Alright to be shy?

[!EEK]

hummmm... you turn red cuz you probably have a fair/light skin, so do I and I do turn red from time to time hehe but it's not that bad EEK, most people think it's cute Alrighty, now a suggestion... GET A TAN, then you won't be as red and will be more confident to talk to people (if turning red is your main concern)

I have a rather bright skin but turning red is one of my concerns. All in all it's shyness! My voice is trembling sometimes when I'm talking to persons like one on one with teachers/nice stranger girls/etc...


About my voice trembling... When I had the first part of my BAC (It's sort of a big exam to get to enter in universities), I had to pass my Oral French which consists at reviewing poems/texts of famous french authors. I swear, when I talked to the unknown teacher, it was like if I was going to cry. I think she taught I was going to cry and gave me a 15/20...I'm happy but I don't think it is thanks my explanations because I don't rmemeber saying anything really intelligent..it's just she thought I was emotionally unstable.

Anyway, I won't whine about it..

[CatWoman]

My voice is trembling sometimes when I'm talking to persons like one on one with teachers/nice stranger girls/etc...


About my voice trembling... When I had the first part of my BAC (It's sort of a big exam to get to enter in universities), I had to pass my Oral French which consists at reviewing poems/texts of famous french authors. I swear, when I talked to the unknown teacher, it was like if I was going to cry. I think she taught I was going to cry and gave me a 15/20...I'm happy but I don't think it is thanks my explanations because I don't rmemeber saying anything really intelligent..it's just she thought I was emotionally unstable.

Anyway, I won't whine about it..

awwwwwww so cute I don't know about talking to people one on one, but the fear of public speaking is normal. You should have seen me when I gave my first speech no, actually I'm glad you didn't! However, later on in life (graduate school/career) you're gunna have to give out speeches to an audience of 40+ people, what do you plan on doing? faint? You have to overcome those fears one way or another, seriously cuz effective communication is a key to success, and you can't communicate your ideas effectively if you're that terrified.

[Thai-Samurai]

Yeah imagien that 40 or MORE people. Your graduate career. Your whole life, in front of 40 OR MORE people. You have to give speeches, for GRADUATION.

[thedebutante]

Thanks goey but how do I do when my face is getting red? People notice that kind of stuff. At least when my hearth is beating at 120mph, it often does not show up.......... pfff with all these emotions I'll die at the age of 30

K, eek, buddy, your main problem is not that you're shy. Stop whining and stop saying pfff. This should solve most of your problems.

I know that you claim to be shy in most aspects of your life. But some of the examples you gave do not really support your claim. For instance, you mentioned the thing about taking notes and how it's easier for you to just look at a classmate's notes as opposed to asking the teacher to hold off on erasing the board. That's a matter of convenience. Then you mentioned your exam. You were just nervous that's all. So let's just narrow your shyness to social situations.
Here are some steps to approaching a girl, I'm sure that there will be a general consensus here.

Approaching a girl (tailored to fit the demands of our very own eeeeek):

1. Make eye contact
2. Move to step 3 if she notices it. Leave her alone if she doesn't (or pretends not to).
3. Smile
4. Move to step 5 if she smiles back. Leave her alone if she doesn't.
5. Keep smiling and walk toward her.
6. Move to step 7 if she's still smiling and looks interested. Say "hey" and keep walking if she's not.
7. Introduce yourself and start a little chit chat. You said that you are shy, not incapable of flirting!

[ckBejug]

....etc

Approaching a girl (tailored to fit the demands of our very own eeeeek):

1. Make eye contact
2. Move to step 3 if she notices it. Leave her alone if she doesn't (or pretends not to).
3. Smile
4. Move to step 5 if she smiles back. Leave her alone if she doesn't.
5. Keep smiling and walk toward her.
6. Move to step 7 if she's still smiling and looks interested. Say "hey" and keep walking if she's not.
7. Introduce yourself and start a little chit chat. You said that you are shy, not incapable of flirting!

THANK YOU. Now if all guys would just take this little bitty list and memorize it, please? Thanks!

[dstyle]

THANK YOU. Now if all guys would just take this little bitty list and memorize it, please? Thanks!

Easier said then done hehe.

[!EEK]

Ok I'll stop saying "pffffff"...and ye, I would probably faint before doing my speech. No I think I'll survive it...at school we often use to present articles/text/poems in front of the class.. I don't faint but then again we're 8

[Anonymouse]

EEK I'm reading your posts and others here, and I'm wondering, do you have negative beliefs about approaching women? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? I think this depends on what you're looking for. Are you looking for hook ups, sex, casual dating? Or are you looking for a relationship? Figure that out and the rest is history. The point is no one cares if you can approach women, get any woman you want, any number, go on many dates. You aren't supposed to prove anything to anyone, except yourself that you can do it. Block off the rest of the world.

However, the advice I gave you, doesn't matter if it's for mere hook-ups or relationships. The key is to break the ice with girls, to break the shyness, to approach, but in a unique way that will make you stand out from other guys. That is all this concerns itself with. This is merely showing you the way, it doesn't answer as to what you will pursue. What you wanna be interested in is creating the powerful force known as attraction. It is with attraction that a girl will melt in your arms and do anything as long as its with you, because you have made her feel that comfort, that power of attraction. Then it won't matter what you do or where you go, so long as she is with you, is all that will matter. Most guys worry about taking a girl to places or this or that or if she asks "so what do you wanna do?" guys reply "whatever you wanna do". Such things throw them off, for they show to them that you aren't taking charge of the situation. If you have made her feel that attraction toward you, then it wont matter what you do or where you take her, so long as she is with you.

You don't need to 30 to know this. Don't believe the shyt others tell you. You get out and practice now. Dude, just get out of your house and just "Hi" to random chicks. Don't hook up or ask for their numbers. Just say "Hi", and try to say "Hi" to at least 10 random girls a day to break the ice. Then follow up.

[XxgoeyxX]

Eek: Being called a "little pumpkin" by a girl doesnt help in the shyness department

Your just jealous. Plus it just fun calling him that.....and if he doesnt like it, then I will stop. SOOWWWIIEE !eek my little pumpkin!...hehee

But anyways to help you with the shyness thing I will stop. Im sure its getting on your nerves. BTW listen to anonys last long post. He said a lot of things you should listen too.

[spiral]

What you wanna be interested in is creating the powerful force known as attraction. It is with attraction that a girl will melt in your arms and do anything as long as its with you, because you have made her feel that comfort, that power of attraction. Then it won't matter what you do or where you go, so long as she is with you, is all that will matter. Most guys worry about taking a girl to places or this or that or if she asks "so what do you wanna do?" guys reply "whatever you wanna do".

Ahh the Jungle Book.



Baloo: “So, whatchu wanna do?”

Mowgli:"ai don’t know, whatchu wanna do?”

Baloo: I-dunno, whatchu wanna do?”

Mowgli-I-dunno, whatchu wanna do?

Baloo: I-dunno, whatchu wanna do?”

Mowgli: I-dunno, whatchu wanna do?