Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

[Anonymouse]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

One-way as much as I respect you for voicing your opinion, I am just going to have to disagree on this.

Okay, in that case, here is my opinion.

I believe if two people love each other -- and I don't mean movie love -- where you really like somebody but once you glance at other guy/girl, you fall in love again. I mean true love, it exists, maybe some people might not agree, and I wouldn't have either two years ago but I'm talking about love.

If two people love each other, they will do whatever their other half suggets. That means if the girl tells the guy (whether or not the guy is a virgin) that she wants to wait until marriage, the guy should agree, no question. There should be no talk of him cheating because she's not having sex with him or anthing else. That just means it's not love and it was founded on NOTHING. This work vice versa, obviously.

Well this just sounds absurd. If one person suggests something then the other person should "do it" no matter what, because of "true love"? There is no "true love." It's just a continuing process between people that we all have and can grow in and out of and with many different combinations of people. It is "practical politics." I am not denying love, I am denying it any of the heavenly and imaginary and idealistic dimensions we ascribe it, raising it on a pedestal. We are all capable of selfless (which many would equate to love) and selfishness (which many would equate as the antithesis).

I don't think in the real world - the practical world - "love" exists in the same idealistic realm as you have ascribed it. There is no "true love." In love there is no equality. One person puckers up to kiss, and one person always braces for the kiss. In other words, there is a power dynamic. So, if one person wants to have sex, they are more likely to cheat and/or get it somewhere else. The reason for this is because many people do not know themselves well enough, or well at all, to know what they are capable of - their potentials and limitations. And because many people tend to be more selfish and seek the self-gratification of their prurient interests, they are more likely to chart on this course as opposed to waiting. I am not speaking about everyone (obviously), but that is the way it goes in the real world of practical politics and human animality for most of the people who do not possess self-knowledge, and are not capable of introspection.

[RareChik]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

In my opinion, unfortunently, her way of thinking is right. Not necessarily healthy, but it's right, for the following reason:

The girl wants to have sex but is worried if she breaks up, nobody will want her. That itself proves she should not have sex because she's already considering they might break up.

The girl should wait until she meets the right person; whether it's this boyfriend or the next. At that point, she can either have sex with him (without the worrying of breaking up, since he's the right one for her) or wait until they are married.

You see the problem is girls just want to have sex, regardless of who it is. I think we should all wait until we meet the right person. That way, there is no worry of "what if we break up" and in my opinion, if you have sex before marriage, I consider it okay, because it's with who you love and will eventually marry.

So, would u say that a girl made a mistake or is a xxxx if she does have sex with her bf and at that time she thinks that he's the right one and no doubt in her mind...but a year later for some reason...doesnt really matter...they break up...

In my opinion, unfortunently, her way of thinking is right. Not necessarily healthy, but it's right, for the following reason:

do u think that this way of thinking should change in our community? y or y not (i mean since it's not healthy)?

[One-Way]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

In my opinion, unfortunently, her way of thinking is right. Not necessarily healthy, but it's right, for the following reason:

The girl wants to have sex but is worried if she breaks up, nobody will want her. That itself proves she should not have sex because she's already considering they might break up.

The girl should wait until she meets the right person; whether it's this boyfriend or the next. At that point, she can either have sex with him (without the worrying of breaking up, since he's the right one for her) or wait until they are married.

You see the problem is girls just want to have sex, regardless of who it is. I think we should all wait until we meet the right person. That way, there is no worry of "what if we break up" and in my opinion, if you have sex before marriage, I consider it okay, because it's with who you love and will eventually marry.

[RareChik]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

So do you think that this is right: the girl is in a serious relationship 4 a long time...and does want to have sex but shes afraid that if she does an then lets say they break up then she's not a virgin nemore..so she thinks that no other guy is gna want her (armenian neway)...and for this reason she doesnt have sex with her bf...do u think that this kind of mentality is right or a healthy one?

[One-Way]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

Nope.

[RareChik]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

would u consider the girl a xxxx is she didnt wait until marriage ...but she was in a serious relationship...in love(real love) and theyve been together for years or even 1 or 2?

[One-Way]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

Well, it's obvious, if one wants to have sex and the other doesn't, they should realize they need to wait because one of them doesn't wish to have sex.

[RareChik]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

Let me paint you a little picture to make this easier.

The boy says, let's have sex. So what your saying is, if they love each other, they should do it. If the girl says, no, I'm waiting for marriage, then they should wait. If the guy loves her enough, he'd choose LOVE over SEX. If the girl doesn't care about waiting and knows she'll end up with him and may as well have sex, then they can do as they wish.

No. those r not my words...im only asking about ur statment when you said If 2 ppl love each other then then the other half should do what the other one suggests.

"So what your saying is, if they love each other,"

I am not saying nething...I asked u about ur statement

unless ur statment is just reffered to the girl or the guy suggesting they wait...it just sounded general..thats y i asked u that

[One-Way]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

"If two people love each other, they will do whatever their other half suggets."

Do you think if the other half suggests that they should have sex, then they should do it?

Let me paint you a little picture to make this easier.

The boy says, let's have sex. So what your saying is, if they love each other, they should do it. If the girl says, no, I'm waiting for marriage, then they should wait. If the guy loves her enough, he'd choose LOVE over SEX. If the girl doesn't care about waiting and knows she'll end up with him and may as well have sex, then they can do as they wish.

[RareChik]

Re: Armenians and sex: what's your opinion?

"If two people love each other, they will do whatever their other half suggets."

Do you think if the other half suggests that they should have sex, then they should do it?