I just don't want to tell the teacher "Nooooooooooooo! I didn't finish"

[violette829]

No, I just don't want to tell the teacher "Nooooooooooooo! I didn't finish"

This is what you say

Vartan:" Excuse me Miss Belgium Teacher, I wasn't finished"

Miss Belgium Teacher:"Oh sure Vartan, thank you for letting me know"

[!EEK]

This is what you say

Vartan:" Excuse me Miss Belgium Teacher, I wasn't finished"

Miss Belgium Teacher:"Oh sure Vartan, thank you for letting me know"

But it's so hard

Ok I'm lying now, I could telll her that but it's so much easier to watch on the other's notes

[Harut82]

20 min. of going on and on about this guy's self-esteem and you give me him the best advice. Huh....nice.

thanks, but why the angry face?

[Anonymouse]

Wow thanks Anony, it was the most helpful post you ever did for me at the most important time .

Anyway, with friends, not even close ones, I'm not embarassed of talking about anything. But as soon as they start asking me questions, ANY questions, and they tell me I'm getting red, well...I'm already red!

I think for professional life, I could handel it. I can stay firm but it's really about personal/everyday life. I really can't get to talk openly to anyone exept friends.

At first I tought it was ok, I thought that when growing up it'll slowly fade away but no, it even got more intense I must say It sux

Look dude, take it from me, your point is not to impress chicks or give a rats ass about what they think about "personal/everyday life". Who gives a shyt what they think? You are who you are because thats who you are, and thats what chicks like. If you are shy, they immediately pick it up.

Most guys are shy to approach chicks in general and feel held back that they might get rejected or won't know what to say. Who cares? You have to get rejected in order to get past that stage. Treat them like they are crap and then it'll all become clear. Chicks are very self-conscious of themselves, just like guys. They just do a better job of hiding it. Go up to any chick and be yourself. Most of all be confident in yourself, the way you are. They like that. Be a jerk to them ( not an as shole ) but make jokes on them, treat them like they are a friend or nothing special. Why should they be? They are used to be special. They are used to every guy hitting on them. Don't you think chicks know this? They already know what guys want and expect it when guys approach them that it's obviously to hook up. And when they know that, they lose interest in you because you are already shy and when you do approach it is without confidence and generic. You gotta create the attraction, the comfort. Think about it, every other guy is either shy, or approaches with the same generic way to turn off a female. Be co cky and funny and do what I told you, and I guarantee you'll see results. It takes time, but you have to practice. You should just bluntly say "Hi" to random chicks, whether on the street, or in the car next to you, or in the mall or at school or at a party. It doesn't matter where. Say "Hi", followed by "Are you a Democrat (or insert proper Belgian political party), because if you are, we can't go out". Turn it into a joke, and be confident. Do not go out with the intention of "hookin up", just do it for the sake of doing it, because you can, because you are you, because you are not like every other guy who does the same generic predetermined pattern. And most important, DON'T BE SHY! You lose lots of opportunities like that.

[Harut82]

Do not go out with the intention of "hookin up", just do it for the sake of doing it, because you can, because you are you, because you are not like every other guy who does the same generic predetermined pattern.

[violette829]

I must say, I am proud of my Mousy. ::clapping:: Bravooo Bravooo!