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  • #671
    Re: Armenian lesbians/gays

    No one ever stays on topic of these thread titles
    Positive vibes, positive taught

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    • #672
      Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

      Originally posted by PepsiAddict View Post
      No one ever stays on topic of these thread titles
      This is the general talk section. It's like Ankap except we explore the topic at hand from all angles.
      "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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      • #673
        Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

        Originally posted by Flamenkita View Post
        E.g. I dated a man who was taking up sign language. Another was into developing his own varieties of orchids. Another played the cello. Another tinkered with old cars. You get my point, I'm sure. If you want more, then BE more.
        Wow, how did you ever let THOSE ones go?

        Hmm... what does a man have to be to get a woman with the nurturing ability of Mother Teresa, the figure of Selma Hayek, spunk of Marisa Tomei and the stature of Pipa Middleton?

        You see... no matter what a man IS, he will never be in the circles of the type of women he wants because western society breeds a bunch of uncultured simpletons.

        All the regular guy has to be is sober and employed and he outclasses 75% of single guys out there.

        However, those guys (who either live with other male friends or parents) have way more time to screw around with women. The guy with a career and hobbies doesn't have the time for the chase and excitement girls look for when they are "not yet mature". So what you are implying is that all guys are immature until their 30s but in reality, you don't see those guys out in the real world because they are in the types of careers that take up a lot of focus and time.

        You might claim that there are women who also have little time due to their careers but lets face it, if a woman wants a man, all she has to do is wink and nod and she'll have 20 around her.
        "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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        • #674
          Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

          Originally posted by KanadaHye View Post
          Wow, how did you ever let THOSE ones go?

          Hmm... what does a man have to be to get a woman with the nurturing ability of Mother Teresa, the figure of Selma Hayek, spunk of Marisa Tomei and the stature of Pipa Middleton?

          You see... no matter what a man IS, he will never be in the circles of the type of women he wants because western society breeds a bunch of uncultured simpletons.

          All the regular guy has to be is sober and employed and he outclasses 75% of single guys out there.

          However, those guys (who either live with other male friends or parents) have way more time to screw around with women. The guy with a career and hobbies doesn't have the time for the chase and excitement girls look for when they are "not yet mature". So what you are implying is that all guys are immature until their 30s but in reality, you don't see those guys out in the real world because they are in the types of careers that take up a lot of focus and time.

          You might claim that there are women who also have little time due to their careers but lets face it, if a woman wants a man, all she has to do is wink and nod and she'll have 20 around her.
          It is so interesting to me that every attempt I have made to show that it's really not that grim a situation has been shot down. The catch is that I keep pushing the idea that to have more you have to offer more.

          How did I let those guys go? Well, in one's 20s and 30s there is a lot of movement and change. Most of those guys I mentioned were in the same university environment I was in, so there were also time limits.

          The kind of women you are describing (compassionate, smart, spunky) are probably not hanging out at bars and agoomps.

          The other mistake that I think people make is that they spend their time with the same group of people doing the same things all the time. And then they are bitter that someone new or different isn't crossing their path. Sometimes you have to put yourself into novel situations, go outside your own comfort zone. Clearly, what you've been doing so far hasn't panned out.

          Also, the reason why younger women go after men who aren't available (for whatever reason), and who put on airs is because they, themselves are not ready to be in permanent relationships, so they choose people they will dump or who will eventually dump them.

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          • #675
            Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

            Regarding the evolution of this thread, I think it has to do with the fact that somehow all roads lead to the same place, and that is the fundamental paradoxes of being human. We all want connection and intimacy, but don't know how to make that happen. The world our parents grew up in is no longer. They didn't prepare us well for the challenges that we were going to face. So, in many ways, second and third generation Armenians living in the west have to chart their own path given a set of circumstances that are very different from what they may have been raised to expect. Sometimes what you think will make you happy isn't really the right thing for you. People who navigate the dating and relationship scene better seem to have more flexibility in their expectations.

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            • #676
              Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

              BTW, the correct spelling is Eunuch, not Eunich.

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              • #677
                Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

                Originally posted by Flamenkita View Post
                It is so interesting to me that every attempt I have made to show that it's really not that grim a situation has been shot down. The catch is that I keep pushing the idea that to have more you have to offer more.
                Show me more and I'll offer more. I'm not going to pay a lifetime of blood, sweat and tears for a lazy, used up incubator that will just sit there depressed and xxxxxy the whole time because I'm the one that made her fat while a bunch of others got the best of her. Sorry, homey don't play that.

                I know you are saying that it's not that grim a situation but the fact of the matter is that IT IS THAT GRIM a situation. Sure there are some girls that fall through the cracks and have made wise decisions but they are in the minority and will probably remain at home because they've passed the age of courting and they can't find a decent guy either because most guys have become professional liars. Perhaps they can "love the way they lie" like Rhianna

                BTW, I have found my better half but she's an import Never buy domestic, you pay way too much for something defective.
                "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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                • #678
                  Re: Armenian Eunuchs/Hermaphrodites

                  Originally posted by Flamenkita View Post
                  BTW, the correct spelling is Eunuch, not Eunich.
                  Noted. Thank you for the correction.
                  "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it." ~Malcolm X

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                  • #679
                    Re: Armenian Eunichs/Hermaphrodites

                    Originally posted by KanadaHye View Post

                    BTW, I have found my better half but she's an import Never buy domestic, you pay way too much for something defective.
                    Best of luck with your import. Here's hoping the parts don't cost you your life's savings when things start falling apart. And I'm sure she relishes the fact that you're comparing "finding" her to buying a car...

                    Just hope she isn't biding her time for something "better", or for a way of getting the rest of her family to this side of the puddle. That's when things fell apart for my uncle and his import. She realized that life in America isn't the same as life in the Middle East, that people don't really give a crap about your material achievements. At least that's true for the people I associate with.

                    The more you write, the more I feel like you just fell in with a bunch of really common people, you took on their common ways, and then were disappointed that you were not meeting anyone that's not common.

                    And, by the way, if you see everything as a material transaction (show me more and I'll offer more? wtf?), then your connections become adversarial. What ever happened to mutuality?

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                    • #680
                      Re: Armenian Eunuchs/Hermaphrodites

                      Here's another story for you. When I was in my early 30's, I made friends with a young Armenian man who had just come from Turkey. He was a nice person with a lot of potential, but who was frustrated at not meeting appropriate women. So, I took him under my wing, and I taught him. I gave him advice very directly, told him exactly what to do and what not to do. I even corrected his table manners, his grooming, coached him on how to approach women, how to interact, and even issues pertaining to sex and intimacy. We talked through what he did and didn't want. Now, many years later, he is married to an awesome Armenian-American woman who has a PhD and teaches literature. They have two lovely kids, and an interesting life together. He earns a decent living, but isn't wealthy.

                      He very easily could have gone down the path of frustration, paranoia, and bitterness. But he was smart, and he got lucky. To this day, he thanks me for having helped him adjust.

                      That's just one story. I've helped others, too. The point I'm making is, where are the mothers and aunts and older sisters? Why aren't they helping the young Armenian men figure out what will make their lives worthwhile?

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