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Re: Armenian lesbians/gays
"According to ADandelion above the very basic in us; human beings is; sex and sex organs the rest of our belongings are secondary things. "
Missed addressing this the first time around. I'm not saying that the drive for sex is the foundation off of which everything is built, or the number one priority for us to consider when making decisions.
I'm saying it's a basic component of the human psyche. It's as primal and instinctual as the love for one's child, or the desire to protect one's family, or jealousy, or the appreciation of music... Telling people that it's abnormal to want to have sex is the equivalent of telling people it's abnormal for them to love their siblings.
Also, there is a big difference between acknowledging one's desire and acting on it. I believe that by acknowledging and accepting sex drive, we demystify it and allow people to have a much healthier and controlled regard for their own sexuality. People can then choose to remain chaste until marriage, or to have sex with their partner out of wedlock - but they can do so not as a backlash from fear and lack of information, but as a deliberate and healthy choice of which they can understand the consequences and be able to deal with the repercussions.
On the whole question of homosexuality, I ask that the straight reader imagines this: imagine that you male and born into a world where you must marry your own gender. Where as a straight man in a gay world, the idea of being with a man fills you with revulsion. You cannot fall in love with a man, sleep with a man, becasue you are hard-wired to love women. You can't answer the question of when you 'knew' you were straight - it's just something you have always been, since birth.
You spend your whole life trying to live up to this expectation. Hiding your tastes, mannerisms, feelings, your very sense of self. And then you meet a kind, intelligent, beautiful woman that you want to share your life with. And then you come to realize that everyone you know and love would never see you the same way again, would pity you and be disgusted with you, if you try to approach this woman. It eats you alive, from the inside out, as you're burned by the very skin you wear.
And so goes on the rest of your life. Now I ask you, what kind of a life is that to live? And what compassion is there for endorsing or encouraging that?
"According to ADandelion above the very basic in us; human beings is; sex and sex organs the rest of our belongings are secondary things. "
Missed addressing this the first time around. I'm not saying that the drive for sex is the foundation off of which everything is built, or the number one priority for us to consider when making decisions.
I'm saying it's a basic component of the human psyche. It's as primal and instinctual as the love for one's child, or the desire to protect one's family, or jealousy, or the appreciation of music... Telling people that it's abnormal to want to have sex is the equivalent of telling people it's abnormal for them to love their siblings.
Also, there is a big difference between acknowledging one's desire and acting on it. I believe that by acknowledging and accepting sex drive, we demystify it and allow people to have a much healthier and controlled regard for their own sexuality. People can then choose to remain chaste until marriage, or to have sex with their partner out of wedlock - but they can do so not as a backlash from fear and lack of information, but as a deliberate and healthy choice of which they can understand the consequences and be able to deal with the repercussions.
On the whole question of homosexuality, I ask that the straight reader imagines this: imagine that you male and born into a world where you must marry your own gender. Where as a straight man in a gay world, the idea of being with a man fills you with revulsion. You cannot fall in love with a man, sleep with a man, becasue you are hard-wired to love women. You can't answer the question of when you 'knew' you were straight - it's just something you have always been, since birth.
You spend your whole life trying to live up to this expectation. Hiding your tastes, mannerisms, feelings, your very sense of self. And then you meet a kind, intelligent, beautiful woman that you want to share your life with. And then you come to realize that everyone you know and love would never see you the same way again, would pity you and be disgusted with you, if you try to approach this woman. It eats you alive, from the inside out, as you're burned by the very skin you wear.
And so goes on the rest of your life. Now I ask you, what kind of a life is that to live? And what compassion is there for endorsing or encouraging that?
Where is the giant barf smilie when you need it? 
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